I hate it when people post just to post.....

[tapshoes 2]

Kids are mercenary - get them where it hurts!

When I was in my 'too young to get a real job so I was the babysitter for the neighborhood' years, I was asked to look after two 'devil-spawn' boys...they were mouthy, bratty children who lied about everything, stole from parents, from visitors...it would be difficult to find something positive to say about them. Babysitting them was a real challenge (I was 14/15yo at the time, and they were 8/10). However it was with them that I perfected the 'mean what you say and hold firm' stance...one their parents never learned! One Sat night before agreeing to babysit, I told the parents I had had enough; it was time for new rules while I was in charge. I told them what I was going to do, and they agreed (they really wanted to get out that night I guess). So, when I went into the house that night, and in front of the parents, told them for every act of disobedience or rudeness, one possession of MY choosing was going to be taken and given to Goodwill...no second chances, no negotiation, no trades, no giving them back later etc. I outlined the core tenants of respectful behavor (if it isn't yours, don't touch; yelling is not allowed, etc). They didn't believe me...it only took half a dozen items to be taken before they changed. And they did NOT get the stuff back; they were NOT just put aside. I took them home with me, and donated them as I had said. They HATED me that night (and the language was enough to stand my hair on end - which of course meant another item taken), but oddly enough I never had a problem with them after.

[Brandy~ 2]

I don't care about controversy or public opinion. They are NOT adults, and as such, are not afforded the same privacy that adults are. They are our responsibility, but society tries to hold us accountable for what they do yet tie our hands in how to do it. This mama never played that game.

I would do backpack checks, room checks, checking in with teachers, etc. She was not allowed on the internet in my house except for school, and in the end I found out she was accessing it at friends' houses. One mother even came to me with a bill where our daughters had gotten those "free" cd's in the mail for so many minutes of internet use, but once the time is up it charges to your phone bill. She tried to tell me I owed a couple hundred dollars for that and I said sorry, not my problem. My daughter isn't allowed on the internet in my home. If you aren't watching what they are doing in yours, it's certainly not my problem.

I agree with you 100% I just was trying to avoid the attacks I might get lol.

[BethFromVA 5]

I agree with you 100% I just was trying to avoid the attacks I might get lol.

Hehe, I know. I just never cared. :tt2:

I would tell DD, I birthed you, I raised you, I pay for you, I'm not having the government or anybody else telling me how to handle you.

[LilMissDiva Irene 3,281]

Now we just need PATTYs opinion.

Nooo!! You can't say that name in here... unless you turn off the light and light some candles in the Bathroom. Then you say it three times in the mirror.

:tt2:

[Brandy~ 2]

Nooo!! You can't say that name in here... unless you turn off the light and light some candles in the Bathroom. Then you say it three times in the mirror.

:tt2:

Somehow I haven't managed to tick her off yet. I hear it's quite entertaining.

[Gone4Now 4]

Kat, your youngest sounds a lot like my DD. Actually, I think DD is a little bit your youngest, and now turning into a little bit of your oldest! :tt2:

I've tried to take her "stuff" away and she just shrugs and goes, "Okay." Nothing got to her...Until last month she lost her phone privelage and she actually cried. She's not BAD, just becoming more aloof and sometimes too sassy for her own good.

I love the idea of the keystroke thing...where do I get one?

A couple months ago, she was crying in her room and she texted me asking if she could talk to me. (snort - texting me from the fricken bedroom...)

But, she had taken the computer while I wasn't there and looked up sex. And, of course, when you do that all kinds of porn pictures and pop-ups happen. I was stupidly naive thinking I didn't need the parental guards.

She was crying and shaking and said she broke the computer because instead of coming to me, she decided to delete her user account. But, she's not an admin, so she could only delete part of it and all her iTunes got wiped out. (ha ha ha...)

So, we talked about sex and I put in the rules for the computer, and the parental guides (which irritate me because it slows my computer down!)

[Ceradad 10]

Hehe, I know. I just never cared. :tt2:

I would tell DD, I birthed you, I raised you, I pay for you, I'm not having the government or anybody else telling me how to handle you.

I'm not going back through the whole thing to find the original post on this topic. Just thought I would share what my mom always told me growing up. She would tell me "I don't care how tall/big you get. You'll never be too big for me to step on a chair to knock you down."

I stopped growing taller at 16 @ 6' 3". I graduated hs @ 250. I believed her every time she said it. And she is only 5'6".

[Brandy~ 2]

Jeez Ceradad... I am arm rest for you... 6' 3" LOL

[Ceradad 10]

Jeez Ceradad... I am arm rest for you... 6' 3" LOL

I like short girls.:tt2:

[BethFromVA 5]

Nooo!! You can't say that name in here... unless you turn off the light and light some candles in the Bathroom.:tt2:

I thought you do that if you had a stinky... ah, I get it.

[BethFromVA 5]

I like short girls.:tt2:

I like tall guys! I'm only 5'7".

[Gone4Now 4]

I had a friend in high school that, eye-to-eye was a little shorter than I am and I'm 5'5"....but for every "how tall are you" question, she'd put 5'6". To this day she still puts that (you know those emails that go around...she still putting that.)

I'm not sure why that always bothered me...it's only one inch - but dang it! She wasn't 5'6".

[luluc 6]

I'm not going back through the whole thing to find the original post on this topic. Just thought I would share what my mom always told me growing up. She would tell me "I don't care how tall/big you get. You'll never be too big for me to step on a chair to knock you down."

I stopped growing taller at 16 @ 6' 3". I graduated hs @ 250. I believed her every time she said it. And she is only 5'6".:tt2:

HA!

my brothers and i had one rule really growing up - don't pop off to mom or dad would pop you. needless to say, no one talked smack to mom - EVER...

ps - LOVE 6'3 men (dh is one:wub:)......

[DivaStyleCoach 89]

I'm not going back through the whole thing to find the original post on this topic. Just thought I would share what my mom always told me growing up. She would tell me "I don't care how tall/big you get. You'll never be too big for me to step on a chair to knock you down."

I stopped growing taller at 16 @ 6' 3". I graduated hs @ 250. I believed her every time she said it. And she is only 5'6".:tt2:

Oh how I can relate to this...my mom was 5'4" on a tall day, and regularly told my brother (at 6'1"), my nephew (6'0") and me (5'11") that she would cold-cock any of us that gave her lip.

She intimidated my hubby - he's 6'3", 300lbs, and a powerlifter - and he didn't give her any lip either!

Now me, I LIKE tall guys too (example 1 - my DH)...:wub:

[*slim* 2]

Let's see if I can do this from memory.

I have parental controls on the computer (got them before DS even started using the computer). I have all chat blocked. I have parental controls on the cell phone (thank you at&t).

My mom isn't 5ft (even though she has claimed it for years), but she always had my respectful fear of her. I think because I had heard all of the stories of my grandmother (taking a broom to them) that I figured my mom already had all of the good ideas for beating me. I didn't want to chance it. Our biggest problem was she didn't talk to me about sex (something else she learned from her mother). I had to learn that one on my own. Needless to say, she was not happy with that. I have already had some talks with DS (he is 11 already starting puberty). I have been talking to him on a level that I felt he could understand since he was old enough to ask about the differences in moms and dads. He gets very embarrassed when we have those talks.

I tall guys. I am 5ft 1.5 (on a good day:blush:). DH is somewhere between 6ft3 and 6ft4. I have always gone for the guys that I almost have to stand on a stool to kiss.:tt2: