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i have had a rough couple of weeks. My weight is a few pounds over my bounce range and my cutest pants are too tight to look cute. grumble.

I have been in maintenance long enough that I don't really seek or need validation of my looks, appearance, size or whatever... but when you are feeling kinda "fat' and you get it... it kinda helps with perspective and to stop being so negative.

So, I was at a "working meeting" for a global company. One of the men i work with (he is from Europe so we have only met a few times) had very cute pictures of his kid on his computer so we were talking about kids. I told him mine were way past the cute phase and when he asked how old and I told him... in their 20s, in fact my youngest graduated college last year. He was genuinely shocked. Then, he looked my body up and down in a somewhat leering kind of way and said something like... "I will never believe it with a body like that." Ha... and then he cleared his throat and said.."maybe we should get back to work subjects"

due to my circumstances, there was nothing in the least bit negative about that experience and it reminded me to not be so freaking hard on myself just because my smallest pants don't fit well right now.

thank you work colleague - you made my day and actually whole week!

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@@CowgirlJane

Sometimes it is a good reality check when a compliment comes your way. Its nice to have someone break that negative feeling surrounding weight issues. Glad to hear it put a smile on your face when you needed it. No harm in that. Enjoy it.

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That certainly does make you feel great doesn't it!

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Yes, those kind of complements can just make your day better, can't they ? Thats when you think "my pants are a little snug , but who cares ? Not me ! " congrats !!

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And that, ladies, is why the human race has not evolved into women and a sperm bank.

:)

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Ann, you made me laugh very hard with that one!

And that, ladies, is why the human race has not evolved into women and a sperm bank.

:)

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