I was wondering if anyone could tell me if your attitude changes after surgery??? Are your friends still supportive or jealous??? Do they complain that you've changed??? My long time best friend of 20 years, she's like a sister, but she is self absorbed. She's the slim and fit friend and have always been the center of attention when we would go out, meaning that guys were more attracted to her because of obvious reasons in my mind. I'm just worried that our friendship isn't going to be the same??? Please let me know what you think and if you understand what I'm getting at.

Sometimes you outgrow certain friends. I have def grown during this process as a person & I think we all learn things about ourselves as we go thru this & become stronger for it & healthier! I have a friend who I love as a person but have outgrown because we no longer do any of the same things our lives aren't on a similar path. I'm figuring out who I can share this journey with & who I don't need to waste the energy because they will only be negative.

@@leag78 When I tell her about my having surgery, she's gonna have to be on board or be prepared not to see as much of me because now my nutrition isn't just about my weight, it's my whole life.

@@blashlee LOL, she will literally not seeing as much of you!

I have told one girlfriend that I am going to go through with this. Other than her and my husband, no one else knows I've made my decision, and only a handful of other people even know I'm considering it. My girlfriend is very athletic so she understands why I want to be healthy and the benefits of having a body that moves the way you like. She's also one of the most compassionate and caring people I've ever met. Her biggest concern is my psychological state after surgery and once I start losing weight. We've talked about my body image issues, and I've told her that I think there will be some unknown things that will come up as I start getting thinner (feeling vulnerable, no longer having my "fat suit" as protection). She thinks I should have a counselor lined up to talk to for the post-op phase, just in case. That was great advice.

Your true friends will only be happy for you and continue to encourage you through your journey. If you have someone in your life who is making you feel bad for the changes that are happening in your life due to the weight loss you should distance yourself from these people. You should be as proud as you can be for making the decision to lead a healthy lifestyle. Don't ever let anyone take that away from you! Good luck with everything!

I havent lost any yet but emotionally i feel like they dont understand and it is pushn me away a lil..

My weight has changed me for the better I now see people for who they are and people who I thought were friends were not especially my ex BFF who became so envy that she stop talking to me. changed because I wanted to be healthy and i exercise and ate healthy but remain the same person. Thank God I have a husband and family who were supportive. Now my ex BFF wants to be friend again and has gain a lot of weight. I now have new friends that I have met at the gym and I do not have time for silly people who are insecure by others success. If they do not remain your friends through thick and then you do not need them. Good luck.

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Edited September 11, 201510 yr by Roux2011-1

Feel free to message me anytime you want and everything that you explaining is exactly what all of my friend said it's a very normal and fortunate so don't think it's anything you're doing wrong it's just jealousy and hopefully they'll grow out of it but chances are they might not