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I was sleeved one 12/12, and last night my boyfriend was trying to take me out and get me out the house. But when I put on my clothes and they all for the same, and I didnt like hiw I looked so I opt to stay home and just go to sleep. I know it's not going to happen over night, but I don't see what everyone else sees and it makes ME angry.

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Patience, grasshopper.

Also, don't forget you're going to be very emotional these first few weeks because the quick weight loss causes hormone dumps. That should subside soon, and you'll start to feel much better and much more optimistic when it does.

Take your measurements! I gaurantee there's a difference. Even a week from now there will be. Also, I'll bet a selfie from before surgery and a selfie now would most definitely show a difference.

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I'm not sure what's making you feel unhappy, but I think it's that you have lost weight, but don't see it when you look in the mirror? It's very common for people who lose weight not to see the difference. Extremely common, actually. You didn't say how much you have lost, but I know that one of these days it will bowl you over. When all of your clothes are falling off or you realize that you can move your body in ways that you couldn't before and a million other ways. They're all called Non-scale Victories (NSV's) -- the wonderful changes that are separate from the scale.< /p>

What I am sure of is that you used to go out with your boyfriend before surgery. Go today. Of course you want to see the difference from losing weight, but life is NOW, not 10 or 50 pounds from now.

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I'm not sure what's making you feel unhappy, but I think it's that you have lost weight, but don't see it when you look in the mirror? It's very common for people who lose weight not to see the difference. Extremely common, actually. I didn't say how much you have lost, but I know that one of these days it will bowl you over. When all of your clothes are falling off or you realize that you can move your body in ways that you couldn't before and a million other ways. They're all called Non-scale Victories (NSV's) -- the wonderful changes that are separate from the scale.< /p>

What I am sure of is that you used to go out with your boyfriend before surgery. Go today. Of course you want to see the difference from losing weight, but life is NOW, not 10 or 50 pounds from now.

Thanks I did forget to post weight before surgery:323 date of surgery:313 my two week check up:300... Yes it's the fact I look and the mirror and dont see a change.

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Patience, grasshopper.

Also, don't forget you're going to be very emotional these first few weeks because the quick weight loss causes hormone dumps. That should subside soon, and you'll start to feel much better and much more optimistic when it does.

Take your measurements! I gaurantee there's a difference. Even a week from now there will be. Also, I'll bet a selfie from before surgery and a selfie now would most definitely show a difference.

Thanks you so didn't know you would get emorional

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Thanks I did forget to post weight before surgery:323 date of surgery:313 my two week check up:300... Yes it's the fact I look and the mirror and dont see a change.

Thanks you so didn't know you would get emorional

Nikki, do you know that your responses to @@Babbs and me sound calmer and even more upbeat than your opening post? It makes a tremendous difference to look at what you have achieved and not what you don't see yet. Your 23- pound loss is excellent. Let that be your motivation to keep going. Everything will fall into place.

Babbs, I love the "Patience, grasshopper."

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You will never look like you lost weight if you the same clothes. So many people complain about looking/feeling fat, but they are in fat clothes, of course that is how they feel. New you, new clothes.

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Thanks I did forget to post weight before surgery:323 date of surgery:313 my two week check up:300... Yes it's the fact I look and the mirror and dont see a change.

Thanks you so didn't know you would get emorional

Nikki, do you know that your responses to @@Babbs and me sound calmer and even more upbeat than your opening post? It makes a tremendous difference to look at what you have achieved and not what you don't see yet. Your 23- pound loss is excellent. Let that be your motivation to keep going. Everything will fall into place.

Babbs, I love the "Patience, grasshopper."

Thanks

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