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Sleeved April 27. Just wondering if it is normal to feel this depressed. Lost 20 pounds since start of preop diet but feeling super depressed. Like I resent having to cook for my family and I'm just angry because while my clothes are getting big (just had to donate my first load) I don't see the change in myself. I'm so miserable and have so many emotions and I don't understand why. I can tell people are feeling uncomfortable around me and I want to be happy but just am not there

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@@beggingtobehealthy - yes. On top of dealing with REAL issues relating to your relationship with food, and feeling deprived during the transition, the hormones stored in fat are dumping out at a rate you have never dealt with. (I would watch Pretty Woman and cry...if you knew me, you would know that was a real signal that something was off). Please give yourself some grace during this transition. Welcome to the other side and enjoy some great walks which help a bunch with stress and weight loss.

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It's really tough. I didn't realize my connection to food until now. I see the results but I don't feel healthy because I really can't tolerate much. This is a pretty good forum for support but I had to reach out to my medical team. I am still struggling with the regret 5 weeks post op.

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(I would watch Pretty Woman and cry...

OK Pirate......you're banned from the Guys room.... :unsure:

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@@Recycled - dude it was either you or @BigViffer who mentioned the hormone dump and feeling weird and dealing with conflicting emotions and feeling like a wussy in the Guy's Room. On the other side of the coin, my sex drive went through the roof...the only thing I can liken it too was adolescence again at 52. However once I found that thread it all made sense...which is what this site is supposed to do. Once I figured out what was happening was I able to channel it constructively. However the sex was REALLY GREAT.

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Sleeved April 27. Just wondering if it is normal to feel this depressed. Lost 20 pounds since start of preop diet but feeling super depressed. Like I resent having to cook for my family and I'm just angry because while my clothes are getting big (just had to donate my first load) I don't see the change in myself. I'm so miserable and have so many emotions and I don't understand why. I can tell people are feeling uncomfortable around me and I want to be happy but just am not there

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Yes. You are not alone. My surgery was April 28 and I too lost 20 lbs so far. I am depressed if I am alone or not at work. So stay busy doing things you love. I told my husband and son they have to cook for themselves until I am on regular food. Not sure if you can do that but I strongly suggest it.

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Yes. You are not alone. My surgery was April 28 and I too lost 20 lbs so far. I am depressed if I am alone or not at work. So stay busy doing things you love. I told my husband and son they have to cook for themselves until I am on regular food. Not sure if you can do that but I strongly suggest it.

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While I have a great guy to call my own, his idea of cooking is swiping his atm card :( I don't want my kids to have fast food more than once in awhile

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Can you get "assembly" type foods on hand for him that would make it easy for him to cook up dinner for the kids? Example: rotisserie chicken cut up + bagged slaw + tortillas + bottled peanut sauce = Thai taco night. Ramen noodles+frozen japenese veggies+ cut up leftover meat= noodle bowl night. You get the picture. Also staying on this sight and listening to the positive people is really helping with my depression

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Sleeved April 27. Just wondering if it is normal to feel this depressed. Lost 20 pounds since start of preop diet but feeling super depressed. Like I resent having to cook for my family and I'm just angry because while my clothes are getting big (just had to donate my first load) I don't see the change in myself. I'm so miserable and have so many emotions and I don't understand why. I can tell people are feeling uncomfortable around me and I want to be happy but just am not there

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This is fairly common. It's hormones and hopefully you'll feel better both mentally and physically soon. I also recommend this book.

http://www.amazon.com/Emotional-First-Aid-Kit-Practical/dp/0976852659

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