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I'm wondering a bit whether one's age affects the emotions involved--specifically the hormones--as I think most of the women on here are much younger than I am. I'm no longer in possession of a uterus and associated elements, so not subject to the hormonal fluctuations many are. I'm kind of generically not a weeper, either, so there's no tears here. I don't regret the surgery but I am so sick of Protein Shakes I could scream!! When I read the comment on here to have a fudgesicle, I was like, OMG, I have those and can have one!! Yay!!

I'm just one week post-surgery, so there's a ways to go before real food shows up in my life. I'm not enjoying this, but weight is coming off--I just have a really long way to go. Still, I can see the potential for my attitude improving a lot in another 50 pounds or so, never mind when I can have a piece of chicken!

Hang in there, everyone. No going back now . . .

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I'm wondering a bit whether one's age affects the emotions involved--specifically the hormones--as I think most of the women on here are much younger than I am. I'm no longer in possession of a uterus and associated elements, so not subject to the hormonal fluctuations many are. I'm kind of generically not a weeper, either, so there's no tears here. I don't regret the surgery but I am so sick of Protein Shakes I could scream!! When I read the comment on here to have a fudgesicle, I was like, OMG, I have those and can have one!! Yay!!
I'm just one week post-surgery, so there's a ways to go before real food shows up in my life. I'm not enjoying this, but weight is coming off--I just have a really long way to go. Still, I can see the potential for my attitude improving a lot in another 50 pounds or so, never mind when I can have a piece of chicken!
Hang in there, everyone. No going back now . . .

You know, you might be on to something with the age thing. I'm post menopausal and have had no mood swings. I had a couple days early on where I wanted to eat and couldn't and felt moody but no real swings or regrets. Being old finally pays off! Lol

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23 minutes ago, XYZXYZXYZ1955 said:

I'm wondering a bit whether one's age affects the emotions involved--specifically the hormones--as I think most of the women on here are much younger than I am. I'm no longer in possession of a uterus and associated elements, so not subject to the hormonal fluctuations many are. I'm kind of generically not a weeper, either, so there's no tears here. I don't regret the surgery but I am so sick of Protein Shakes I could scream!! When I read the comment on here to have a fudgesicle, I was like, OMG, I have those and can have one!! Yay!!

I'm just one week post-surgery, so there's a ways to go before real food shows up in my life. I'm not enjoying this, but weight is coming off--I just have a really long way to go. Still, I can see the potential for my attitude improving a lot in another 50 pounds or so, never mind when I can have a piece of chicken!

Hang in there, everyone. No going back now . . .

I'm not sure. It might also depend on where you are in your cycle when the surgery happens. I had finished my period just shy of a week before the surgery-- so far no mood swings, no buyer's remorse. I also know a couple of people who did this and are a year out. They did have unhappiness and depression, and some buyer's remorse.

The only other thing I can think of that I'm doing that people might not do is that I'm keeping my goals in front of my mental eye; I want to go zip lining, I want to do all the things I can't do at my current weight, at the weight I was before.

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I know that being transgender, I haven't had any issues but I haven't had my hormone injections since before I went to the hospital. I plan to resume that treatment this week. But I haven't felt any pangs of regret or anything like that.

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I keep hoping the next update to this thread will be Tiff saying the cloud has lifted and she feels better.

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2 minutes ago, etc. etc. etc. said:

I keep hoping the next update to this thread will be Tiff saying the cloud has lifted and she feels better.

I think a day or two after her initial post she posted in here again stating she was feeling better. :)

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I know what you mean I have been 2nd guessing this for a week now. Surgery is next Thursday. But I DO know that I'm ready to eat to live and not live to eat. I'm ok with bites and tastes of my favorites it doesn't have to be a meal. I AM worried about Water tho. I too don't like that I can't swim until next summer. But guess what? We gonna look HOT NEXT SUMMER!!!

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On ‎8‎/‎29‎/‎2017 at 0:31 PM, QueenTiff said:

I am on week 3 post op and I feel like I made the biggest mistake in my life. I'm reading how my favorite foods is a no go and I'll never eat it in my life again. Here I am struggling to meet my goal of Protein and Water. I can't enjoy life with my friends. I'm over this sleeve people who wants to get it I tell them don't. I'm trying to find the beauty in all this but right now I feel like I ruined my life.

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I know how you feel im 6 months out and Im going back and forth between regret and defeat im hearing it gets greater later I guess ill just be patiently waiting til then I hope your journey gets better

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I keep hoping the next update to this thread will be Tiff saying the cloud has lifted and she feels better.


I'll be honest with you when it's not one thing it's another I don't think I was made for this surgery or something. I don't seem to be doing anything right and no it's not getting better.


Tiffani

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I am on week 3 post op and I feel like I made the biggest mistake in my life. I'm reading how my favorite foods is a no go and I'll never eat it in my life again. Here I am struggling to meet my goal of Protein and Water. I can't enjoy life with my friends. I'm over this sleeve people who wants to get it I tell them don't. I'm trying to find the beauty in all this but right now I feel like I ruined my life.
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Me too


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Interesting, my PCP warned me that she had a few weight loss surgery patients that were unhappy, but the vast majority were happy. I am sorry it hasnt worked out for you. Hope its better for you later when the weight loss starts to really accumulate. :)

Also interesting about post-menopausal folks not experiencing the doldrums -- finally something in the "plus" column (in addition to no more periods, quite a big plus, LOL).

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I understand completely. After doing a band to sleeve I wish I had never done either. In fact, after a few complications- I weigh more now than I have in 8 years. Keep your head up and believe me when I say the break up with food is a process. It's actually like grieving. It will pass- your health will improve and you will feel better. Best of luck to you.


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I felt the same way after I got mine. I just kept thinking "what did I do?!" But I'm on 3 1/2 years post op and I'm so happy I did this. Every year I am able to eat something new and the stuff I can't eat I don't miss as much. I lost 90lbs and have kept it off! I have trouble with the Protein and Water too and some weeks are harder than others. Just keep trying cause honestly there's no going back.


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It gets easier. It really does. I can eat pretty much anything, although some things don't feel great, but it isn't horrible. I do miss being able to drink large amounts of Water, but that's about all I miss.

Breathe. You got this.


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