Sheesh what a long hard journey this is!! I have a very good friend who had lap band and every single little thing I say gets compared to her story! For example today...I say I finish my 3 month pre op diet tomorrow, and I called my dr and it sounds like I still have a long road ahead of me, waiting for insurance approval, waiting for a dr appt, then preop diet and surgery date, she instantly fires back well I had a 6 month diet, and a 4 week pre op diet! It's just like sheesh let me vent just a second about how I am so ready for surgery! She constantly says snide comments about how I could never be a size 10 (I'm a size 22) or how I'll lose the weight and gain it all back that's why lap band is better! Ugh! Ya know?! I love her so much but she made her decision, now I am getting to make mine! Thank you so letting me vent lol

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Some really great replies on here already!

I've decided not to tell people for this reason. Good luck on your journey, I hope you and your baby get lots of sunshine playing outside ????

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I feel your frustration. Smile broadly and blink. Lol seriously, you have to do what is right for you just like she does what's right for her.

My best verbal response I can come up with Awe thank you for your concern. Bless your heart.

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Lol.. Anyone from the south knows the bless your heart comment. We southern women need that to gain ground.. Lol

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I am in my 6th month for my insurance requirement and I have only told my husband, kids and sister. In six months my sister has never asked me about the surgery. I told her the other day to speak now or forever hold your peace. She said one word "nervous?" Literally one word in a half a year. I don't want to hear a thing after the surgery. I'm not even going to tell her my surgery date when I have one. I'm glad my husband is supportive because I've got no support there.

Maybe it's me but I don't see anything wrong with your sister not mentioning surgery. My sister has not said much except a few questions at the very beginning and I usually bring up the topic if we have discussed it since. She is supportive.

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I'm am there with you both. I started to cry reading these posts.

My parents said: "Your mother and I will love you when you get back to your fighting weight."

What I heard: We don't love you now, but maybe in the future when you are different...."

I was devastated.

And I will 'fess up and admit I here and before God himself I found myself yelling uncontrollably at my parents about unconditional love and the current lack of it. In all my years I have never raised my voice at them, I was not raised that way. I am ashamed my son witnessed the chaos. My husband hugged me and dragged me from the room. It was ugly and God hates ugly.

The relationship is strained now and therapy helps me work though the craziness of it all sometimes.

Many ppl on these posts keep reminding me that what I'm about to do is for me and No one else.

But ffs, a little family support would be nice.

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I am sending hugs and support. Just remember that you are doing this for you. Just think about how much healthier you are going to feel. I am looking forward to more mobility and I am dreaming of just being able to fit in a kayak and rowing til my heart is content. I hope you are dreaming of your own positive future.