I had Surgery on 5-2-17 I honestly feel like I messed up !!! I regret this surgery every single day . I'm taking antidepressants and anti anxiety medications because I'm so depressed. I never took any medications prior to surgery . I feel like I need inspiration from people who have been successful with the sleeve.

I am 8 months post-op, have lost 203 pounds, and am 14 pounds from goal. I have completely re-defined my relationship with food, changed my life for the better, and positioned myself for a long, healthy life!

The early weeks post-op are among the most difficult times in this journey. But it is more important than ever to follow your plan, meet your protein and water goals each day, exercise as you can, let your body heal, and stay off of the scale.

Good luck!

@blizair09 thank you and congrats ? that is fantastic. You inspire me.

Edited June 9, 20179 yr by Mucheca

What about the surgery are you regretting?

@blizair09 thank you and congrats ? that is fantastic . You had a sleeve done ?

@blizair09 thank you and congrats ? that is fantastic . You had a sleeve done ?

Just now, Mucheca said:

@blizair09 thank you and congrats ? that is fantastic . You had a sleeve done ?

Yes. I was sleeved on September 28, 2016.

@Joann454 I don't think is healthy . I'm afraid of getting sick. I can't stand the food restrictions. I don't feel me anymore. I'm lactose intolerant now . I was never before . It make decision worst .

[mention=269602]Joann454[/mention] I don't think is healthy . I'm afraid of getting sick. I can't stand the food restrictions. I don't feel me anymore. I'm lactose intolerant now . I was never before . It make decision worst .

I'm so sorry you're struggling. Maybe seek out someone to talk to that can help you embrace your new way of living? Are you eating/drinking enough protein and water. It doesn't have to be and shouldn't be unhealthy. It should be the opposite. I became lactose intolerant before surgery. It might have happened at some point for you. I hope you can find peace with your decision.

I'm sorry you are struggling! Have you tried Fairlife milk? I'm lactose intolerant and my Nutritionist suggested this and have been drinking since. You don't know it's ff and has 13g protein per serving. Have you checked out Pinterest for post-op bariatric recipes? They have tons of recipes that you may like. I think "buyers remorse" is fairly normal in the early stages by what I've read on here, but they say it does get better. I'm getting sleeved on June 30th and I am drawing so much inspiration from people here and on various bariatric Facebook groups. Keep your head up and best of luck!

15 hours ago, Mucheca said:

@Joann454 I don't think is healthy . I'm afraid of getting sick. I can't stand the food restrictions. I don't feel me anymore. I'm lactose intolerant now . I was never before . It make decision worst .

Well you can't undo it, so there is no point crying over spilled milk. What is done is done.

The food restrictions are for a very short time. 3 to 6 months.

The lactose, elaborate on what make you think you are lactose intolerant now. Even if you are for the moment, you probably won't be long term.

This is a short term situation. Antidepressants are unlikely to help you with situational depression that is not based on a chemical imbalance. You need to learn to make peace with your choice and move forward.

Why did you choose to have surgery in the first place? Maybe remembering that choice will help.

Well you can't undo it, so there is no point crying over spilled milk. What is done is done.
The food restrictions are for a very short time. 3 to 6 months.
The lactose, elaborate on what make you think you are lactose intolerant now. Even if you are for the moment, you probably won't be long term.
This is a short term situation. Antidepressants are unlikely to help you with situational depression that is not based on a chemical imbalance. You need to learn to make peace with your choice and move forward.
Why did you choose to have surgery in the first place? Maybe remembering that choice will help.

This is terrible advice. What's done is done, isn't comforting or supportive. It a little mean in fact. Secondly, depression can be exogenous on endogenous and both forms absolutely benefit from medication.

At only a month post-op, your food restrictions are still in full effect. In another month, you will be allowed to eat a whole lot of other things, and will fit in maybe twice as much.

As long as you are getting your liquids, vitamins, and protein, you can live for a year or two just on your fat reserves. So please don't worry about malnutrition

Try and do a fun thing each day to help make the time go faster. Make lists of activities that you want to do when you are thinner, as well as things you can do now. Goals, rewards.. all these things that keep you looking forward to where you are going, instead of bogging your mind down in the now, or even the past.

{Hugs} everything will work out! You'll see!

This definitely is not short term. And the food restrictions are not 3 to 6 months. Don't feel bad about having to take antidepressants, if you need them to help get you through this then that's OK. That can be short term. Give yourself time to heal and adjust. You will make it through this hard step. It definitely is a life changer and take a lot of work but you will get it and when you do your going to be so proud of yourself for making it. We are all here for you to make sure you get there. Ask as many question as you like and don't feel that there's any dumb questions. I can relate to the lactose issue. I don't know what it is but it gets me every time. So you just have to try some alternatives. It really does get easier and you'll be feeling great.

P. S. Outside Match Inside has got it all wrong.

Hang in there and if you want to talk I'm here for you.
God Bless You

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Just to clarify, food restriction can mean two different things.

1. The actual quantity of food you are able to eat. This restriction gradually eases over a couple years, but you will never be able to eat as much as you did preop. (It is usually stated that you'll be able to eat a cup of food long term.. but depending on what it is, I can do that already! 12 weeks post op)

2. The dietary restriction during the first 8 weeks post op that says you can't just eat anything. Once you are 9 weeks post op, according to most surgeons, you are released to eat whatever you want. Not everything will necessarily agree with you, but you are allowed to try.

I was talking about restriction #2. It is awful nice when you are released to try anything, because going to restaurants and joining the family or friends at mealtime is so important for our psychological well-being.

Do we have to be "on a diet" forever? Yes, most of us do. But the occasional bite of something off-diet is also part of living a full life.

1 hour ago, Berry78 said:

Do we have to be "on a diet" forever? Yes, most of us do. But the occasional bite of something off-diet is also part of living a full life.

I am taking the diet mentality out of my life. I see the way I eat now as my new normal. Is it different then how I used to eat? Yes and that is a good thing, it is a lifestyle change.

I understand what you meant though. We will always need to be mindful and vigilant about what and how much we are eating. I like you, will occasionally take a bite here and there of some of the foods I have decided not to eat. I think this is just healthy living and not a diet.

To the op. It might be helpful for you to make a list of all the reasons you decided to have this surgery and look at them when you are feeling regret. Make a new list of the things you would like to do as you loose weight and check them off as you achieve them. I am a firm believer in having a positive attitude. Try to focus on what you are gaining and not what you have lost or perceive that you have lost.