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I am 5 months post-op and have been seeing this guy for the last 6 months and just recently in the last 2 weeks he has become shady and not himself.. today while I dinner with my parents he told me I looked like a hooker and that he doesn’t like all the attention I get now... I am feeling insecure about myself and my relationship with him... can anyone help with this topic? I just feel lost and alone..

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I just feel like I’m never going to find someone now... feel hopeless :-/

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36 minutes ago, lex2287 said:

I just feel like I’m never going to find someone now... feel hopeless :-/

And that's how he wants you to feel. Like you can't do any better. You can! Don't settle for someone who's not happy about the positive steps you're taking with your life!

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It's a trap. He doesn't want you to feel confident about yourself so you cling to him. Wouldn't be surprised if he had tried to sabotage your progress. You will find someone else. The first person you need to find is you!! Confidence is a aphrodisiac, you will have to beat them off with a stick!!!

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Thank you. I was feeling good about myself until he started acting the way he is... he hasn’t tried to sabotage my weight loss just makes fun of me for exercising and eating healthy. I just don’t feel pretty now.

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12 minutes ago, lex2287 said:

he hasn’t tried to sabotage my weight loss just makes fun of me for exercising and eating healthy.

That, right there, is a form of mental sabotage. Trying to make you give up on it is just as bad, if not worse, than... I don't know, substituting high-calorie versions of your healthy foods without you knowing.

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Thank you all for reaching out... I just hope one day someone will treat me as good as I do them..

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You’re beautiful and strong and you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. This is a happy time for you and don’t let some jerk ruin it. You can find someone way better and you’ll be happier. Listen to your heart. You got this!


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Thank you. If I could move to the beach and find a cowboy there, I would be set! Lol

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Thank you. If I could move to the beach and find a cowboy there, I would be set! Lol

That sounds like a lovely plan! Lol. Positivity all the way it helps a lot!


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Lol.. I just need to leave everything to God. But thank you all.. I love every single one of you!

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3 hours ago, lex2287 said:

I am 5 months post-op and have been seeing this guy for the last 6 months and just recently in the last 2 weeks he has become shady and not himself.. today while I dinner with my parents he told me I looked like a hooker and that he doesn’t like all the attention I get now... I am feeling insecure about myself and my relationship with him... can anyone help with this topic? I just feel lost and alone..

wow i am going straight out to the end of the pier and jumping in the deep end here.

any man that says that to a women is no man you need to be with.

insecure, controlling and not what you need in your life right now.

drop him yesterday

ok all done

good luck

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I know... easier said than done... I’m emotionally invested and it sucks... my last boyfriend said I was repulsive so comments like those make me wonder if there is something wrong with me.. :-/ I just hope there’s someone better out there for me...

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