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I have such enormous respect for anyone who has gone through VSG and managed to lose a significant amount of weight. SERIOUSLY, HOW DO YOU PEOPLE DO IT?

I'm 2 months out, and learning about the physical, mental and emotional toll it takes on you. I'm tired, hungry and no longer losing. I've hit a stall for about 2 weeks now. Everyone I know in real life that did this-- the pounds just melted off, and I feel like such an EPIC failure. My mom, who was my support person in the hospital, came to visit me last weekend and it was obvious she thought I looked exactly the same (and I do).

It's a fight to get in the Protein, to stay away from the carbs, to work out, to drink Water all day, but at the end of the day, I'm happy to do it if the pounds come off-- but they're NOT. Am I seriously going to fail at this? I so desperately want this to work, and I am really working hard. I am unbelievably frustrated, and in AWE of you guys.

Anyone else went through something like this early in the process? Suppose I just STAY stalled though? OMG.

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I haven't had surgery, but I've lost weight other ways, and you've got to measure success by what you have direct control over. You don't have direct control over your weight. You can't get up in the morning and decide what weight you are going to be that day. You can decide whether or not to practice good habits. See if you can focus on that as your measure of success.

If that doesn't really cut it for you, take your body measurements instead. That is a much better indicator of fat loss than your weight.

Good luck!

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Stalls are a normal and natural part of ANY weight loss process. Two weeks is not a long stall. I know it's frustrating when you are putting in the work and the numbers aren't showing on the scale, but trust me, that work WILL pay off in the end. You need to remember that your sleeve is forever. This is not a "diet" and you will never be done. How quickly you lose the weight is irrelevant in the grand scheme of things once you are at goal, maintain, and living a happy, healthy life.

The rate of loss is unique to the individual. I was a "slow" loser by all accounts, but I still reached my goal. And I promise you that after a few months in maintenance, I couldn't care less that it took me longer to get here than most other people. Hang in there, trust in your plan, do the work, and you WILL succeed.

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How did I do it?

By sticking to the plan, being patient, and trying to stay as positive as I could that this was going to work.

For the record, the weight didn't just "melt" off of me. It took me almost 13 months to lose 85 pounds. Yes, I got frustrated at the slow loss and the constant stalls, but determination kept me going, and I got there. You will too! It just takes a lot of work....both emotional and physical. Things WILL get easier for you as time goes on. You are still very early out, and it's difficult to eat and drink at your stage. Keep working at it and be patient!

You will look back at this post a year from now and realize how scary and frustrating this all can be early out and be happy you made it to the other side a stronger, healthier, thinner person!

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Guys,

Thank you so much for your kindness and motivation. It really helps to know that people who have been successful have also struggled. I usually love my sleeve, I'm glad I did it, I'm just worried I'm failing it.

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Mine did not melt away either. Every gram was hard-earned. Keep in mind that stalls are like lovers; your first will probably not be your last.

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Like said above, stick to your plan. You can do this! You have your tool, time to work it. It WILL work. Have no doubt.

It took me just shy of 12 months to lose my weight. I had many 2-3 week stalls. But that was my body adjusting. After the first couple broke, I learned to accept them. You will too. It's part of the process.

It takes time for our minds/habits/tastes to change. Our capacity changed in the OR. The others will catch up. Patience. You can do it :-)

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@amazon@Miss Mac how wonderful are you guys....thank you. I started at a high BMI (over 50), and I read about people whose weight just flew right off because they started where I was. It's just not happening like that for me, and it's starting to feel so much like every other diet I've tried and failed. I'm trying to keep the faith and know it's nothing like that, it will break in time. Thank you so much for your encouragement. It means more than you know.

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I think all of us have struggled. Reading many posts tells you this isn't easy. Tracking and journaling my food is my lifesaver. In a plain old notebook. Good luck! Lose the scale awhile and focus on living!

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You have to remember that your body thinks it is in starvation mode right now. It has been getting lots of food for a really long time and now it's not so its going to hang onto any fat until it realizes it isn't starving. Once that happens, the weight will start coming off. I've done many, many diets and have had so many stalls and I know it is frustrating but the surgery is done. The "hard part" is over. Now you just have to trust the process and your body. You are not going to fail at this. I know that because if you were going to fail, you wouldn't be so worried about it. :) Keep us updated!

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Stay the course! We all have stories of mind battles and struggles. It seems so hard now, because this is a major lifestyle change. Keep doing what you were instructed and the stall will eventually end. Hang in there!

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