Mom just said..

[jackie's journey 18]

My face looks terrible. She liked it better fat. I'm 46 and devastated. ????

[esskay77 785]

That changes back a bit. I go through periods where I have big bags under my eyes and look kind of haggard and then that changes and I start to look normal again. People just need to get used to your new look. And how sad that she would say that!

[rte837 141]

People have a hard time when someone they know/love changes. Thing is, YOU are healthier. Do you like yourself better? And besides, you can always have a face lift (I did); can she change her attitude?? Truth be known, most fat people look younger because the fat stretches out the wrinkles. There are times I notice this; especially on my lower arms. But believe me, I wouldn't go back to fat !

[jackie's journey 18]

I hear you. Yesterday I went shopping and was a natural high as I didn't have to go to plus size anymore. I was HAPPY when I looked in the dressing room mirror! I guess I spent so much of my life being shamed and ridiculed for my size. That the last thing I expected was a negative comment for my face being too thin. I just have to accept myself and stop caring what anyone else thinks.

[rte837 141]

Know what you mean about the shopping. My sister and I both had the surgery. We went shopping together for wedding reception clothes. AMAZINGLY, it turned out to be 8 hours worth! Not only could we handle the stamina for a change, but we kept finding things that actually looked good! It's quite an adventrue you're on. Don't let others' opinions ruin it for you. They are allowed them; even if they are wrong!!

[angelface811 100]

I am so sorry sweetie...what a tough comment to receive. I think the previous comments saying that your mom just isn't use to the new you is right on the money. This seems to be the case with many of our friends and family. Stay strong and if you can't get support at home try a local support group or seek encouragement here. ????

[jackie's journey 18]

Thank you ????

[blashlee 509]

May I ask if your mom is also overweight? If she is, she's probably jealous of your success at weight loss. If she's not, she's probably still jealous.

Anybody who tells you "you look better heavier" or "I liked you better when you were fat," is not used to how you currently look and probably just isn't willing to accept the change even if it's a positive one. Don't let it discourage you, I bet you're happier now than you were before and certainly healthier I imagine.