Need some brutal honesty

[Healthy_life2 8,319]

Today is the first time I seen these photos side by side. I was going for looking healthy. After looking at these I have questions.

weight 199

Weight 140

Honestly need some feed back. I know my view of myself is still distorted from the weight loss.....Is this my age? can fillers help? I'm a healthy BMI If I gain a few and stay in the healthy BMI category would it help?

[*Lexie* 1,486]

I think you look great in both photos. It may take a few more months up to a year before everything settles and skin snaps back. If that doesn't happen, you can always explore fillers. I am getting Botox around my eyes as a reward when I hit goal.

[_Kate_ 2,224]

I have had botox a couple of times, once before my wedding and once before my honeymoon (10 months after the wedding).

I haven't had it since but would be happy to do so if needed. You look lovely in both photos but it should be how you feel rather than what we think. I hope I look as good as you when I am at goal!!

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

I think you look great.

If you want to change up your look, before you do something extreme, why not try a new hairstyle or try some new makeup just for fun.

I agree, it just might take some time to really see yourself and feel comfortable with the new you.

[Healthy_life2 8,319]

@@Inner Surfer Girl @ @@*Lexie*

Thanks ladies!!!!. I will wait a few months to see if my skin snaps back. If not I think I will check into fillers. Never thought about botox. I am goggling my local doctors that do botox today.

[pink dahlia 2,513]

Honestly, I think you look perfect just the way you are ! Im not sure what you are /were expecting face wise after you lost the weight, but I think you look like a healthy , happy 40 something , normal sized lady . Your skin looks perfect ! Maybe before the extreme idea of Botox, treat yourself to a visit at a Aesthetician for a beauty treatment and some professional advice ? Either way , congrats on your weight loss !

[Babbs 14,680]

I agree, you look great! Unfortunately, us ladies in our 40's will have to deal with the ravages of time. Some deal with it without letting it bother them too much, some like to pursue other options...the nip/tuck or a little botox. I'm not opposed to either when the time comes.

You are quite a bit thinner than I am, so I still have a little plumpness to my face. I think if I got down to your weight my 48 years would definitely show. I'll see how low I go weight wise and take it from there. If you find a good doctor who does botox in our area, let me know

[James Marusek 5,244]

After I lost weight, I noticed that overnight very fine wrinkles covered my whole face. I'm old (66) but I looked like I was 100 years old. I was disappointed with the effect of the surgery on my face. My wife suggested using a moisturizer called BioOil which I purchased at CVS. I bought it and used it and began looking young again.

You have dropped almost half your former weight. Probably need to let your body catch up.

[JamieLogical 8,684]

I think the others are right that you should give it a little time. Sometimes as we lose weight, it just gets distributed in an odd fashion for a little while and then things even out a bit better. I've noticed this throughout all of my past weight loss and this time around as well. Plus, the skin *can* bounce back a little with time. So if you are unhappy with how you look right now (I don't think you should be, but I understand that's a very personal thing), maybe just wait a couple more months before doing anything drastic.

[pink dahlia 2,513]

P.S. I forgot to mention, besides visiting an Aesthetician for skin care ( I ve never done it but would if necessary ) you might want to look at different makeup ( foundation ). I like that Revlon New Complexion Foundation is a creme makeup , (better for moisture ) it gives good coverage , non drying and has a SPF 15. Love it !

[IcanMakeit 1,318]

When I first made goal I thought I looked a lot older than I did when I was obese. Now, months later, I feel that my face has adjusted to the weight loss and has lost the Skeletor look. But this is all probably more in my head than reality. People didn't see me as I saw myself. When I told my husband that I thought I was looking better, he said I looked fine all along.

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

One word: Bad Lighting.

The lighting in those two photographs is hugely different. In the second one, it's from up above, which drops shadows on either side of your mouth and elsewhere.

If you took a photograph of your face right now with no glaring light dropping down from above (as the light was in the pre-op photo) I think you'd see a very different kind of image.

As Elizabeth Taylor said, when asked the difference between the movies and real life: "Bad lighting and no score."

[jess9395 5,448]

I am right there with you, my face makes me self conscious but I think as much of it is my age as my weight. I've waited eight months and the skin has bounced back some but not all.

I am considering Botox and an ultrasound therapy for my neck.

[erp 2,016]

@jenn1. I think there is a bit of confusion as many mentioned Botox. Botox is all good to relax lines at eye level and above but based on the pictures you need to ask a doctor or medi-spa about a filler like Juvederm or Restalyne. Those are for under eye and down.

[Healthy_life2 8,319]

@@erp

Sounds great. I will check into it.