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I'm 8 weeks out. I need to vent and verbalize my struggles. I've been on a stall for 2 weeks now. I know it will pass. My problem is that I'm dealing with so many emotions right now. My husband just left for 6 weeks in Japan. So I'm a "single" mom for the time being. I've just had to start working in the office 4 days a week after 20 years of working mainly from home. School is just starting so I'm feeling like I'm running constantly. I miss eating. I miss being able to have a sandwich or just to munch. I've been keeping my calories between 500 and 900. I tolerate most foods well. Haven't been getting my fluids in. I've only been able to get to the gym once a week.

I haven't been a binge eater but was a sugarholic. food doesn't satisfy me anymore. I do manage to have the self control not to eat cakes, pastries and carbs at this point, but I'm not sure how I have. I think the combination of not losing and not feeling satisfied has me feeling a bit down.

I'm worried that going to fail this weight loss journey. What if I do stop losing? What if I cut out most of my stomach just to stay overweight?

Does anyone else feel like this? How can I get past it?

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You've got this. Control what you can and think positively. Here are some tips:

  1. If you cannot get to the gym, attempt a neighborhood power-walk or jog before or after work or right before bedtime, even if it's only 15 to 20 minutes long.
  2. If you aren't doing so already, increase your Protein intake to 80+ grams daily. The thermic effect of protein, especially animal-based protein, promotes weight loss.
  3. Your weight loss journey is a personal marathon, not a sprint. Your starting weight was similar to mine. It took 17+ months for me to lose 100 lbs, yet I still reached my goal weight.
  4. Finally, it's okay to be weak at times and admit we need help. Don't be too hard on yourself. I attended a few counseling sessions when I started feeling down and it worked wonders.

Good luck to you. :)

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You've got this. Control what you can and think positively. Here are some tips:
  1. If you cannot get to the gym, attempt a neighborhood power-walk or jog before or after work or right before bedtime, even if it's only 15 to 20 minutes long.
  2. If you aren't doing so already, increase your Protein intake to 80+ grams daily. The thermic effect of protein, especially animal-based protein, promotes weight loss.
  3. Your weight loss journey is a personal marathon, not a sprint. Your starting weight was similar to mine. It took 17+ months for me to lose 100 lbs, yet I still reached my goal weight.
  4. Finally, it's okay to be weak at times and admit we need help. Don't be too hard on yourself. I attended a few counseling sessions when I started feeling down and it worked wonders.
Good luck to you. [emoji4]


Thanks so much! Great advice. I think I'm being hormonal too- in that wonderful time when my cycle is coming every 3-5 months . Ugh! Plus the hormones from surgery/ weight loss.

I'm usually right around 50 for protein so I know I need to step that up right away. Also just got new Vitamins because I kept missing the children's chewables because of the taste- I moved to an adult mini yesterday. Taking one in the morning and one at night.

On a bright note I went to kohls today with my daughter and was able to buy 3 blouses off the clearance rack in a large rather than a 2 xl for the first time! I haven't bought any new clothes since surgery because I've been shopping in my closet. Had multiple coupons and only paid $2 out of pocket- 2 were Jennifer Lopez! So that helped my mood a bit. I didn't try them on until I got home- I figured they could be goal shirts if they didn't fit! They fit well, so that was encouraging. I'm going to take my measurements tomorrow.
Thanks again!



Mich W
Hw 223, SW 217 CW 191 GW 135

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Your going to be fine! Get your Water in cuz you won't loose the weight if you don't tho. Be grateful that your not really a single Mom and when your hubby gets home, it will be like your newly Weds again!

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So true ! Thanks! He left on our 24th anniversary so we didn't get to celebrate- we will when he gets back.


Mich W
Hw 223, SW 217 CW 191 GW 135

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You've got this. Control what you can and think positively. Here are some tips:
  1. If you cannot get to the gym, attempt a neighborhood power-walk or jog before or after work or right before bedtime, even if it's only 15 to 20 minutes long.. [emoji4]


Stall is broken- 1 pound down this week! Went on a power walk per your suggestion because I was ready a half hour before a coffee date today. Did feel good!
Joined a Fitbit challenge with some friends and am determined to get in 80 g of Protein today!
Thank you!


Mich W
Hw 223, SW 217 CW 191 GW 135

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3 hours ago, Missy161 said:

Stall is broken- 1 pound down this week!

Congratulations. :)

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