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Ever notice that when things are going great in your life that some is always waiting in the wings to tear you down? Today it wasn't so much about weight loss as just saying they don't even know why I exist ????. That is a hard one to take especially from someone I don't know. I try so hard not to be a mean person and treat people with respect. I am not perfect and make lots of mistakes. But it doesn't mean I am not human and get hurt ????

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It takes a very whacked person to say stupid stuff like that. Knowing that, I wouldn't give it a second thought because it's clear that there is something horrible in their life to make them think it's appropriate to say that to someone. You don't require validation from anyone. You are awesome and exist for so many reasons. While they dwell in their own misery keep that pretty smile on your face and your chin up. Big hugs to you!

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Ever notice that when things are going great in your life that some is always waiting in the wings to tear you down? Today it wasn't so much about weight loss as just saying they don't even know why I exist . That is a hard one to take especially from someone I don't know. I try so hard not to be a mean person and treat people with respect. I am not perfect and make lots of mistakes. But it doesn't mean I am not human and get hurt

Try to stay positive. You are doing great!!! I REALLY enjoyed our hike yesterday!!!

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Thanks everyone!

I just need some exercise to work out my stress. Haha

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Let's try to keep this thread on topic. Fat2Phat2016 is hurting and looking for support. Let's try to give that to her. We all need support sometimes.

Thanks! I am looking for support that I am worth existing. Being a fat person my whole life is hard enough to live through. All the hurt that can come from other people. I thought I had found a forum where we all supported one another. But to hear that from another member is heartbreaking.

Fat or not, how could you possibly let something a complete stranger said to you on the internet bother you so much?

I would suggest you get some therapy to help you overcome some obvious self esteem issues. It's not going to help with your weight loss journey if you crumble anytime someone says something mean to you. People can be assholes, plain and simple. In real life and ESPECIALLY on the intertubes.

Do like dogs do. Kick some grass on that shiat and just walk away.

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Let's try to keep this thread on topic. Fat2Phat2016 is hurting and looking for support. Let's try to give that to her. We all need support sometimes.

Thanks! I am looking for support that I am worth existing. Being a fat person my whole life is hard enough to live through. All the hurt that can come from other people. I thought I had found a forum where we all supported one another. But to hear that from another member is heartbreaking.
Fat or not, how could you possibly let something a complete stranger said to you on the internet bother you so much?

I would suggest you get some therapy to help you overcome some obvious self esteem issues. It's not going to help with your weight loss journey if you crumble anytime someone says something mean to you. People can be assholes, plain and simple. In real life and ESPECIALLY on the intertubes.

Do like dogs do. Kick some grass on that shiat and just walk away.

Hi. Thanks. Just had a bad day and then that happened.

I am actually in a great spot right now. ????

The sun will come out tomorrow ☀️

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It seams I am missing something previous to this thread, but @@Fat2Phat2016 if someone is dogging on you for whatever reason, forget them. Not sure why someone would "attack" you, but it seems ridiculous. If you did attack first, then so be it. Sometimes we say things out of anger. I have done that plenty of times believe me and many times I have regretted it. Just be done with all of this. Move on. Don't even respond anymore to anything you consider negative directed toward yourself.

Just get rid of the thread, don't start any more unless it deals with WLS and move on. You are a wonderful person and we all have many wonderful things to be thankful for. Start focusing on all the pounds we are all losing!!!!!!!!! Well, all of y'all, haha, I seem to be stuck AGAIN.

Go out, my dear, talk a long walk, and clear your mind of the negativity. Like I said, think about all the great friendships we share :)

Have a wonderful evening my friend!

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It seams I am missing something previous to this thread, but @@Fat2Phat2016 if someone is dogging on you for whatever reason, forget them. Not sure why someone would "attack" you, but it seems ridiculous. If you did attack first, then so be it. Sometimes we say things out of anger. I have done that plenty of times believe me and many times I have regretted it. Just be done with all of this. Move on. Don't even respond anymore to anything you consider negative directed toward yourself.

Just get rid of the thread, don't start any more unless it deals with WLS and move on. You are a wonderful person and we all have many wonderful things to be thankful for. Start focusing on all the pounds we are all losing!!!!!!!!! Well, all of y'all, haha, I seem to be stuck AGAIN.

Go out, my dear, talk a long walk, and clear your mind of the negativity. Like I said, think about all the great friendships we share :)

Have a wonderful evening my friend!

Thanks so much!

I am just moving on. I am feeling much better already ????

I would go for a walk but the wind chill is 4 degrees. Yikes!

You have a good evening too!

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You are so much stronger then you even realize. Words will never have the power to destroy you. We all believe in you so you stay strong in heart and body. You are worth it!

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Omg! I was just sitting here whining about how cold I am. It is about 44 degrees LOL. Forget the walk hahaha

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It seams I am missing something previous to this thread, but @@Fat2Phat2016 if someone is dogging on you for whatever reason, forget them. Not sure why someone would "attack" you, but it seems ridiculous. If you did attack first, then so be it. Sometimes we say things out of anger. I have done that plenty of times believe me and many times I have regretted it. Just be done with all of this. Move on. Don't even respond anymore to anything you consider negative directed toward yourself.

Just get rid of the thread, don't start any more unless it deals with WLS and move on. You are a wonderful person and we all have many wonderful things to be thankful for. Start focusing on all the pounds we are all losing!!!!!!!!! Well, all of y'all, haha, I seem to be stuck AGAIN.

Go out, my dear, talk a long walk, and clear your mind of the negativity. Like I said, think about all the great friendships we share :)

Have a wonderful evening my friend!

Let's try to keep this thread on topic. Fat2Phat2016 is hurting and looking for support. Let's try to give that to her. We all need support sometimes.

Thanks! I am looking for support that I am worth existing. Being a fat person my whole life is hard enough to live through. All the hurt that can come from other people. I thought I had found a forum where we all supported one another. But to hear that from another member is heartbreaking.
Fat or not, how could you possibly let something a complete stranger said to you on the internet bother you so much?

I would suggest you get some therapy to help you overcome some obvious self esteem issues. It's not going to help with your weight loss journey if you crumble anytime someone says something mean to you. People can be assholes, plain and simple. In real life and ESPECIALLY on the intertubes.

Do like dogs do. Kick some grass on that shiat and just walk away.

Hi. Thanks. Just had a bad day and then that happened.

I am actually in a great spot right now.

The sun will come out tomorrow ☀️

to parra phrase my favorite quote: You are worthy of existence. And the relationship you have with God is way more valuable than anything else on this piddly earth we call home. Embrace those that love you and walk past those that don't accept you. But remember it was always about you and God....and never about them anyway!!!

Edited by Fatty McFatster

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Ever notice that when things are going great in your life that some is always waiting in the wings to tear you down? Today it wasn't so much about weight loss as just saying they don't even know why I exist . That is a hard one to take especially from someone I don't know. I try so hard not to be a mean person and treat people with respect. I am not perfect and make lots of mistakes. But it doesn't mean I am not human and get hurt

I think the person who said that meant to say they don't know why they are so miserable. (((hugs)))

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Thanks to everyone who said nice things to me. I really appreciate it.

Special thanks to my husband for always taking up for me. I love you @@Fatty McFatster.

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I really hope I didn't make you feel that way. It was not my intention. I think a lot of time things are said in our heads one way and the person reading hears it in their head completely different. Don't let the picture stop your progress or defer you from your support group. I know it was disappointing, my picture never got posted so I never got to see it. Just keep up your good work and remember everything happens for a reason. Good luck

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