Who doesn't like a good horror story? As we approach Halloween, it seems like a good time to recount our favorite dating horror story. I hope this will inspire those who are wondering if the grass is greener in the single world to work on their relationships .

I meet most of my dates online. I like to email, text and talk to them on the phone and then eventually meet for a quick coffee date. You would think with all that screening you could figure out who's sane before you go out to dinner. <Sigh>, not always.

I had my first dine and dash last month. We were supposed to just meet for drink, but the conversation got really good and I really liked her company. It's actually a good sign when you can get lost in the conversation for so long, so I suggested we grab dinner.

One of the things she said that "getting her credit back after her ex's irresponsible money habits was important." As things would happen, my main debit card was still at the outside bar, and I used my other one to pay for dinner. Opps, forgot had an automatic payment post and the card was declined, not a problem, I just used the credit card. Bill paid.

I go out to outside bar to settle up, she was following, paid that, turned around and she was gone.

After a few minutes of wandering around looking like an idiot, I texted her to find out where she was so I could say good night.

She texted back, that "I told you credit was important to me, and your card was declined so I left." I told her, "well that took real balls to just take off like that" and then I sent her a bill for her half of the meal and drinks since she was so concerned about my financial condition.

Actually the $70 'she owed me' was probably a cheep price to keep that one out of my life.

Anyone else care to share?

Love reading the experiences, I feel for the bad ones and cheer for the happy outcomes. A friend helped me set up a Tinder profile a few weeks back and I promised myself that I would give it a fair shot. The first guy that I was supposed to meet with canceled around 3p in the afternoon the day we were supposed to go out. Claimed his 90yo mother has been in the hospital with pneumonia...blah blah blah. I was about to start a 2+ hour Zumba-thon, so It truly didn't faze me. Instead, that night I went out with gfs and had another Tinder guy meet me there. He was nice looking, had an awesome body (Iron worker) but the brains/attraction wasn't there. I'm the type that'll take the brainiac smart azz over the beautiful body builder any day.

So, tonight I have my first real date in about 4 years. He's from Tinder too. Italian, IT guy who loves vintage cars and has traveled the world. He's definitely a smart azz and the phone conversation we had the other night was great. Looks-wise...eh. He's only a bit taller than me and is loaded with tattoos...never dated a guy with tattoos. We shall see how it goes. I'm reall looking forward to get back on the horse (@@CowgirlJane, that's in the works too!)

I also have another date planned for tomorrow night for drinks. I'm totally treating this as a numbers game (@@OKCPirate, I paid attention)

@@FinallyFit50s - glad you are paying attention...I'm heading off for a weekend with HER. Oh this is so cool and worth all the dang work and numbers. When you finally find the one, it makes you really appreciate it.

First, this morning got a text from tonight date that he has a nasty cold and to "postpone" our date. It's a numbers game. I'm cool with it.

My last night date looked like he pic he sent me. Truly NOT my type, but my bestie commented that I don't really have a type. He is covered in tattoos, none on face neck or hands, but full back, arms and legs. Showed me the art work in pictures. HOLY COW...they are intense!

He treated me like a lady, helped me take off my coat, helped with my chair etc. We ate a really deliecious New Orleans southern-inspired meal while listening to a blues band (Breakfast and lunch from the leftovers). The conversation was easy and I was really comfortable. He paid for it all (was nice after the last "real" date begged me to go out and then pulled the split the bill at the end), walks me to my car and gave me a nice hug.

Then he asked me if there was an attraction, I told him the truth...I don't get giddy vibes on a fist date. (Nor do I kiss on the first date. Yep, weird old-fashioned.) He asked me to text him when I got home to make sure I was safe. I did and this morning we talked again. There is just something really intriguing about him. He's family oriented, well traveled and spoken, intelligent, witty, sarcastic and has a very warped sense of humor like I do. I also told him that the tattoos scare the bee jeeps out of me; since I have NEVER dated a guy with any tattoos, nevermind covered in them.

We are making plans to go out again Monday to the casino since I'm leaving for Tennesee Wednesday wee hours. He wanted to take me to 6 Flags, but it's not open during the week yet. I haven't been since my kids were teens...I'm up for new experiences!

Meanwhile, still have a couple guys that are trying to make plans with me. We shall see. I'm going with the flow. Dating is FUN, with the right attitude.

I had a horrible date on Wed. I have gone out with this guy before, and he drove 3 hours to see me each time. I wasn't really attracted to him, but I thought I'd give it a whirl.

Long story short, we went to lunch and I couldn't eat all my lunch and so I decided to tell him about my WLS.

We went back to my house and I used the rest room. He had moved my phone so I could see it, and left me a text. It said "your stomach surgery really grosses me out and I'm not feeling it anymore. I am driving home"

Yesterday it was 7 years ago that I was sleeved. I could have chosen not to tell him. This is the first time this has happened to me, and I know it's no great loss . Like I said, I wasn't even attracted to this guy, but he still made me feel like $ hit. I'm better now though, cause I know it's his loss.

I had a horrible date on Wed. I have gone out with this guy before, and he drove 3 hours to see me each time. I wasn't really attracted to him, but I thought I'd give it a whirl.

Long story short, we went to lunch and I couldn't eat all my lunch and so I decided to tell him about my WLS.

We went back to my house and I used the rest room. He had moved my phone so I could see it, and left me a text. It said "your stomach surgery really grosses me out and I'm not feeling it anymore. I am driving home"

Yesterday it was 7 years ago that I was sleeved. I could have chosen not to tell him. This is the first time this has happened to me, and I know it's no great loss . Like I said, I wasn't even attracted to this guy, but he still made me feel like $ hit. I'm better now though, cause I know it's his loss.

Sorry you had to deal with this jerk! What can possibly be gross about it? It's not like he can see the after affects internally.

I had a horrible date on Wed. I have gone out with this guy before, and he drove 3 hours to see me each time. I wasn't really attracted to him, but I thought I'd give it a whirl.

Long story short, we went to lunch and I couldn't eat all my lunch and so I decided to tell him about my WLS.

We went back to my house and I used the rest room. He had moved my phone so I could see it, and left me a text. It said "your stomach surgery really grosses me out and I'm not feeling it anymore. I am driving home"

Yesterday it was 7 years ago that I was sleeved. I could have chosen not to tell him. This is the first time this has happened to me, and I know it's no great loss . Like I said, I wasn't even attracted to this guy, but he still made me feel like $ hit. I'm better now though, cause I know it's his loss.

My new tactic is to only tell the ones I am not attracted to about the WLS as it invariably makes them vanish!

@@Oregondaisy that sucks. I am quite sure M would be ok with the WLS but I just don't feel the need to share it and nobody questions my modest meals.

@@Oregondaisy that sucks. I am quite sure M would be ok with the WLS but I just don't feel the need to share it and nobody questions my modest meals.

I've never had anyone react like that and for me it was so casual like pass the ketchup. I was so shocked when I realized he was gone and read the text.

@@Oregondaisy That was just an excuse. Sorry it happened to you. I'm with @@CowgirlJane that I don't tell my dates, heck I hardly tell any other folks. Do let us know how it works with telling the guys you don't like. As a social scientist, I love to hear the stories.

This past week, I had a nice, friendly lunch date with a guy I met online. The conversation was typical first date stuff... family, education, interests etc. He seemed very normal. There was no real flirting, no groping, or any of the things that previous weirdos have done. I wasn't really sure he liked me. Afterwards, I get a text "Don't work too hard. You have a really cute lisp." I read it out loud at work. My co-workers said "Did you lisp when you talked to him? You don't have a lisp." It was so odd. I ignored the message. The next day his text was "Do you want to chat?" I responded that I was working. He then asked "Would you like to be FWB?" I stared at my phone, stunned. Then I answered with "The nicest response that I can come up with is "Not my kinda thing" Unreal.... I swear I am a weirdo magnet.

@@RILEYSMOM22 - young lady it is a numbers game. Half the population is below average. But look, when you hit the right one for you, all the crap will be worth it.

I'm afraid to ask - but curious enough to do so anyhow... um... oh nvm... I just figured it out while I was writing this out.

I'm still pre surgery, sad to say online dating and texting have ruined dating. Everyone is so fabulous and perfect behind the screen, too bad when they get out from behind the screen they aren't anything they have wrote in their profile.

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I'm still pre surgery, sad to say online dating and texting have ruined dating. Everyone is so fabulous and perfect behind the screen, too bad when they get out from behind the screen they aren't anything they have wrote in their profile.

I don't think that is true. Virtually everyone I met on Match and EHarmony were very true to who they described. The odds of finding the one you gel with is low. It's work and it requires an open mind.

I don't miss first dates, but 90% were nice and pleasant. The hardest part was telling someone "I don't think we clicked but it was nice meeting you"

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I can only speak from my experience that I've had from meeting men online. I take each experience as a learning experience, I do get frustrated and take a break. Right now I'm focused on being a better me with hopefully the help of WLS.

You sound like you come from a place of honesty, when that's in play dating is as it should be.

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Edited May 16, 201610 yr by nyteacher125