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I've never been given a calorie target and never been told how much weight I SHOULD lose. Odd. When I asked my NUT about the calories, her reply was if I ate according to plan, I'd get enough in.

Oddly also, when we were discussing Condiments as I transitioned to a regular diet, basically she said I did not need to go low fat options. Her reasoning? Say my meal included 2 meatballs and I wanted to put BBQ Sauce on them, it was only 2 little meatballs- they can't HOLD that much sauce to get me into trouble. Same with a small salad and dressing, etc. Now, I have never cared for anything floating in condiments, but for some that may be a dangerous "go ahead"! Perhaps she told me this because she knows my eating habits so well? Don't know.

As for my surgeon- has never given me a goal to lose since pre op. He did mention at my 3 month appointment that months 3-9 were the "sweet spot" for the most weight loss. I laughed because by that point I'd already dropped the equivalent of a fourth grader and didn't think it could get better than that!

Good luck!

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Thank you everyone for your comments, suggestions and support. @@Babbs I didn't see your comment only in @@LipstickLady comment. Thank you!! . @kmorrri I'm trying to keep up with you and crystal ! No luck. I'm going to focus on tracking. I am slacking there. Going to get strict on my choices and get in at least my 30 min a day of exercise. I appreciate you all!!

You're welcome for sure!

Hmmm....that's weird. I can't see Babb's post anymore either.

@@Alex Brecher , where did Babb's posts go? SO STRANGE!!! This board has been wacky lately. :D

I flagged her as a spammer in error and deleted all her posts. We are working on restoring them.

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Helen, I had surgery on May 20th so I'm in week 8. I've lost about 40 pounds so far and I was concerned that my weight loss was already slowing down. I wasn't expecting to hear 600 calories! I don't know if I can maintain that unless I go back to Protein shakes. Yuck!

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Thank you everyone for your comments, suggestions and support. @@Babbs I didn't see your comment only in @@LipstickLady comment. Thank you!! . @kmorrri I'm trying to keep up with you and crystal ! No luck. I'm going to focus on tracking. I am slacking there. Going to get strict on my choices and get in at least my 30 min a day of exercise. I appreciate you all!!

You're welcome for sure!

Hmmm....that's weird. I can't see Babb's post anymore either.

@@Alex Brecher , where did Babb's posts go? SO STRANGE!!! This board has been wacky lately. :D

I flagged her as a spammer in error and deleted all her posts. We are working on restoring them.

Oh no! I hope you are able to restore her posts soon. She always has some great insight and I love her explanation of the three week stall.

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Helen, I had surgery on May 20th so I'm in week 8. I've lost about 40 pounds so far and I was concerned that my weight loss was already slowing down. I wasn't expecting to hear 600 calories! I don't know if I can maintain that unless I go back to Protein shakes. Yuck!

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Wow. 40 lbs in 8 weeks is fantsstic! I had my sleeve on May 10 and am down 30. Maybe the surgeon meant to do the 600 cal for a day or 2 to change things up so your body starts losing again. And no carbs would be extremely hard as it would mean no vegetables, no fruits or whole grains.

If it were me I would check back for clarification with you surgeon to understand how long he wants you to eat the restricted diet and why.

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So sorry your surgeon feels the need to add extra stress to an already

stressful situation! Hang in there and just keep doing what you know to

be the right things.

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I figured Babbs blocked me because I couldn't see posts. I'm glad it wasn't me.

Man, I wish that people we blocked couldn't see us! I have a daily visitor to my profile looking for things to "back up". I can't see that person but that person sure likes to see me!! :D

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Really? That's kinda creepy! There should be an 'block' feature like Facebook has. I haven't had the need to ignore anyone yet, but if I do, I'd want that person to be unable to see any of my stuff.

Man, I wish that people we blocked couldn't see us! I have a daily visitor to my profile looking for things to "back up". I can't see that person but that person sure likes to see me!! :D

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@@FabFemale,

Our bodies don’t always get the messages about the goals that we (or our nutritionists) set! If you’re doing everything right, you will lose weight, just like you are doing. It will just be on your body’s timeline, not on anyone else’s.

It sounds like you’ve still lost a great amount of weight! You lost 8 lbs in the last 6 weeks or so? That’s great – and here’s why. Because that’s a time when a lot of WLS patients hit their first stall. They may go for a week or a few weeks without losing anything! So you’re doing fine. Don't get down on yourself. Be proud.

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If I can do that I wouldn't need the surgery! Wow!

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