I just have to get this off my chest ... omgosh ...

I have a co-worker who ... soaking wet .. probably weighs 90 lbs ...

She just came to me and said she was getting 2 donuts this morning and will start her diet next week ...

OH PLEASE !

I said ... Why next week ? Why stop now?

She said ... I just don't know how to be stern with myself ...

I said ... it's really simple ... you say no and walk away ... easy peasy.

She laughed and said ...Yea on Monday I will ....

First of all ... why diet? You're too skinny as it is ...

Second ... GET YOUR FREAKING DONUT BREATH AWAY FROM ME!

OMGOSH !

@@Babbs Well said and I totally agree! And although my son is normal weight, thus far, I teach him not only Self love and respect, but love and respect to others as well. I don't want to raise a child who hates himself or who discriminates against others.

I'm not an expert, but it seems to me that although there are people with faster and with slower metabolism, and although it's harder to maintain the weight if you used to be overweight, most people who are thin just don't eat as much and/or they exercise.

Of course when someone slim tells me 'I've just eaten two donuts' my first thought is exactly the same as your. But I must honestly and unwillingly admit that I didn't get obese by eating one donut per day - I overate in terms of calories and portions every single day, and I could easily stuff myself with 3-4 donuts a time. I know not everyone works out and watches the food intake, but still... I'm pretty sure they don't binge like I use to.

I pay a lot more attention these days to how much others are eating. (Pre-op, I didn't notice that so much.)

And in my estimation, only a few of my skinny friends are eating "a lot." When eating out at restaurants, they generally order what they enjoy eating and what they find delicious (not particularly low-calorie food), but they usually don't eat it all and leave food on their plates. They don't eat a lot of bread (or any).

A lot of them are "foodies" -- they cook a lot at home, share recipes, and are on the lookout for where good food is served.

They exercise -- walk a lot, do strength training, and yoga.

Every once in a while, they take a break from food -- doing a mini-cleanse diet, eschewing alcohol for a few weeks or a month, etc.

They stay well hydrated (they're seldom without a bottle or glass of Water nearby).

Yes, some of them do complain about having gained five pounds and how they need to take it off. But they always do seem to lose those five pounds. And then gain it. And then lose it again.

This is what their normal looks like.

Sounds like "maintenance" to me.

I agree with @@VSGAnn2014

My "naturally thin" friends are actually "naturally watchful" people. Most order an appetizer or a soup/salad when we go out and always leave food behind. Those who "eat all day" generally only take a bite or three here and there and it's NOT chips/brownies/cookies. When they do take a piece of cake, it's an eensy slice despite all the "You can have more! You are so skinny!!" from the other women. Yes, they have "fat days" -- generally because they've reached the top of the bounce range THEY allow themselves. A few of them have even joined WWs with only 10 pounds to lose because they are smart. They are staying on top of the game BEFORE their weight is a real issue.

I now do what they do, something I wasn't able to do before my sleeve. I wish I would have figured this out 20 years and 110+ pounds ago.

I believe the original poster states hatred and prejudice while being fat, she didn't say that it is the worst thing in the world, I agree with what she said, obesity the world's only acceptable form of prejudice.......................

Yeah I hate when skinny people say they are fat. Omg.

And, the worker who said being fat is the worst thing ever.... She is proof that it's true. Society treats overweight people HORRIBLY and she probably doesn't want her daughters to experience that sort of hatred and prejudice. It's so sad.
Heck, I had a roommate say in front of me that she didn't want to ever gain weight because she would look like a beached whale and then glance over at me in disgust. Smh.
I've had a lot of experience getting bullied for my weight. And my romantic life SUCKS. I definitely wouldn't wish this on my own daughter (should I ever have one). I wish the world treated us as equals, but it Doesn't. Sad truth.

You can't POSSIBLY be insinuating that there's nothing worse in the human experience than being fat??

I can name a few just off the top of my head:

Losing a child

Suffering from cancer

Living in a war torn country

I mean, let's get some perspective here....

@Threetimesacharm I am the original poster on this topic ... and I didn't say anything like that ...

I was just venting about a naturally thin co-worker and her donuts ...

I thought "Rants & Raves" was the proper room to vent ... so that is what I was doing ...

I don't know any thin people who don't work hard at being and keeping thin. As a pre-op dieter, I assumed all thin people just ate what they wanted then either worked out all the time or had fast metabolisms. Now while that may apply to *some* thin individuals it definitely doesn't encompass *all* thin people.

My SIL is a very beautiful woman with a great body. She likes to drink her wine and have her gourmet dinners. She enjoys the types of foods I so often loved to cook, eat and share. The difference being, she would never consume in one sitting the amount of food I would. Never.

She may have a couple of pastries for Breakfast but she would do that once or twice a month. I on the other hand would eat 3-4 pastries everyday if they were available. She works out, walks daily, has an active lifestyle and enjoys everything in moderation. In other words, she works hard to maintain her well sculpted body. I only worked hard at stuffing gobs of food in my body.

There is a difference between naturally thin people and thin people who work at it. "Naturally thin" people don't have to exercise or think about what they eat, they can eat anything and stay skinny. I know people like this. They definately don't exercise or care about what they eat.

Yeah, I know of some naturally thin people who eat copious amounts of Junk foods, drink sodas on a daily basis, don't think or care about calories, fat, carbs, etc, Never exercise and yet never go above a size 2 or size 4. Ugh. I wish. ????????

Yeah, I know of some naturally thin people who eat copious amounts of Junk foods, drink sodas on a daily basis, don't think or care about calories, fat, carbs, etc, Never exercise and yet never go above a size 2 or size 4. Ugh. I wish.

I know people like that. I know they can't help it, that's just the way nature made them....but I can't help but hate them a little LOL

@@Sophie74656 Lol!!!! ???????????????????????? Too funny.

I know 1 naturally skinny person my grandad he can eat litteraly anything drinks 2-3 regular Pepsi every day but he at the age of 77 still gets up at 4 am and goes to work in construction

There are a lot of insecure skinny people out there!