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Hi,

I have my op booked for Mid June, after waiting for 4 years for a date to be set and it actually happening now...I feel very emotional and cant stop having mixed emotions.

I know this is what I need because I have tried all sorts of diets etc and am trying to think of the positives that will come from this, like fitting in to chairs, flying etc but at times I feel I just don't know if I am doing the right thing... I keep looking around and thinking 'why am I having to go through such extreme measures to be NORMAL'...

I guess I just need someone to talk to who went through this emotional roller coater as I am now 3 weeks before I have my op, I start liver shrinkage tomorrow.

Any advise or just a listener would be great!

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It took me 3 years to finally make a decision. I would do it all over again as this has been one of those life changing things that has produced fantastic results. This is not an easy decision to make. You have to be ready to change your eating habits and the way you look at eating. Lap band surgery is a tool. It can be defeated easily,but if you are ready to change this will produce great results. Hang in there and best of luck.

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i had the same emotions and I told my self "need a change" and im glad I did. Remember is all on you if you want to change...

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Hi KlippyKat,

It took me over a year and I finally made the leap to change my life for the better. I was banded on May 20th and had a hernia repair. Lots of pain the first couple of days but now things are getting better. I don't eat a lot and still trying to figure out how to get all my Protein and Water in each day. Popsicles are my friend. Don't worry about anything everything will be great.

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We need to be honest with ourselves. If "normal" means being in control of our food intake - we simply aren't normal. We have different issues and different eating styles but we all, each and every one of us, for whatever reason, over-eat.

If you have a weak leg,you wear a leg brace; if your heart fails, you have a pacemaker. We don't feel embarrassed because if this; we may wish it wasn't necessary, but we accept it. But that's easier - it is so clearly not "our fault". To a slim person, our obesity is "our fault". But everyone in here knows it is not that simple. It IS our doing but it is beyond our control. Otherwise we wouldn't consider surgery.

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