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I am 5 weeks post op and lately I get stressed and regret what I did. I had such a food addiction. I miss it so much. And then I see Oprah commercials and she lost 40 lbs eating whatever she wants. But yet I can't even get a piece of chicken down.

PLEEASSSEE tell me this feeling will go away!!! I'm happy to be losing weight but worried that my addiction to food will never go away.

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I believe you made the best decision in your life. your still early in your journey so you have to get rid of that mindset. Stop looking at all the things you cant have. be creative when it comes to preparing meals with the foods you can have. also never compare your journey to someone's else especially Oprah lol. Stay encouraged its all uphill from here

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Take a deep breath and relax. I too have a pretty serious eating addiction so I understand how you feel. This is the hardest thing we have ever done. But we had this surgery to try to help save our lives! You are having FEELINGS. Feelings/emotions are fleeting, they don't last. Hold on tight to why you made the choice to have the sleeve. We will get through the feelings and tomorrow will be better. I feel you Girl, I really do! I'm 4 weeks out so we're close to the same place. But remember all the years of mindless eating got us to morbid obesity and truly poor health. You made the right decision. Hold tight to that when your feelings seem overwhelming.

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Thank you friends. I already feel better.


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Oprah lies!!!!!!! She has a personal chef, a personal trainer and still after all these years she battles weight!! She says "I eat bread everyday!" Well did you maybe think she eat a bite of bread not the whole loaf???? Besides she bought stock in weigh watcher's and I guarantee she will put that 40lbs back on as 80!!
Here is something that might help in your food addiction. Look for the movie called "Hungry for Change". It is on Netflix. Also after you watch it start watching other types of films like it. It will help to change your perspective on the food that you are craving. And if you can change the way you see that food, you can change the addiction. I know it's hard, but watch the movies and they will help.good luck and I am sending you good positive energy !! Huggsss!!

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K_aane makes an excellent point. I am 5 days post op and have no regrets. I saw the Oprah commercial and looked at it from the "Hungry for Change" perspective. She says, I can have chips...she loves chips. Who doesn't love chips? Nobody and I really mean nobody actually needs chips. They are empty calories and not good for you. I tried WW at least three times and was told I could eat whatever I want but had to stay within point parameters. So if you eat high calorie foods your hungry the rest of the time.

Also check out "The Perfect Human Diet". I think I saw it on Hulu. It talks about human and non-human food. Believe it or not, humans eat ALOT of non-human foods...

Always think of your new tummy as a tool to help you maintain control. I love my new tummy:-). My lack of hunger and new relationship with food is exciting and hopeful. Think positive thoughts.


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Years ago I gave up pizza because I continue to fight the wheat and on some things I am very good but I still struggle. If I could only have one food the rest of my life it would be pizza. But that isn't going to happen. I have reigned myself that maybe once every 3 month's or so I have 1 slice. But I have so much guilt eating what I know is not good that now I don't want it. I instead look for the healthy option.maybe a quesidilla with a little pepperoni and mozzarella cheese. I need to eat without guilt because the guilt after the instant gratification kills me. That was my change. I read so much about real food vs process food that now things I used to love I find disgusting. I still struggle with sugar and I am working on that like an alcoholic...one day at a time. Sugar is my cocaine. Addictions are hard but focusing on what that addiction really is like gross food really helps. I used to really admire Oprah but now I see her as a sell out. You can't eat chips or bread and expect that to be good food. I am hoping my surgery will be my turning point because as soon as I lose the first 20lbs...I will feel powerful against bad food. Sorry for the long post. :)

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Years ago I gave up pizza because I continue to fight the wheat and on some things I am very good but I still struggle. If I could only have one food the rest of my life it would be pizza. But that isn't going to happen. I have reigned myself that maybe once every 3 month's or so I have 1 slice. But I have so much guilt eating what I know is not good that now I don't want it. I instead look for the healthy option.maybe a quesidilla with a little pepperoni and mozzarella cheese. I need to eat without guilt because the guilt after the instant gratification kills me. That was my change. I read so much about real food vs process food that now things I used to love I find disgusting. I still struggle with sugar and I am working on that like an alcoholic...one day at a time. Sugar is my cocaine. Addictions are hard but focusing on what that addiction really is like gross food really helps. I used to really admire Oprah but now I see her as a sell out. You can't eat chips or bread and expect that to be good food. I am hoping my surgery will be my turning point because as soon as I lose the first 20lbs...I will feel powerful against bad food. Sorry for the long post. [emoji4]

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Your so so right! I too lost hope in Oprah. It's sad. I'm taking back my life and ending this addiction! Thank you!! Good luck!!


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I am about 6 weeks post op and I understand a bit but mostly because I am in a stall. Frustrated that I did all of this and I think I lost faster on weight watchers but here is the thing, sometimes I am head hungry but I am not craving the quantity I used to eat just the freedom to eat what I want when I want. It is funny how this change gets annoying in our heads at odd times, like my coworkers bought me a chicken quesadilla for lunch yesterday and I was annoyed that I couldn't eat it all, totally not sure why that would annoy me. I sat there picking the chicken out of it to avoid the tortilla. I had some for lunch and then ended up splitting the rest with my husband for dinner. Two coworkers of mine got the same lunch and they had theirs done in less than 20 minutes and were talking about candy and giant dinners ahead. I had to remind myself that I paid for one meal and I got two meals for myself and one for my husband out of it, how is that a bad thing? I still got to enjoy the lunch with my coworkers, I wasn't hungry and it saved me money in the long run.


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Oprah has enough money where she can pay somebody to follow her around all day long and slap Cookies out of her hand. Oprah is not a real life example to compare to. If anything she proves that dieting does not work for everyone as she has yo-yo'd all her life.

I'm not quite 2 1/2 weeks post-op and I second guess myself at times, but I also know that I was out of options. I'm sure there will be times I still question it a year from now or even 5 years from now.

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I like that....slap Cookies out of her hand. I would recommend she get WLS and a good psychologist. She has a lot of food issues lolllll. Had my surgery on 2/1 and I know this is going to be a "one day at a time" journey. Good luck everyone.


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