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I just got my approval letter, planning on undergoing VSG the end of August. I have a relatively low key job but don't want to take too much time off. Planning on taking 1 week off. I'm young, have a high pain tolerance, but also know when to not overdo it. Is that long enough??

Also, I am very private and don't want to tell everyone at work why I'm needing surgery. I'm sure they will figure it out eventually but I want to keep it to myself. I'm sure I'm not the only one on here that feels this way. How did you guys address this concern and keep your business private?

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I told my boss (so she'd know why I suddenly had so many doctor's appointments), my two best friends at work, and the lady who handles days off requests (so she'd know why I was scheduling sick days in advance). They kept things under control for me.

I had my surgery Friday and got out of the hospital the very next day. They considered keeping me an extra night, then my pain level went way down and they turned me loose. I made it back to work for half days by the very next Tuesday and Wednesday, and worked full days Thursday and Friday. I have an office job, so it wasn't so bad for me to get back.

It's been about a week and a half now and my wounds have healed almost entirely. My stomach doesn't hurt, but it's grumbly and perpetually adjusting and sort of odd-feeling.

I'm pretty private, too. The quick recovery time definitely made it easier for me to slip this by the co-workers of mine I wouldn't want to discuss this with.

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I am keeping mine private as well. If someone asks you point blank why you are taking time off, you could just say you've been working a lot and need a break. Or say that you expect the rest of the year to be very busy so you're taking some time now.

Now if they find out it's surgery and want to know what kind, just say "I'd rather not say, but nothing to worry about." People 'should' know that means back the hell off.

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I used FMLA time so my boss knew a bit more than I ideally would have wanted, but I wanted to be protected. I am wondering the best way to reply to someone who asks me how I lost so much weight! I don't want to lie, but don't want to share my business either.

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Hmm, could you say you are working with a nutritionist and walking? Both are probably true.

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