Did I make a huge mistake?--changed surgery date

[Jeanne Zucker 1]

My surgery was originally scheduled for 11/7. My husband is involved in local theater and is in a show opening 11/10 so the week of the surgery is "Hell Week"--rehearsals every night. He wouldn't be able to see me in thr hospital the night of my surgery. He is going to take my first day home but will be gone that night, and the the 3 days he will be gone all day/night. also performances Sat and Sun and the next Sat and Sun, with possibly some additional rehearsal.

I was telling my therapist about this and she suggested changing the date of the surgery. I called the practice and 11/28 so the liquid diet will be during Thanksgiving but I can deal with that (I am allowed certain vegetables and 1 fruit a day)--it's only 3 more weeks. May cause a little trouble at work but I can deal with that, too.

I'm not worried about the surgery i just don't want to be alone for most of the first week--that's not unreasonable, right?

I can't even tell my husband in person because he has rehearsals and I'm working THU night.

I really want him to be involved in his show but I don't want to be alone. He hasn't said a word on how difficult it would be for me. That's not too much to ask, is it?

I've just totally rearranged my life, largely in part of what is best for him. I just want a little acknowledgment. He'll probably just nod and say "OK."

[njgal 535]

Absolutely!! If changing your date guarantees your husband being there good. As someone who just went through it a week ago I can tell you my husband was a blessing to have at the hospital and when I finally made it home two days later.
Good luck!!

[Pescador 1,374]

I spent 8 hours total in the hospital, got home, slept, and drove to the store the next day at age 67. 3 days later drove to a large mall, and window shopped. It was a relaxing time, no worries with food. Get a friend to spend the night if you are worried.

[wwboy 141]

I would change it to accommodate having important people present. I was on pre op over thanksgiving too - and while not pleasant, is doable. Good luck!


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[Pescador 1,374]

The distant Thanksgiving memory of my husband and I on a liquid diet, me, after the Nov. 18 sleeve, and my husband before his Dec. 6 sleeve, is just a memory. I do remember us both sipping puréed mild chili for Christmas. It was delicious!