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6 hours ago, QueenTiff said:


Now that I got in your ass you want to offer me some good advice before you was being a jerk. You sit here and act like these emotions are uncommon and that I'm some type of alien or some ****. I can goo all day with the back and forth I really can I really can. Thank you for saying at 3 weeks this is common but just continue to do what your doing thank you. That's what you're trying to say but you don't know how to explain yourself I get it. Thank you


Tiffani

PREACH!!! Good for you! Standing up for myself is something Im beginning to learn.

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5 hours ago, dreamingsmall said:

You have mis understood , I did not once say anyone should 1. sugar coat anything. 2 not be honest and say things are crap if they are crap. My only point is i felt she perhaps should not be advicing people to not get something not knowing their medical condition/state as to whether it would benefit them or not, I had no issue with her stating she is having a hard time.. I did not once say she should not do that.

I have been nice on this thread , so I will leave now. as I have shown support, and even shared when I struggled so why would i in the next breath be saying " shshhhh only talk when you happy girl" when that is not what i said.

But yeah it does not mean people are dumb when they are influenced by someones REAL and LIVED experience. How I handled myself post op was thanks to alot I heard from random people, it helped. Also nerves set in and say day before people see someone saying do not get the surgery can set doubt into peoples mind. But by all means say this surgery is sh*** and they wish they had not got it.

I don't want to argue with anyone, I was trying to offer the lady support and thats it. I knew someone would be negitive but I can not even be bothered when what I said is clear. I will just unsubcribe to the post, so you dont have to waste your energy responding to my post.

No, you basically told her shes not allowed to express remorse. I read your post, you were judgmental, rude and chastised her for daring to speak negatively while you are waiting for the surgery.

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You're right. I try to do extra activities to keep my mind off of things but idk it's like stress from everything builds up. I don't care about stuffing my face with fast food but it's just like idk how to describe it. My doctor said 6 weeks until I can get back in the pool I think that's bulllshit but I have to listen to the doctor. Thank you I needed this


Tiffani[emoji1528][emoji757]️[emoji175]


Queen Tiff, you got this! I am pretty miserable watching people around me eat pizza and I'm eating apple sauce and broth and Protein Shakes. But remember why you made this decision. My guess, like many of us you weren't happy with the way things were going; health wise or body wise. It will get better. Just remember that and we are here for support. I am almost two weeks post op and sometimes I'm like did I really do this? Journal everyday. You'll see your attitude changing I promise. You got this!


Crystal, 30, Rhode Island
Gastric sleeve 8/21/17
Starting/highest weight: 241
Goal weight: 150

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55 minutes ago, LittleLizzieLilliput said:

You are being rude.

You're being a whiner. I gave info on how to stop being miserable and move forward by focusing on the end goal. You encouraged her to feel like giving up after three weeks.

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You're being a whiner. I gave info on how to stop being miserable and move forward by focusing on the end goal. You encouraged her to feel like giving up after three weeks.

You gave info on how to stop being miserable?!?!!!! Hahahahaha!! You're not only a great motivator, but a comedian, too.




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You're being a whiner. I gave info on how to stop being miserable and move forward by focusing on the end goal. You encouraged her to feel like giving up after three weeks.


You didn't tho! You basically told me to stfu and deal with it. That's what you said


Tiffani[emoji1528][emoji757]️[emoji175]

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Queen Tiff, you got this! I am pretty miserable watching people around me eat pizza and I'm eating apple sauce and broth and Protein Shakes. But remember why you made this decision. My guess, like many of us you weren't happy with the way things were going; health wise or body wise. It will get better. Just remember that and we are here for support. I am almost two weeks post op and sometimes I'm like did I really do this? Journal everyday. You'll see your attitude changing I promise. You got this!


Crystal, 30, Rhode Island
Gastric sleeve 8/21/17
Starting/highest weight: 241
Goal weight: 150


I should really start writing and thank you


Tiffani[emoji1528][emoji757]️[emoji175]

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oh I hear you!!! I was in full blown regret at your stage, I cried for a week. It's not easy, You WILL find your new normal, you will enjoy life again and you WILL feel like a normal person. I was in misery at your point. I was so sad and scared and worried and full of "What did I do, at least I had food to keep me happy before!" But it got better, you will feel better. Try having some mashed potatoes. I'm not kidding. Some carbs and fats, it was on my approved list. It helped me realize I WILL get to live like a "normal" person again.


Yes you're sooo right everything you just said I'm feeling. You are so right and thank you


Tiffani[emoji1528][emoji757]️[emoji175]

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Everyone has moments/days/weeks where everything is painful and difficult both physically and emotionally. I promise you you will feel different in the coming months. Three weeks isn't long enough to truly enjoy the benefits of weight loss, and everyone is right that you will be able to eat what you want (doesn't mean you should necessarily) at about a year out. I've maintained my 100 pound weight loss and have eaten all of my favorite foods at times, but always in moderation because the sleeve gave me that tool. It is a hard place to be in right now, but you can do this. And if it helps to move into acceptance, there's no turning back now! I wish you luck and keep seeking support on this site. It's a lifesaver. Also, ignores the haters! We all are human.


Thank you


Tiffani[emoji1528][emoji757]️[emoji175]

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Queen Tiff,

I think you're brave to share and not suppress your emotions. We all were told this would be hard, but learning it and living it are two different things. I'm 2 weeks post op and I too have had my fair share of "what the heck did I just do?" I get it, and I hope you can focus on the positive support you've received on this thread and let the haters stew in their own bitterness.

So many of us stand with you, hoping and praying your heart and mind are comforted by the knowledge that you are strong and brave to have taken this step. You will have highs and lows, but I think in the long run, you will overall be happy with the new you. Take time to mourn the losses--whatever they may be for you. It's important for your psychological health to let those feelings have a place. Stuffing them will just marinate them into some other negative explosion. We don't have food to regulate us anymore, so it's even more important to feel the feels.

It does feel like we will never indulge in our favs. But I can tell you, watching my mom who had the surgery 10 years ago, she eats any and everything. Yeah, she gained probably 30 of her 90 lost back, but she's still much healthier and enjoys life. I will enjoy life. You will enjoy life. This mind set has helped me as I served my family desert and I ate my fudgesicle, made them lasagna tonight and I had a ricotta bake--this is just temporary. I will have those things again, just not today.

Wishing you peace of mind and hydration!


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Queen Tiff,

I think you're brave to share and not suppress your emotions. We all were told this would be hard, but learning it and living it are two different things. I'm 2 weeks post op and I too have had my fair share of "what the heck did I just do?" I get it, and I hope you can focus on the positive support you've received on this thread and let the haters stew in their own bitterness.

So many of us stand with you, hoping and praying your heart and mind are comforted by the knowledge that you are strong and brave to have taken this step. You will have highs and lows, but I think in the long run, you will overall be happy with the new you. Take time to mourn the losses--whatever they may be for you. It's important for your psychological health to let those feelings have a place. Stuffing them will just marinate them into some other negative explosion. We don't have food to regulate us anymore, so it's even more important to feel the feels.

It does feel like we will never indulge in our favs. But I can tell you, watching my mom who had the surgery 10 years ago, she eats any and everything. Yeah, she gained probably 30 of her 90 lost back, but she's still much healthier and enjoys life. I will enjoy life. You will enjoy life. This mind set has helped me as I served my family desert and I ate my fudgesicle, made them lasagna tonight and I had a ricotta bake--this is just temporary. I will have those things again, just not today.

Wishing you peace of mind and hydration!




Thank you all of this positivity has helped me get through today. I even had to tell my friends I had to take my time on being "tiffani" again because it's just not fair on both ends. I appreciate everything it truly means a lot


Tiffani[emoji1528][emoji757]️[emoji175]

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9 hours ago, QueenTiff said:


You didn't tho! You basically told me to stfu and deal with it. That's what you said


Tiffani

I most certainly did not. You just cherry picked the words you wanted to focus on from my first comment.

In the midst of my first comment I told you

"Until you are three months out i would focus on hydration and Protein and take it one day at a time. A couple months of following the plan will not affect you in the long run if you are playing the long game here."

for some reason you think that's telling you to stfu so not much else I can do.

The whole point of the comment was that your doctor should've made clear how your life will be changed after this. You should've been given documentation to follow to get through the first three months. When in doubt read it again to remind you.

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I most certainly did not. You just cherry picked the words you wanted to focus on from my first comment.
In the midst of my first comment I told you
"Until you are three months out i would focus on hydration and Protein and take it one day at a time. A couple months of following the plan will not affect you in the long run if you are playing the long game here."
for some reason you think that's telling you to stfu so not much else I can do.
The whole point of the comment was that your doctor should've made clear how your life will be changed after this. You should've been given documentation to follow to get through the first three months. When in doubt read it again to remind you.


Please stop talking please! Like you wanna go all day with me than let's go. I have a lot of frustrations and you're the perfect person to release it on. It can get real ugly. How ugly you willing to go.


Tiffani[emoji1528][emoji757]️[emoji175]

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It's clear you have frustration by the way you lash out. I never told you to stfu so you can stop with that drama.

Get as ugly as you want I don't care. But you still need to follow your program and get your head clear if you want to feel better

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