I am so disgruntled. I had a recent post about how my husband is not supportive but he has reached a new low. He just told me that I am using drastic measures to become skinny and " he doesn't like skinny women". When I first got with my husband I weighed 145 lbs. I'm 5'6. So I I was pretty small then. Well fast forward twenty one years and 3 kids later ...my highest weight was 242 lbs. I am insulted by this so badly. I told him if you don't like the size I become then you have the option of leaving then. I'm so tired of this ish. Everyday he is putting me down about this surgery and I know I may have some tough patches post op and I know he is going to lavish in that so that he can say I told you so. My 20 year old son is going with me to have my surgery due to I'm going to Texas and I'm from Alabama. I don't think he quite gets it but he said mom I'm going with you and not letting you be alone. That means the world to me. I just feel like this is probly gonna be the end of my marriage. My husband then said I'm probly trying to be skinny for other men and I'm like really. I would go thru my stomach being sliced just for attention... get the heck

Out of here. Just so disgusted with having to defend this decision to him. I have researched this for 4-5 years. I'm making a change for a better healthier me. I guess everyone doesn't want a better, healthier me. He has been thin all his life and doesn't understand this weight struggle. So he doesn't want a skinny wife but you want an overweight wife who is prediabetic, has sleep apnea, high cholesterol, and heart problems huh? But she is good n thick,, yeah right. I'm just over it!!!!

Edited December 3, 20169 yr by Dknal2

Thank you. Yes, my son is wonderful . He always tries to take care of his mommy. I thank God for him and for each of you that have kept me in your thoughts. I am truly grateful .

He's an incredibly selfish man and must be afraid of loosing you. But let it go in one ear and out the other because your health is most important. And you deserve this, you deserve to feel better and good about yourself. Sounds like you have a wonderful son who loves and adores his mother. He will be of great comfort to you in Texas and know we will all be here for you. Good luck and God bless

Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G900A using the BariatricPal App

I'm glad my baby is a good son as well. I made it to Texas.... at the hospital now doing registration and I will update everyone when I am able to text.

So glad you have the support of your son and that he is traveling with you. Welcome to Texas and praying all goes well.

@@Dknal2 Sending blessings to you this morning. So glad you stayed positive through everything! Good luck!

Sent from my iPad using the BariatricPal App

Thank you @@QueenBx I will let you know how it goes.

@@Dknal2 Sending blessings to you this morning. So glad you stayed positive through everything! Good luck!

Sent from my iPad using the BariatricPal App

Edited December 5, 20169 yr by Dknal2

My son waiting with me for surgery as he is on instagram????????

Sounds like me!

Sent from my iPad using the BariatricPal App

@@Dknal2 Hope went well for you today! We are cheering for you. Not judging your husband, but damn it sounds like he doesn't like losing control of unhealthy you. Saying stuff like that--it's all mind games. But I'd wager you're stronger than mind games-- obviously you are, you've given birth and NOW you're getting 80% of your stomach removed. That's hardcore!

But maybe he's going to see what good this is going to be for you. Here's to hoping.

Rooting for you back here in 'Bama!!!

I'm curious if your husband is overweight? My husband is very supportive of me, but a bit worried about me being in better shape when he is not. He admits this is his own issue with insecurity, not a true fear that I will leave him for someine thin.

Sent from my SM-G928P using the BariatricPal App

He's insecure! Concentrate on you & your children!...Don't spend one minute dwelling in his negativity....People will drain the life out of you! LIVE YOUR LIFE HAPPILY as YOU see fit!..Soar!

Sent from my SM-G935T using the BariatricPal App

Hope all went well.

Later, too, tell insecure hubby that while this is about a better you, once you are well and healed, and smaller, there will be better sex for everybody!!! He can 'get' even further; find some "new" stuff. [just sayin'... (Pelvic Surgeon doc here :-)]

Take your time. Get well. Look forward to the new YOU--healthy, happy, foxy and fine.

Edited December 6, 20169 yr by Dr-Patient

Hi everyone... I'm still alive,lol. I had my sleeve done yesterday. It was a rough day 1 with the gas pain and nausea. However , today I feell a lot better.... still have some gas pain but I'm burping a lot now. . I am telling myself this is temporary and in 6 months I'm sure I will say this was a great decision.

Hi everyone... I'm still alive,lol. I had my sleeve done yesterday. It was a rough day 1 with the gas pain and nausea. However , today I feell a lot better.... still have some gas pain but I'm burping a lot now. . I am telling myself this is temporary and in 6 months I'm sure I will say this was a great decision.

Glad all went well. And, it probably won't take 6 mths to say that, probably 6 days! It really does get better every day of the healing phase.

Wonderful news...Thank you for sharing your update. It really helps those of us who are trying to get where you are. Do some "Internet" window shopping while your healing....Pick out a bad dress at Neiman Marcus..and imagine yourself in it in a few months...when you reach that goal!..Buy it????Congratulations!

Sent from my SM-G935T using the BariatricPal App

I hope so . Today I fell better, I have six lap sites and they are quite small. Still walking to remove gas . But I feel better than yesterday. Thank you for keeping me in your thoughts.

Hi everyone... I'm still alive,lol. I had my sleeve done yesterday. It was a rough day 1 with the gas pain and nausea. However , today I feell a lot better.... still have some gas pain but I'm burping a lot now. . I am telling myself this is temporary and in 6 months I'm sure I will say this was a great decision.

Glad all went well. And, it probably won't take 6 mths to say that, probably 6 days! It really does get better every day of the healing phase.

Lol, I should do just that. I'm excited about this journey ahead. Can't wait to start healing. Gas pain is awful but it's getting better.

Wonderful news...Thank you for sharing your update. It really helps those of us who are trying to get where you are. Do some "Internet" window shopping while your healing....Pick out a bad dress at Neiman Marcus..and imagine yourself in it in a few months...when you reach that goal!..Buy it????Congratulations!

Sent from my SM-G935T using the BariatricPal App