Tubaligation and gastric bypass?

[diane1 26]

Has anyone had their tubes tied at the same time as they had their bypass done?

[Anilyn 22]

Interested in the answers. My PCP suggested that my husband have the big V, but I feel badly that he would need to do that because I'm purusing RNY.

[WLSResources/ClothingExch 3,443]

@@diane1 -- Is that something your bariatric surgeon said he does or will do? Tubal ligation isn't an area of expertise for me, but I'd never have thought a general surgeon would perform the procedure.

@@Anilyn -- Is tubal something you want? Vasectomy is a simpler procedure. I suppose you and your husband have at least begun discussion. Would he/does he claim the fictitious, fabled male entitlement or to be a partner in birth control? He'll benefit down the road from your RNY -- you'll be around longer. What is he offering for your benefit -- as a partner in life, that is, not as a begrudging martyr? Just tossing it out for your consideration; don't wanna know any intimate details.

[Anilyn 22]

We don't want kids and just hadn't thought about either options. I would imagine he's uncomfortable with the idea.

[WLSResources/ClothingExch 3,443]

@@Anilyn -- Aha! The operative word is "imagine." You haven't talked about it, or not in depth? The decision is between you, of course, and that's why I never want to know the final word. I just hate seeing the woman taking the greater risk for birth control. Please do have some talks.

Now for my rantlet, during which you're free to close your ears. These are general statements, not specifically about your husband. Why do men refuse to know that the woman takes the greater surgical risk (there's always risk with any surgery) or refuse to care enough? Why do they think birth control is the women's realm alone? Why are they such ninnies...about most things?y they think it's the woman's responsibility. Why they're such ninnies? If they don't want to have vasectomy, let them embrace condoms. So there, take that. Thanks, I needed that.

By the way, at which pre-surgery stage are you now?

Edited November 19, 2015 by WLSResources/ClothingExch

[diane1 26]

A friend of my cousins in Texas had a ob gyne brought in after her sleeve was done that took care her tubaligation. I was just wondering anyone else's experience with that since I feel it would be easier for me since I'm already in the middle of surgery. My husband did have a vasectomy ( or half of one) 14 years ago. He had complications and and they were only able to finish one side. It was terrible. He couldn't work for a month. This resulted in my fifth child. I'm almost 40, my sister in law that is 42 just found out she was pregnant, I am terrified. My husband and I are extremely fertile people and being on the pill has been our best option that obviously works really well for us. I've read that after bypass the pull is really not an option for you because of absorbtion issues.

[Anilyn 22]

No we haven't really talked about it. Now we do the pill and condoms (we really aren't up for kids) lol

I'm just starting the process. My pcp had agreed to refer me for RNY. I likely have a year to wait.

[WLSResources/ClothingExch 3,443]

@@Anilyn -- Best wishes on the Yellow Brick Road.

Since you don't want kids, have you thought of adopting a ready-made person? She doesn't need changing, minds her own business unless the subject is permanent birth control, and is financially independent. She's a wannabe Canadian who picks up after herself.

[Anilyn 22]

That sounds great!

[WLSResources/ClothingExch 3,443]

@@Anilyn -- I'm all yours.

[Anilyn 22]

Do you do dishes?

[WLSResources/ClothingExch 3,443]

As a matter of fact I do. It's good, cathartic idiot work -- most beneficial. But if I do the dishes, you and your husband have to do the cooking. Deal? You realize, of course, that you're adopting someone probably older than your parents? Cute, eh?

I fit in already. Notice the "eh?"

Edited November 21, 2015 by WLSResources/ClothingExch

[Anilyn 22]

@WLSResources/ClothingExch You fit in already. I'm good with older people. You need to be accepting of rabbits, and birds. And rabbit/bird poop and rabbit/bird destruction.

[WLSResources/ClothingExch 3,443]

Oh. I suppose that precludes getting the kitten I've been wanting, Mommy?

Poop? Okay, as long as you remember that I only do dishes.

Somewhere I have a photo of myself sitting in a friend's house with a baby blue jay sitting on my head. They'd found him in their yard, the proverbial "naked ... blue jay," the size of a pinkie. The local, licensed wildlife rehabilitator was leaving for vacation, so gave them the info for bird care, including little lessons to teach him to forage. When I arrived at their upstate NY home for a visit, the bird was feathered, but grayish-brownish. In the week I was there, his blue color began to show, his crest began to form and his sweet chirp began changing to a jay's squawk. Upon seeing and hearing birds fly overhead in all directions when I took him into the yard in his cage, he began jumping, flapping and making noise, He knew that he was born (hatched, really, but you knew that) to be up there with them. I took him back in to the kitchen to give him his first flying lessons. He taught himself the rest. A few weeks later, my friends drove with him in his cage to a heavily wooded area, took him out of the car and opened the cage door so that he flew off to live his natural life.

[WLSResources/ClothingExch 3,443]

@@diane1 --

Your note of the 19th just caught my eye. You have my apology for having hijacked your topic out of obliviousness.

It looks as though tubal is the sensible solution for you. Unless you already know for sure that the bariatric surgeon will do two-in-one, certainly discuss the options. Then decide whether you're comfortable with his/her tubal track record or would prefer a separate procedure by a gyn.