If I hear this one more time I'm gonna scream! I did not realize I had to "look" a certain way. I am 150 pounds over weight, sorry if I don't "look" the way you think I should.

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Everyone tells me the same thing. My boss even sat me down in her office trying to convince me to change my mind about the surgery. I'm still in the beginning of the process. I myself have a BMI of 43 and am 130lbs over weight. So I definitely hear you with the "you don't need weight loss surgery"

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You carry your weight so well... you're just tall...yea yea.... people just don't get it. I know, if the zombie apocalypse happened, I'd be the first to get eaten! I can't jog for more than 3seconds. I'm 8wks post op...gotta a long ways to go...but I am going to get lighter and healthier. I can admit I'm fat, why people around me can't, makes no sense!

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I know! I'm 5'8. My Aunt told me, we are just a "big" family deal with it! NO!! I won't.! You may, but not me. I like when I say yes I'm a fat, and need to get this weight off, and people say. You're not fat!! I'm like " are we looking at the same person? You won't hurt my feelings"!

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I honestly get so angry now when I hear that

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You carry your weight so well... you're just tall...yea yea.... people just don't get it. I know, if the zombie apocalypse happened, I'd be the first to get eaten! I can't jog for more than 3seconds. I'm 8wks post op...gotta a long ways to go...but I am going to get lighter and healthier. I can admit I'm fat, why people around me can't, makes no sense!

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I just said that zombie apocalypse reference to my husband four days ago. I hate it when Say to people that I'm fat and they are like where? Like really you don't see what I see come on!

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I think they say it because if you gain the weight back, its their way to make you feel that they like you as you are now.

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No one has said that to me! ????

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I've heard it so many times too! I'm tired of hearing it. I'm also 150lbs over weight and I don't "look" it! I didn't know I had to look a certain way! I also get a lot of people trying to persuade me and change my mind telling me I can do it on my own by eating healthier and exercising and when I tell them I'm going through with the surgery they tell me I'm being hard headed and ignorant! I'm so over it! I'm 3 days away from surgery, I'M READY but so scared! I just want it over with!

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Good luck!! I wish I was 3 days out! Not even close. but my day will come.

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That is so aggravating! Then they tell u how thin u r and u want to believe them but u see a photo and know you are still very obese! "you don't need to lose anymore!"... Please...

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Exactly!

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I hear ya! I'm 5'10 and 286 (on a good day). I wear an XL top and a 18w -20w on the bottom plus I'm latina (big butt and legs). My bmi is 41, sounds so ugly when you say morbidly obese, like, I'm so heavy I can die from complications due to my weight. I have been 318 lbs and I know that I most likely be there again. So, I don't look like I need (or deserve) to be healthy? people are plain confusing...I'm not telling anyone anymore, made 1 mistake and regret it!

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I tell people I am having weight lose surgery and they tell me you don't need it you hide and carry your weight well, gee thanks I pull off being fat well, not. I have knee pain, hip pain and can't aleep. Can't keep up with my kids.

I haven't read the other comments so this may have already been said. This is pretty much the same as people saying, "Oh, you're not fat!", or "you don't need to lose weight", "you don't need to lose THAT MUCH weight", etc. I find this comes from them being uncomfortable agreeing that, yes, you sure are fat!

I never shared my intention to have RNY with anyone. But when I was heavy, and complained about it, I'd get this type response. I stopped complaining about it.

I know this probably isn't the way to handle it but when I kept hearing that phrase at work (nursing) I finally just said in a strong voice, "I'm 5'3" and I weight 240 lbs and my BMI is 42! Each time the reply was "Oh" or "Oh really". No more negative from anyone. Just support. Not too much is private with me so it worked. But not for everyone

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