I've done all my research, started my appointments and am mentally preparing for surgery. I made the mistake of sharing with a co worker my weight struggle and decision and there response was have you tried weight watchers, why don't you try weight watchers? Like I just havent been trying hard enough. Yes I've tried weight watchers 5 times and personal training and they just don't get it ! Sorry just joined and need to vent

I've done all my research, started my appointments and am mentally preparing for surgery. I made the mistake of sharing with a co worker my weight struggle and decision and there response was have you tried weight watchers, why don't you try weight watchers? Like I just havent been trying hard enough. Yes I've tried weight watchers 5 times and personal training and they just don't get it ! Sorry just joined and need to vent

And for those reasons like that decided not to tell anyone outside of my mother that I was having it done until I was leaving the hospital lol ppl don't know what you go threw within yourself you have to do what's best for you and your well being Just trying is enough I was sleeved on 2/17/17 and I don't regret a thing ppl ask why but all I say is because I wanted to

I feel you, someone always has an answer. I have chose to only tell close family members. I did mention it to a friend and her response was "please don't do that, you aren't even that big" Thanks for the compliment but I am too close to 300 for comfort!

That quote "NOT THAT BIG" grinds my gears . I hate it lol

Do what is best for U n move forward

No, they don't!!!!! I did the same thing this weekend but with a close friend and she told me I was cheating! That she wanted to be like me when she grows up!

And people wonder why I am not telling anyone.....well except my boyfriend. I dont care what others have to say

You do you

I am new to the site as well and am now waiting for insurance approval, yikes!! Anyway I get it, almost everyone I have told has said Im not big enough; and have you tried weight watchers ( I can wallpaper a room with my weight watchers books!). At 260 I am definitely big enough and want a new beginning.

So nice to hear other people have had this issue. When I told one of my dearest friends about my plan for a sleeve she said. "Girl, everyone I've ever known who had that surgery lost weight temporarily and then gained it back. What else have you tried?"

I was so taken aback, I wanted to write out all the things I had ever tried starting with WW at age ten then starving all through high school, then compulsive exercise then a full blown eating disorder then jenny craig then WW again then the Scarsdale diet and South Beach and a medical diet and every other diet and gimmick in between. I wanted to scream, I STARTED COUNTING CALORIES AT AGE 9 AND I'VE NEVER STOPPED!

Then I realized that even our nearest and dearest friends don't understand the torture we put ourselves through in pursuit of a healthy weight. We don't express our devastation when we gain or our elation when we lose. It's a very private thing. That helped me to feel better.

My very best friends were completely supportive.

Hang in there, you deserve this!

I think people watch "My 600-lb. Life" and think these are the only candidates for WLS. I haven't told many people. I did it to try to live a pain-free life. One friend told me that she hoped she wouldn't be jealous of me when I started losing weight. Really!?!?! Yes, i will lose weight, but I hope to be in much less pain. Folks really don't get it.

When I told my boyfriend about wanting surgery his first was response was "No way, I know a girl who had that surgery and gained all the weight back." I was like ummmm just cuz she gained doesn't mean I will. Told him to have an open mind and we will research it. Now he has made a complete 180 and is all for me getting the surgery.

My doctor told me that people try 22 failed diets before asking for help. Just ignore them!

I'm feeling very blessed right now. My husband and adult kids are all very supportive and excited for me. My mom isn't thrilled but has adjusted to the idea. Just ignore the negative comments because like you said, people who aren't going through this just don't get it.

I am new to the site as well and am now waiting for insurance approval, yikes!! Anyway I get it, almost everyone I have told has said Im not big enough; and have you tried weight watchers ( I can wallpaper a room with my weight watchers books!). At 260 I am definitely big enough and want a new beginning.

My husband and 2 sons are supportive as is my best friends, its the extended family, coworkers etc. that just don't get it and I guess as long as the people closest to me get it, I'm very lucky. Still stressing insurance approval, keep good thoughts for me everyone

It makes me laugh to hear someone point out that people base their entire understanding of WLS on "My 600-lb Life" soooo true! My mother, who knows I've been on a diet since I was 11, responds to my WLS with "Well Dr. N. From that show says...xyz..." [emoji38] So not helpful when I'm trying to tell you what MY doctor said during the last year that I've been working toward WLS.