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Hi guys !!! Well I had gastric by pass on june 30 when I started this journey I was 260 SW 245 CW 163 I had a couple oof stalls along the way but manage to move I see the size went from 20 to a size 7 but I don't see the skinny minni they are calling me am not at goal weight I don't see what other people see so mi parents want me to go to a shrink maybe its just part of the process????????post-307517-14811903361721_thumb.jpg post-307517-14811904015627_thumb.jpg

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You look amazing. They say it takes about a year for your eyes to catch up. I went from a 24 to a 16 since October I don't see what everyone else does either. I've read to look at just body pics and not your face. Your mind recognizes your face and puts the past images with it. Just a thought

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I understand totally. I have gone from a 26/28 to an 8/10 and I still just see the old me in the mirror. Now if I look at a side by side I can see the difference of course but daily in the mirror not so much.

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From a guys perspective, you look fantastic. I am in the same boat as all of you. I don't see where I am any thinner even though everyone says I am. I took a photo of my face last night and compared it to a before surgery photo. I can see that I am thinner but I think I look old even though people say I look younger.

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I have been at goal over 6 months and still don't always understand it (and I even had lower body lift 8 weeks ago). It does take time to adjust. Having said that, I strongly encourage seeing a therapist. I have been seeing the one who had to do my psych eval before surgery for almost 2 years now and she is probably the most valuable tool in my arsenal. HIGHLY HIGHLY recommend.

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Talking to a shrink might not be bad...It might awaken some thoughts and give you some clarity....It doesn't mean your crazy!!....I think we all would love to talk to someone without being judged....You look great by the way....even when you were heavier..you were cute. So, just BE YOU!..no matter what size!.

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It's called body dysmorphia, talking to a psychiatrist may help ease that. Seeking praise from others will only put a bandaid on the issue. We can tell you, you look great (because girl you're killing it) but if you don't see it, you need someone to help you understand what you're feeling and how to work through it.

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I am 3 years out from my RNY. I lost my goal weight in 6 months. I started out at 249#'s my surgery weight was 232#'s my lowest weight was 117's I did have a 8# gain so I now weigh 125#'s and have maintained my weight for 2 and 1/2 years. When I look in the mirror I still see the fat person before. Not every day but more than I should. You are not alone!! I tried to get some counseling but we don't have a Bariatric counselor local. I even went to a Bariatric Nutritionist but her idea was not even feasible, she wanted me to eat every 1/2 hour I was awake. I felt like I was trading one eating disorder for another. I didn't want to become a grazer!! Most people don't see themselves thinner. But you can bet most do see their body as fat as it was. So sad!! Hopefully, you can find some answers and come back to help us. BTW YOU LOOK AMAZING!!!

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