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Hey everybody!!! I am so excited I got approved for surgery and scheduled for March 22nd! This is all happening so fast and I really thought I would be able to count on my family for support but is seems like no one is really being that supportive. I told my brother and he asked me if I was sure that I wanted to do it....After a year and a half long process of getting my insurance requirements and other issues that have come up...YES I am sure! My mom also when I told her she replied that she has been loosing weight by cutting out meat and that I should try to do that before I do it lol. She was very adamant about me doing the sleeve and I chose the bypass which I think she is still upset about.... Anyway I'm not letting anyone steal my joy but I would like to know how anyone out there who has family or friends that don't really understand weight loss surgery got through the process without wanting to curse somebody out :D

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I had the MGB surgery and my friends and family still don't understand however my daughters are very happy that I have lost 100 pounds in 9 months. I have went down 10 Jean sizes and lost 153 inches. This is an amazing life changer for the better.

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They still don't understand and they see you have lost that much weight

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You are doing this for you, no one else and it will be one of the best decisions you ever make. Your family may or may not come around but you will be healthier! I'm one year out this week and no regrets. Best of luck to you!



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I have not told anyone but my one sister and that is only because she had it done so she is very supportive. I haven't even told my work. Told them I was having hernia surgery (which I am having that to) just don't need to be judged.



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You are making a life changing decision and some will understand and some won't. When I had my Gastric Bypass ( 6-16-14) my true friends were there for me and supported me through the whole thing. My sister told me I was taking the easy way out. She said I should just go to a nutritionist and go on yet another diet. My primary care physician was against it saying I should just go on a low fat diet. I have been on every diet known to man and I would gain weight on the diets. But, I do not regret for one second that I had my LIFE SAVING Surgery. I lost 146 pounds and went from a size 28 women's down to a size 9 juniors and am off all medication for my heart, arthritis, and diabetes. I am free of diets forever and healthy. If you do this you will be free of a over weight sick body. Love yourself, do it for yourself and do not let those around you bring yourself down. I wish you a speedy recovery from surgery.

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Thank you all


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