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I started my period a day after coming home from hospital. It is super heavy I am guessing due to the blood thinners and stress to my body. I am still hooked up to my pain pump. I got undressed and just started to cry. My belly has always been nice not a lot of stretch marks during pregnancy and always nice and round with my babies. Now I see keloid marks from my sleeve and the addition of two or three more entry points. I know in my mind it is NOT the end of the world I am just so super emotional right now. My husband told me I still have a cute belly. I feel so hormonal and sad in this moment. My post op diet is a breeze I am progressing. I am just sad. That it came to this after so many failed attempts of weight loss. My whole life.....

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They are VICTORY marks! That's all. They subside over time. But I get it; BOY do I get it. I've had a total of 6 operations r/t my RNY and subsequent challenges. Look on the bright side; it isn't an incision that goes from one end to the other! Hang in there!! It IS worth it.

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A few months after surgery, my skin began to shrivel up on my face. I literally looked like I was a hundred years old. My skin was paper thin with the finest wrinkles. I began to wonder if it was all worth it. It was one of those moments. Sort of similar to yours.

My wife suggested I use a produce called Bio-Oil on my face. I did and my wrinkles dissolved away. Sometimes there is a solution right around the corner that can help. Sometimes you just need to give it a little time. For me it took six months before I reached my happy state when all the problems went away.

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Scars show you have lived and usually are earned. My scars are a badge of honor. I'm fighting the fight and so are you ( so are we all). They will heal and other things will occur, then you won't even think about these again... You will be ok..

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Thank you. After talking to my husband the scars are really not the rooted issue. It is the years of pain associate with being over weight. The emotion of taking such a drastic measure to make myself health for me and my family. To be a better role model for my girls. The scars are the surface, the pain runs deeper and will be something that I address through this process,

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Try and find the bright side of things. Sounds like you have a great hubby who knows your beauty far beyond your skin! Yup, we've all had failed attempts at weight loss, but no one but YOU is making this happen right now! And if you don't think you are, quit doing what you are doing and see if it keeps working.

I have a tendency to keloid and was concerned about it enough to ask my doctor about it prior to my surgery. 2 of my six incision sites appear to have a developed small keloids. (And I have a fairly large one on my neck thanks to a prior surgery). I call them warrior wounds. Luckily, the two biggest incision sites have healed normally.

My kids said to me last night I look like I have two belly buttons due to the placement/deep nature of one of the incisions. I figure if I want to make the best of it, I can get the incision pierced since piercing my actual belly button would only ever work after a Tummy Tuck. That would make heads turn for sure LOL.

Keep ya' head up!

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It IS a process and through it, much will be revealed about yourself. What an adventure you have in store. What a JOURNEY to a new and improved YOU!!

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It IS a process and through it, much will be revealed about yourself. What an adventure you have in store. What a JOURNEY to a new and improved YOU!!

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This totally. The scars are just a representation of where my real emotion stems from. They make me face issues that are locked away.

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