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3 days later are approved for or got WLS. :angry:

As someone who is on the straight and narrow and keeps having her expectations and potential surgery dates extended and jacked with...I'm highly jealous, envious, now downright cranky at the injustice of "life." *pouts*

The. End.

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Not laughing at you, but with you - love cranky sarcasm....😘 Hang in there buddy.

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Hahaha! Thanks for making me laugh guys. Dayum, I annoy myself so badly for whining about this. It's not as if a LOT of us aren't or haven't been in the same boat. I know it's standard to have a 6 month medical weight loss prior to surgery.

This issue for me is my personality type and dealing with changes. Since I went into it with the doc telling me 3 months, then having the insurance denial at Christmas and being told nah, it's actually 6 months. Then being corrected by the RD that it's actually 7 months since the 1st consult doesn't count as a visit...THENNNN being told by the doc that she didn't think I'd get approval in time to have surgery in March and that it would actually be April before I would have surgery...IF they approve me at all.

Ughhh! It's just hard to change so quickly and maintain a positive outlook and believe that I haven't just spent 7 months wasting time. I've been in basically a 6 month stall cuz the doc wanted me eating 1500cals--which is great for maintenance. TY thyroid meds, cuz I used to gain weight on 1200cals. So grateful that my maintenance is somewhere around 1400-1500. But if I went down to 850-900 cals, I would have had 6 months of losses.

It would have been a ton easier to have just been told at the start that this was going to take 7 months...I would of sucked it up and gone with the plan.

So it's hard to not feel jealous of the lucky individuals who go in to "talk to the doc about WLS" and 2 days later are approved and a week later are on the table...it's very hard to not feel aggravated at my own reality. Even though 6 months is a standard time frame for pre op duty. I'm still thrilled for them. And excited on their behalf! But part of me wants to shoot them down with my sonic death ray from Mars, too. Does that make any sense?

Or am I just sick?

Edited by FluffyChix

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This made me smile. I was very irritated that I have to do the 6 month physician approved diet. One of the main reasons, I am doing this is because I need a total hip replacement now. I have been through 6 months of shots in the hip while i try to lose weight as I trained to walk the 60 mile SGK 3 day. I understand that this is normal for my insurance to request this but is it better for my overall health when some days I am in pain just sitting? I will suck it up and do it but you can't make me like it! :P

Who am I kidding? I am going to have to like it because this will be my new lifestyle. On the positive side, I will use this 6 months to wean myself off of diet mt. dew and coffee. As Grandma always said, "This too shall pass and it will make you stronger."

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Take out a loan? Bada-bing bada-boom. [emoji389][emoji389][emoji389]

You should be happy you’re already like half way there even without surgery, that takes some serious work.


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So quit yammerin' on and whinin' huh? ;) :D

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On ‎2018‎-‎01‎-‎20 at 10:52 AM, FluffyChix said:

It would have been a ton easier to have just been told at the start that this was going to take 7 months...I would of sucked it up and gone with the plan.

I hear you! My problem is, my SIL who had WLS a couple of years ago through the same hospital where I'm going told me to expect it to take two years from intake to surgery. (I'm in Canada... elective surgeries always take longer). I didn't want to believe her, but the longer I go the more I'm expecting that she's right. It's been a year since I first talked to my GP doc about a referral to the bariatric clinic and I feel like I'm languishing in this limbo state of frustration. I have an appointment each month with a different member of my team (nutritionist, surgeon, mental health, my assigned nurse) but I feel like I'm just treading Water. I *think* I will get to sign my paperwork with the surgeon in April or May, and then it's just waiting for a date, which can take up to a year.

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Awww hon! That's just sucky! Limbo sucks (even though the music is great). Just hang in there and keep swimming. Ok? ((hugs)) Saying prayers you get a date in April!!!

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