I feel fairly confident to say last week was the worst week of my life. and I am pretty sure this coming week will come second. a week ago Saturday my daddy was killed in a tractor accident on the farm. it was sudden and horrifying.

I have no idea how I even continued to breathe last week much less follow a program.Thankful for that restriction helping me, and that I kind of auto pilot and go to Protein first when it was available. I had determined to just eat whatever people brought to the house and not add to my mama's stress but needing special things. and to drink enough to not get dehydrated - she had enough on her. I walked a lot on the farm, and some on the beach nearby but didn't track anything or worry about any of that stuff. was not capable. don't really know if I am capable of giving that my mental attention now.

but now I am back home, fixing my own foods and it is time to get back with the program and back on plan. Weigh in this morning showed just slight loss and that's good.

I wonder how much extreme emotional stress will affect this journey.

on the positive side my uncle (who I posted about as my inspiration) and I had a nice long visit the evening after the funeral. Daddy was his only brother. He had the sleeve done about 2+ years ago. He told me how proud he is of me and my progress and we shared our surgery stories. he has lost 130 #. His wife of 48 years, my Aunt Loretta died just 5 weeks ago. a lot of hugs and sweet words.

And my Aunt Diane asked me a lot of questions about WLS as she and my cousin Don are considering it. They have both struggled with weight their whole lives.

Everyone said how glad they are that I am not struggling with diabetes anymore and how I am starting to look like the girl they remember before I got heavy.

I am not sure how I can try to put back a life together that has any sense of normality. one day at a time I guess.

I know some of you have had major life stresses happen during your active weight loss phase - were you successful in getting back on task to focus on weight loss/health issues?

I am sorry for your loss. Please take gentle care of yourself.

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I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is very difficult and even more so when it is so sudden.

Having lost my mother way too soon, the only advice I can give you is to be good to yourself. Take the time you need to truly grieve.

The loss never goes away but it does get easier to deal with as time passes.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Hugs.....

I am so sorry to read about the loss of your father. I know there are no words that can ease your heartbreak and I can't imagine what you are going through.

Hugs and healing to you and your family.

@Christianmo7 I too am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad last spring after a long illness. While it was expected it still left a hole in my heart. I can't imagine the shock of losing someone you love so suddenly.

Your feelings of not wanting to do anything are perfectly normal and only human. Don't fret over natural feelings. As others have said so well take it one day at a time. Find strength by knowing your father loved you and was proud of you. He'd want you to be strong and stay the path.

We all find ways to deal with our loss. I threw myself into my work--perhaps not the healthiest response but on reflection its exactly what Dad would have done. I've also spent a lot of time visiting Mom and trying to help her in any way I can.

Notice too all the love around you--your many friends on this board is only the tip of the iceberg I'm sure.

We all feel powerless to help in times like these. Just know that we're all here in your corner, ready to help you in any way we can.

Many hugs...

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I am very sorry for your loss.

You might expect to be a bit numb for a while.... Do your best to have a few healthy options around..... Try to walk or do anything you like just to move a bit...

Just know you will feel this deeply and ..... Since one of our coping mechanism is not there( overeating, mindlessly snacking, etc) you might find it coming in big waves of emotion.

Hoping you can catch your breath inbetween.

We are here to listen.

thank you everyone. I am sorry for everyone of you who has also experienced such a traumatic loss - but to know you are all still going on is, well. it's good to know.

I am so sorry to hear about your dad's passing. He would want you to be focused on moving forward while preserving your precious memories of your time with him. You can only take small steps as your progress through your grief.....choose each step carefully and wisely. I am an only child helping my mom move from AL to IL to be near us. This is very hard too, and I have been struggling with food for the last two weeks here.....but I know I have to make smart choices for myself to be here for my mom. And I've done pretty well on the eating and exercise each day. Keep posting if you feel like you to release some stress. We are here for you.

So sorry for your loss.

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@Christinamo7 - Very sorry for your loss. A lot of major losses and stresses have been the reason why many of us became emotional eaters in the first place.

@@VSGAnn2014 - Wow...that is the perfect list for the OP and for all of us.

@@Christinamo7

So very sorry for your loss. I hope you have loving and caring people around you, and that you find the strength to look after yourself.

My Dad has been ill for a long time now, and he lives far away from me.

I am really worried about him, and worry when I don't hear from him. I myself have been too sick to travel, and life is tough at the moment.

I can only imagine how a sudden death of a parent could feel. Please accept my condolences.

I have had financial stress and stress from my ongoing auto-immune disease issues.

For me, if I get too stressed, it kills my appetite, and I forget to eat.

I try to force myself to have Proteins and stay hydrated.

Lots of great advice and support have been given here.

All my best wishes to you.

I'm very sorry for you loss of your Dad. Please be kind to yourself.

I'm so sorry for your loss - keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. This has a physical impact on your body as well as an emotional one so treat yourself gently similarly to when you were recovering from surgery.

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There are just no words that can help, but I'm so sorry to read what you are going through. Please continue to take care of yourself and your family and I will pray for strength & comfort to you all.

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@@Christinamo7 thinking of you and your family and sending you lots of prayers. I imagine the shock is wearing off so please continue to surround yourself with loved ones and support.

I lost my brother 6 months after WLS and while you know eventually you will get a chance to test your new skills with a crisis, never thought it would be so soon. I am sad you are finding this out yourself, but from all the posts I've read from you and been inspired by, I know you will continue to thrive even though your loss is so huge and unexpected.

Thanks for keeping us updated.

thank you to everyone for sharing your stories and for your condolences.

this has been a difficult week going back to work and all. I remain heartbroken and just trying to do the things I need to do.