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Hi all,

I got my surgery date of 3/17 last week and I have been having such a hard time ever since; eating like the there's no tomorrow and rarely exercising.

Self-sabotage?

Nerves?

Both?

Did/does anyone else have this reaction at first?

I'm really trying to get back on track today.

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I had that reaction at first. I was eating so much I put on 10 pounds. Now I am ok, That desire to eat is the old me. That's the false identity I created to cope with the pains of life. She is dying. She is fighting for her life. She knows she is dying and she is throwing everything at me to save her life. It's hard. It is painful, but I'm letting her die.

There is a thread I started called 'Celebrating a death tonight'. In it someone posted to links to a podcast you might want to listen to about how to succeed as a wls patient....how to make sure you don't regain the weight. Good luck.

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This is me exactly. I worked so hard to get down to the mandatory weight for insurance approval. Three weeks ago I got approved and a date for Feb 25th, which was a month and a half away. Since then I have completely lost my mind. Eating like I will never see food again. It also doesn't help that my hospital doesn't have a pre op diet. So with surgery in 2 and a half weeks I am determined to get back on track. I can't go back, I want to move forward. Today I've committed to get back on track. I'm going on a pre-op diet even though it is not required. If we don't change now we are only going to struggle more after surgery.

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I had planned a few things I wanted to have "my last" before my pre-op diet, and then my surgeon's office called and since my insurance approval came back so quickly they moved my date up by two weeks and I had to start my pre-op diet that day! No regrets though, I know some day if I still would like those things I will have them- just smaller quantities.

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Oh HECK YES!!!!! I called it my food funeral. I have a bucket list of food I would never eat again and went out and ate and ate. Gained around 10 lbs. went a pre-op diet lost the weight in time for my weigh in. I am on day two of pre-op for a week from tomorrow February 18, 2015. I did the actual let old self die service. Let candles just before midnight before I started my pre-op diet. Prayed, meditated and let my old self start the dying and celebrated the birth of a new me! That was a great experience. Glad I read the previous post that talked about it.

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Thank you all so much for responding and letting me know that I am not losing my mind!!

Off to search the otehr post.....

thanks!

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It's normal, don't worry you'll lose it during your preop diet.

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I think we all feel this way, it is natural, we have all used food as our friend and confort zone, when we are upset, celebrating, or even just bored. I don't have my date yet, but I started to eat like it was going out of style. food has been my place of confort, and never tells me NO!, now I have to start listening to my own heart and soul, and I am finally ready to meet the real me.

We are all a fraid to fail, just like we have with many other diets and programs, and we are all going to have those days where we just want to give up and not move foward, but we have each other here and when we feel we are out of control we can reach out to each other, we are all in the same game of life. Others might not no exactly how we feel, but all of us on this site do.

Good Luck to everyone!

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I had something a bit similar. I was given my gastric sleeve procedure date for the 18th (next week!!) last Friday. So since then all the way up to the day of my surgery, I have to be on this specific liquid diet. And it's killing me!! I want to have so many food funerals at so many places!! But I can't. So now I just feel miserable because this diet leaves me feeling hungry all the time. But I don't want to risk my doctor telling me he has to post pone the surgery. I'm done fairly well except for one setback last night. I'm back on track now and hoping to stay on track this time.

You will get through to it!! Just be strong! Keep reminding yourself that this procedure you're having is something you want and it's to change and better your life!

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