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I am so new at this. I am 25, 5'2", 201.6 lbs as of today. I have been suffering from PCOS for a few years now. My blood pressure is in normal ranges and so is my blood sugar, the only thing that is elevated is my cholesterol. My dad had gastric bypass six years ago and constantly tells me it was the best thing he ever did and how he regrets waiting so long to do it, but when ever I try to broach the subject to my family they stop listening and tell me to try harder through traditional means. I have done Weight Watcher, Jenny Craig, Nutrisystem, meal plans, trainers, and been to see a D.O. that specializes in PCOS. In the last six months of changing my eating habits and working out more, I have only lost 4 lbs. The highest weight I have ever been was 3 months ago at 213. I understand that this weight is low for some people, but I am terrified of never getting the weight off. I don't know how to talk to my family about this. My boyfriend thinks it's taking the easy way out and that I just need to work harder, but I don't know what else to do. Obesity runs in my family, as does diabetes. I don't want to be either of these anymore. Surgery is a huge thing and it's not a magic pill that fixes everything, but it is a tool that could set me on the right path to success. I have become so down on myself over my weight and have been losing self confidence more and more everyday. This is something I really want to consider, but I need to have the support of my family and right now I feel as though they just don't understand the struggle I'm having. Has anyone else had this problem, does anymore know how to talk to them about it?

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I'm sorry that your boyfriend is not supportive. Is there a supportive friend who can be your support through this? Have you got a date yet? Whatever happens, make your choices for yourself and not anyone else.


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Well, it sounds like your father is on board. Your boyfriend has no clue what it is to live with a broken metabolism. (Even if he has one himself!).

If you want to try one last type of diet while researching the surgery and starting the process, you can try a ketogenic diet. (Lots of Proteins and fats, and less than 20g net carbs).

It usually takes at least 6 months to go from the thinking about phase to surgery, so you can try the diet while doing the process. If the diet works, you can always cancel the surgery. But if it doesn't, then you'll be glad you did both at the same time.

Google "Diet Doctor" and ketogenic

Good luck!




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My boyfriend has become more supportive after I talked to him even more about it and forced him to listen to me. My mom is beginning to after my PCOS Dr. suggested this surgery. I am at the very beginning, trying to find out if my insurance will cover anything, a surgeon, how much it will cost? But I am excited and hope to be moving forward soon.

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