I was wondering if anyone could tell me if your attitude changes after surgery??? Are your friends still supportive or jealous??? Do they complain that you've changed??? My long time best friend of 20 years, she's like a sister, but she is self absorbed. She's the slim and fit friend and have always been the center of attention when we would go out, meaning that guys were more attracted to her because of obvious reasons in my mind. I'm just worried that our friendship isn't going to be the same??? Please let me know what you think and if you understand what I'm getting at.

@@leag78

I understand you I have a friend that already isn't being supportive. She tells me that I don't lose weight because I don't want too. She tells me all you have to do is eat well and exercise and you don't have to go the easy route by having surgery.

Ugh. "Easy way out". That makes my blood boil. There is nothing easy about this.

@@Pac-woman

I know but some people will never understand how difficult it is. They think that ok you have surgery and that's it you loose all the weight. It really upsets me when they say it is the easy way out.

@@MiaStacey those people diet for a few weeks. We kind of "diet" for the rest of our lives. In one way or another.

@@InspirationMySon, I've thought about all those points you made. When I say she has some good qualities I'm talking about when I need her she's there. If I ever needed anything she'd give it to me no questions asked. We've been friends for almost 20 years and me call each other sisters.

I just don't like her way of thinking, because in her mind it's all about her. If this were her movie she'd be the hero and I'd be the sidekick. I noticed that most of these posts are talking about friends who are also plus size. I haven't heard any one mention that they have a skinny friend. So was I hanging out with the wrong crowd in the first place.

@@leag78 Nothing wrong with having skinny friends. As long as their personalities has a balance and not just so vain. I have a skinny friend who is a gym rat. She is so happy for me.

My sister is skinny, she disagreed with the surgery. But now that it is done, she is going to try to support me in anything I need, a shoulder to cry on, entertainment while I am recouping, listening to her calorie restriction worries, but she is there for me.

I think what we need to be alert or concerned with is people (in general) who are ill willed and will be jealous but will reflect it in a negative fashion. Big, or skinny, short or tall.

You said that if this was a movie, she would be the star and your the sidekick. Well my friend, time to get a new star and have her be the sidekick for once. After all, this journey is your blockbuster movie now!

I've had several really good friends through out the years but there is one in particular that feels the need to criticize but yet can't take the same advice they are giving. Kind of like being competitive but in a sly, snake kind of way. Don't get me wrong that person has a Heart of Gold but since I started my journey we have drifted apart. It's considered a casual yet social friendship. On another note.. My relationship with My husband of 28 yrs. has not changed at all. He sees me like the same person who he met 31 yrs. ago. Same old Me

That's why I'm just preparing myself for what I already know. She's too self absorbed and I believe in my heart that our friendship will dwindle.

@pacwoman

Now you have a whole new set of friends here... Just concentrate on u & your Health & on ur Recovery. Prayers for a Speedy Recovery ????

@pacwoman

Now you have a whole new set of friends here... Just concentrate on u & your Health & on ur Recovery. Prayers for a Speedy Recovery ????

@pacwoman

Now you have a whole new set of friends here... Just concentrate on u & your Health & on ur Recovery. Prayers for a Speedy Recovery .

@pacwoman

Now you have a whole new set of friends here... Just concentrate on u & your Health & on ur Recovery. Prayers for a Speedy Recovery .

@pacwoman

Now you have a whole new set of friends here... Just concentrate on u & your Health & on ur Recovery. Prayers for a Speedy Recovery.

@pacwoman

Now you have a whole new set of friends here... Just concentrate on u & your Health & on ur Recovery. Prayers for a Speedy Recovery.

@@Pac-woman

Well now u have a whole new group of Friends for support here.. Concentrate on you & ur recovery.. Prayers