Feel like a liar

[Missy161 395]

You sound a lot like me. I told only a few people- not all of my immediate family. In my fam only my hubby and one of my children know. At work I have told my boss and a couple of folks that I know struggle with weight- I didn't want to feel like a liar or like I was bragging.
But I do want to encourage people I know struggle with weight.
I just tell myself it's really no ones business but mine so who I share it with is also my business!



Mich W
Hw 223, SW 217 CW 172.8 GW 135

[Sullie06 1,013]

10 hours ago, ShelbyMoore said:

I have chosen not to tell anyone except my husband and he respects my decision and I know won’t say anything.

I’m a very private person and would never dream of telling others about any medical procedure I’ve had. I also don’t share general personal stuff either. In this forum is the only place I talk about it. It’s a safe place with lots of support and no judging.

I’ve had a few people at work comment on my weight loss saying I’m looking good.. They asked how I’m doing it. My reply is that I’ve increased my Protein, no more bread, Pasta, rice, no more sugar (I quit sugar about 6 months ago) and I’m exercising more. All of that is the truth. I don’t feel I’m lying.

My sister had the sleeve done about 5 years ago. She told many people. Some told her it’s an easy way to lose weight and one person actually told her she would die from the surgery a few years down the road. I was appalled. Of course, she became worried. She told me she wished she had kept it private.

I have a friend who was sleeved who told her co-workers. She too was judged and wished she hadn’t told.

I also hear about many who share their surgery experience and have had no issues with doing that.

I think if you decide to share just be prepared for possible negative comments. Many can brush them off and let it go. Some have a more difficult time.

It’s a personal choice of whether to tell others. I wish you the best in your journey and much success. Enjoy the process as you gradually slim down.

My brother in law was referred to have Gastric By-Pass by his doctor. He's about 5'9", weights about 350, is diabetic and is disabled. He's had back surgery, needs a total hip replacement and is only 33 years old. When he told me that, I said you should do it, it will be life changing. He says "I'm going to wait a few years to see if you croak from your surgery before I even consider it." Gee.... thanks brother. He also continuously mentions how I've lost to much weight and that if I'm not careful I will die.

[Iconcinnity 209]

Nop... Creekimp13, my doctor never talked to me about it, and when I told her about the surgery she was not too happy.
Also, when I come back to give her the sample letter for medical necessities, she told me that she would write the letter but I wouldn’t qualify for the surgery.
So, for her I am wasting my time...

Consider finding a new doc who will support you and be an advocate!

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