Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Who will like me skinny??



Recommended Posts

My surgery was on 2/12. I have been taking time off from dating to focus on myself. I think it would be better to wait until I'm at least at my goal weight. I am concerned what kind of guys will be into me when I am skinny though. I haven't ever been small. The men who usually hit on me say they like curvy women... what if they don't like me when I am 148 lbs.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
10 minutes ago, BrittneyH said:

My surgery was on 2/12. I have been taking time off from dating to focus on myself. I think it would be better to wait until I'm at least at my goal weight. I am concerned what kind of guys will be into me when I am skinny though. I haven't ever been small. The men who usually hit on me say they like curvy women... what if they don't like me when I am 148 lbs.

lol never heard this kinda concern . you will deffo hav your pick ,more options. can you explain your concern for simpletons . like me .. im enjoying datin now

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Maybe I am worried that the men who will like me are dirt bags who only like skinny girls. At least now I am not concerned because I know they don't mine extra weight on me.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
2 minutes ago, BrittneyH said:

Maybe I am worried that the men who will like me are dirt bags who only like skinny girls. At least now I am not concerned because I know they don't mine extra weight on me.

dirt bags like fat girls too. yeah there people who prefer smaller women which i dont mind :P

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
58 minutes ago, BrittneyH said:

My surgery was on 2/12. I have been taking time off from dating to focus on myself. I think it would be better to wait until I'm at least at my goal weight. I am concerned what kind of guys will be into me when I am skinny though. I haven't ever been small. The men who usually hit on me say they like curvy women... what if they don't like me when I am 148 lbs.

More important to find a good man that treats you well and likes you at whatever size you are. That size is going to change rapidly.

Something to think about.....

Will you be attracted to the same type of men? Will your preferences in men change as you lose weight? What type of men will you have things in common with once you are 148?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
2 minutes ago, jenn1 said:

More important to find a good man that treats you well and likes you at any size.

Something to think about.....

Will you be attracted to the same type of men? Will your preferences in men change as you lose weight? What type of men will you have things in common with once you are 148?

I dont like people at any size. That doesn't mean im not a good person. someone 400lbs is not what I am attracted too sexually or any other way , i am still a good person and treat everyone well just not my type the whole " find someone who would like you at any size makes me laugh , we all have a certain thing that may attract us even if we are open to all people. some men like all sizes sure, but their is nothing wrong with a man that prefers a 130 over 250 or the other way , people think a guy who liks 250 girl is some how less shallow but people dont realise that alot of the time its jut were his sexual attraction lies, which is no harm but swap it round to i prefer slim girls and people get called shallow but its okay if people prefer fat girls lol

but your right since being not super obese my standards are higher and the men who are attracted to me are slim work out etc, its not something im used too. slimmer women had always been attracted to me at any size how ever which is interesting.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I have always liked skinny guys but don't mind some meat either. I didn't think about if my taste will change! I can't imagine it would. I hope my confidence will tho! Right now I just assume I am a certain type, like I will only look good with guys my size.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Just now, BrittneyH said:

I have always liked skinny guys but don't mind some meat either. I didn't think about if my taste will change! I can't imagine it would. I hope my confidence will tho! Right now I just assume I am a certain type, like I will only look good with guys my size.

Just you wait girl, its amazing and overwhelming the amount of attention that happens ( well from my experience) dont worry too much what will happen will happen just continue with openmindedness :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I get hit on online easily but rarely if ever in person. Maybe I don't notice. IDK. I am hoping when I loose the weight I will at least notice it... because I know I am not ugly.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
3 minutes ago, dreamingsmall said:

I dont like people at any size. That doesn't mean im not a good person. someone 400lbs is not what I am attracted too sexually or any other way , i am still a good person and treat everyone well just not my type the whole " find someone who would like you at any size makes me laugh , we all have a certain thing that may attract us even if we are open to all people. some men like all sizes sure, but their is nothing wrong with a man that prefers a 130 over 250 or the other way , people think a guy who liks 250 girl is some how less shallow but people dont realise that alot of the time its jut were his sexual attraction lies, which is no harm but swap it round to i prefer slim girls and people get called shallow but its okay if people prefer fat girls lol

but your right since being not super obese my standards are higher and the men who are attracted to me are slim work out etc, its not something im used too. slimmer women had always been attracted to me at any size how ever which is interesting.

You said That doesn't mean i'm not a good person *laughing* WTF??? Never said you were not a good person...?????

You said "find someone who would like you at any size makes me laugh." I can rephrase it if this helps - " find someone who is attracted to " whatever size you currently are" Because that size is going to change rapidly.

I'm confused. How did being shallow have anything to do with this. *laughing*

We are attracted to who we are attracted to.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
2 minutes ago, jenn1 said:

You said That doesn't mean i'm not a good person *laughing* WTF??? Never said you were not a good person...?????

You said "find someone who would like you at any size makes me laugh." I can rephrase it if this helps - " find someone who is attracted to " whatever size you currently are" Because that size is going to change rapidly.

I'm confused. How did being shallow have anything to do with this. *laughing*

We are attracted to who we are attracted to.

Whatever size you currently are, isn't the same as loves you at any size lol. i mis understood what you meant . Apologies.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

This is a bizarre question to me.

I really don't understand superficiality. I don't consider other people to be meat. Or sex puppets. That's the most simplistic silly view I can imagine, and I wouldn't want to live a life so limited.

The most attraction I've ever felt for people in my life has been based on their minds, their creativity, their passion, their confidence, their sex appeal, their kindness, humor, decency.

I can find about anyone incredibly attractive. Seriously. Physicality is insanely diverse. If you're limiting yourself to any particular type, you're missing out.

I can find about anyone incredibly appealing. IF their mind is outstanding, if their ability to express themselves is immaculate, if we have commonality and trust.

Finding someone with an amazing mind is so much harder than finding someone with an amazing body. Amazing bodies are a dime a dozen.

So much of our perception of what's attractive...is informed by the people we are most impressed by and feel love and trust for.

Edited by Creekimp13

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
1 minute ago, Creekimp13 said:

This is a bizarre question to me.

I really don't understand superficiality. I don't consider other people meat. Or sex puppets. That's the most simplistic silly view I can imagine, and I wouldn't want to live a life so limited.

The most attraction I've ever felt for people in my life has been based on their minds, their creativity, their passion, their confidence, their sex appeal, their kindness, humor, decency.

I can find about anyone incredibly attractive. Seriously. Physicality is insanely diverse. If you're limiting yourself to any particular type, you're missing out.

I can find about anyone incredibly appealing. IF their mind is outstanding, if their ability to express themselves is immaculate, if we have commonality and trust.

Finding someone with an amazing mind is so much harder than finding someone with an amazing body. Amazing bodies are a dime a dozen.

So much of our perception of what's attractive...is informed by the people we are most impressed by and feel love and trust for.

Love this!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Just now, Creekimp13 said:

This is a bizarre question to me.

I really don't understand superficiality. I don't consider other people meat. Or sex puppets. That's the most simplistic silly view I can imagine, and I wouldn't want to live a life so limited.

The most attraction I've ever felt for people in my life has been based on their minds, their creativity, their passion, their confidence, their sex appeal, their kindness, humor, decency.

I can find about anyone incredibly attractive. Seriously. Physicality is insanely diverse. If you're limiting yourself to any particular type, you're missing out.

I can find about anyone incredibly appealing. IF their mind is outstanding, if their ability to express themselves is immaculate, if we have commonality and trust.

Finding someone with an amazing mind is so much harder than finding someone with an amazing body. Amazing bodies are a dime a dozen.

So much of our perception of what's attractive...is informed by the people we are most impressed by and feel love and trust for.

See, I am similar to you but i just know sexual attractiveness i have my limits, please dont be offended all that in mind can you be sexually attracted to someone who is 500lbs? i am only curious, I consider my self demisexual so i am not sexually atraccted till i know more about someone their mind, their life etc, i need more, but i just know i have my limits. I accept it could be making me lose out on a 500lb man/woman of a life time. I am willing to take that risk. the same way people dont date people with any kind of disability as it is not attractive to them. Im pretty cool lol they are missing out but i dont mind lol

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I was married when i was 20. I am divorced now( way before surgery, and i admit I may just want to experience some amazing sex with someone hot for the moment lol not one night stand as in in a relationship , i cant say i was that sexually attracted to my husband , sometimes personality is not enough

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Featured Surgeons

    1. Masoud Rezvani

      Woodbridge, Virginia 22191

    2. Lisa Medvetz

      Downingtown, Pennsylvania 19335
      800-282-0066

  • Recent Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • boringtessa

      Thought I'd give an update.  I'm over half way to my goal, which is awesome, and I've lost over 12 inches in my waist!  The weight isn't coming off as quickly as I had hoped, but I am also not exercising and still not getting even close to the amount of water I should be drinking, so slow weight loss is not all that surprising.  Sometimes I'm just "over it" and try to eat huge portions like I used to, but, thankfully, I feel the restriction of my smaller stomach and can't go crazy.  In general, I'm quite good, just trying to live my life.
      I now have a motivation to start exercising, though... I booked a plane ticket to Germany for the end of September, so this is a good chance to get strong, get hydrated, and reach my weight goal.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Liz The New Me

      Wow looking through my own eyes I just don't see 50 lbs done.  I took the side my side picture from 4 months ago to today's and can only see some change.  I hope I can keep loosing.  I just read that the window or the honeymoon stage of weight lost is in the first 4 months after that it will slow down and you have to work even harder to keep it going.  Trying to keep positive even if it is one pound I lost in 2 weeks.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Anniejs

      So I had my surgery on Jan 7th. At this point I haven't eaten anything for 2 weeks am giving myself my injections. I can barely stomach the protein shakes that I am to have twice a day. I have noticed a small weight loss not as much as I thought I would have since I haven't eaten anything. I haven't started working out at the gym yet. I broke in a horrible case of hives from my incisions but have since been cleared up. I didn't really have any nausea from my surgery. I don't even feel like I had surgery. I am sure once I start eating  I will notice. To ask others. I have sleeve surgery so wondering if anyone else out there had this surgery how did you feel after. When did you start eating foods. I am nervous to start eating. I drink my 64oz plus water a day but that's about it that I am taking in other than the occasional sugar free Popsicle.  
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • GreenTealael

      #WORTHY

      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • GreenTealael

      ❤ Have you taken your supplements today? ❤
       
      · 1 reply
      1. Missouri-Lee's Summit

        In the beginning, I was sure that I would go straight to malnutrition hell if I missed even a dose. Turns out, it takes several weeks to months to get yourself in any substantial trouble. My excellent labwork has proven to me that it's not just okay to skip (out of laziness or accidentally) your supplements, but it probably saves you a couple of bucks here and there. Mellow out is my new mantra. Go the best you can with hydration, protein, and your recommended supplements. Trying to live a stress-free life is infinitely more important than your supplements for any given day. (None of this little blabfest was intended for the lovely and ever-knowledgable GT.)

  • Trending Topics

  • Magazine Articles

    1. How to Tell Your Loved Ones about Weight Loss Surgery

      Posted in: Pre-Op Support
      Alex Brecher
    2. New Year’s Resolutions

      Posted in: Support
      Alex Brecher
    3. Go With Your Gut!

      Posted in: Mental Health
      Louisa Latela, LCSW, LCADC
    4. The Most Wonderful Time of the Year – Really!

      Posted in: Post-Op Support
      Alex Brecher
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs
    ×