...so today, I told my mother in law that I was having WLS and getting sleeved Friday (28-Jul). She told me to save myself the recovery and just stop eating french fries. Where was that helpful information all along?!?!?! LOL

In all seriousness, I am in the process of getting approved for time off after my surgery and the short term benefits manager at my company literally told me that if I utilized the work gym, I wouldn't have to take time off to "deal with this now".

Seriously, WTF people. Its hard enough making the decision I made, so not very thankful for the peanut gallery!

I am trying to stay positive and blocking out all the judgy comments. I am hoping that will be easier when I can rock an "I told you so" body.

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That I was doing this because I was otherwise undisciplined. UGH. I just don't have the willpower to do Weight Watchers.

Sounds like you have all the right people in your life.... it'd be funny if it weren't so nasty [emoji849]

Seriously though... if mil asks you how you're doing so and so many months later, or compliments you on your looks or clothing or something, just say " i took your advice and stopped eating [emoji489] "

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LOL - If only I had known this information years ago!!!! stop eating french fries - its so simple, why didn't I think of that??? LOL

Good luck on Friday, you'll be rocking that smoking hot bod in no time.

omg...I can't believe that people not only think like that, but have the audacity to say it. Honestly your HR person could be sued. My sister is getting sleeved in September and wants her husband to keep it from his parents because her mother in law has said similar things in the past when she brought up that she was contemplating it.

Being overweight I have been judged all my life. This is my biggest fear about what will happen if people find out I had the surgery. I'm a teacher and I did it over the summer.

That I was doing this because I was otherwise undisciplined. UGH. I just don't have the willpower to do Weight Watchers.

... Totally gotta love all the "love" [emoji1304] it's a good thing we can rise above it (well- I try anyway!!')

omg...I can't believe that people not only think like that, but have the audacity to say it. Honestly your HR person could be sued. My sister is getting sleeved in September and wants her husband to keep it from his parents because her mother in law has said similar things in the past when she brought up that she was contemplating it.
Being overweight I have been judged all my life. This is my biggest fear about what will happen if people find out I had the surgery. I'm a teacher and I did it over the summer.

Your sister has the right plan, I got guilted into it by my husband because we have two small kids and she is going to "help" while I recover. I honestly have told 4 people in total and not sure when I'll be ready to share beyond that -if ever. The way I look at, people judge me bc I am fat, they'll judge me bc I had to loose so much weight in the first place, they'll judge me for being a mets fan...and the list goes on and on. Right now, I'm just worried about how I judge me- the rest will figure itself out

...oh and my MIL is un invited to thanksgiving hahaha

When I announced my plans for WLS. I was told WLS horror stories then it was suggested that I just stop eating so much.

...here's to us for not listening!

LOL - If only I had known this information years ago!!!! stop eating french fries - its so simple, why didn't I think of that??? LOL
Good luck on Friday, you'll be rocking that smoking hot bod in no time.

Thank you! That made me laugh. The worst part, on day 9 of this pre-op diet- now all I can think of is fries lol

Sounds like you have all the right people in your life.... it'd be funny if it weren't so nasty [emoji849]

Seriously though... if mil asks you how you're doing so and so many months later, or compliments you on your looks or clothing or something, just say " i took your advice and stopped eating [emoji489] "

H 5'6" HW 253, CW 250, TBS 9/19

I literally can't wait to use that line, ill try to do it while she is chowing down on some fried potato [emoji4]

Lol one person told me "you're not small, but you're not big BIG, so you don't need it." [emoji848] thanks...... that was just so helpful and well thought out

Lol one person told me "you're not small, but you're not big BIG, so you don't need it." [emoji848] thanks...... that was just so helpful and well thought out

...oh man, this just may be the pre-op diet talking - but it would be so hard for me not to say... "you're not stupid but you're not smart either" right back at 'em

...oh man, this just may be the pre-op diet talking - but it would be so hard for me not to say... "you're not stupid but you're not smart either" right back at 'em [emoji4]

[emoji23] hopefully my facial expression said it for me! The stuff people say.... I also had plenty of people suggest exercise as if I wasn't already doing it. They automatically think you don't exercise. Or that after surgery it's just sunshine and rainbows and I lose all the weight just by sitting and eating. People should really do research.

Horror story that someone died after getting the excess skin removed. I dont need to hear stuff like that! Its scary enough. I'm trying to save my life

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You must research the doctors you choose but that goes for any type of surgery and get patient referrals as well as doctor referrals..don't go just because the price is right...there could be an underlining reason why the price is much lower than others and it could be a life sentence...do your homework..most can be looked up online and see their reviews as well

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That's why you must choose the safe people in your life....Sometimes people closest to you are the wrong ones to share this with...there will always be judgmental people around you but just remember this decision is yours and yours alone and with that being said there will still be people around you that will try to scare you out of this....but you know when you've reached this point in life you've tried everything else..alot of people also think that this is the easy way out...but this is NOT easy and it's a tool to lose weight permanently

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