Who will you tell Who will you tell that you are having WLS?

[toohighofa# 14]

Honestly!! I don't want the neighborhood woman to judge me when the have no idea what it is like to be heavy and them to think it is the easy way out. Only my kids and husband know, family like my brother and sister would try to talk saying I'm fine and they love me just the way I am. Well I don't and it's my body and I want this for ME!

[Elode 8,093]

Everyone I feel comfortable with sharing personal information with.

[taweedeegirl 68]

once I get approved ... everyone.. I'm not ashamed .. I need help!!!

[Kindle 8,667]

sorry duplicate post

Edited March 28, 2015 by Kindle

[LipstickLady 25,682]

I've only told a few family members, a few friends and a handful of random strangers.

I'm not embarrassed or ashamed, and I am not afraid of being judged.

I am a mom of two brilliant, beautiful kids. I've been married to the same man for 20 years (and two weeks!). I own a successful business that I am recognized nationally for. I recently authored a book. I volunteer in an abused women's shelter and I teach women's self defense. I recently earned my black belt and go for my second Dan in July. I zumba, I do mud runs, I kayak and swim. I survived a lemon sized brain tumor and I run a support group for people experiencing the same.

I have so many more interesting things going on in my life than being a former fatty and a WLS patient. I don't feel the need to advocate, educate, and explain. I am more that my former weight, my current weight, my clothing size. I don't want my life to center around how I lost weight and advising people how they can lose theirs. I made a personal decision to correct my issue and who I share it with is also personal.

Forgive my wall of text and the repetition of my words above if you've heard them before. I'm not dishonest, I'm not a liar (as I've been called here in the past), I'm not a coward. No one should be bullied or shamed into sharing this decision and that's how these threads always seem to go.

If I can stop that here, fabulous. If you want to attack my character for my choice, have at it. My panties are smaller than they used to be, but they are still big girl panties.

[maggiemayuk 106]

Well said LipstickLady. I feel much the same.

[Miz Z1 52]

I told people who knew me that I was having surgery. People at work were going to figure out something was up when I was out for so long. Rather they knew the truth than make something up like a dread disease. I got nothing but support from family and friends and work associates. I think it would be a shame to cut yourself off from all the potential support. It anyone thought I took the easy way out, they didn't say so. If they had, I'd know they didn't deserve to be my friend. It's been more than 3 years since the surgery and I still let people know if appropriate. Still not one negative reaction.

[maggiemayuk 106]

Just goes to show that we're all different. I'm a very private person and in any case think it's boring to go on about your own health problems, especially to vague acquaintances. I'm not remotely bothered what other people think - I just think it's none of their business. When I had breast cancer I told very few people. Unlike those who like to reveal their bald heads in public in order to get sympathy from total strangers and play the 'cancer card', I bought a very realistic wig and all through treatment carried on as normally as I could, so only people I'd told noticed that anything was wrong.

Still, that's just me. I've never participated In general 'diet talk' - my personal view is that people should just get on and do it rather than talk about it! That's not to say that I haven't appreciated this forum as other people's experiences here in a specialist forum can be relevant and helpful - but the opinions of 'the general public' are mostly irrelevant and misInformed.

[ASLEEVE4ME2015 23]

Just goes to show that we're all different. I'm a very private person and in any case think it's boring to go on about your own health problems, especially to vague acquaintances. I'm not remotely bothered what other people think - I just think it's none of their business. When I had breast cancer I told very few people. Unlike those who like to reveal their bald heads in public in order to get sympathy from total strangers and play the 'cancer card', I bought a very realistic wig and all through treatment carried on as normally as I could, so only people I'd told noticed that anything was wrong.

Still, that's just me. I've never participated In general 'diet talk' - my personal view is that people should just get on and do it rather than talk about it! That's not to say that I haven't appreciated this forum as other people's experiences here in a specialist forum can be relevant and helpful - but the opinions of 'the general public' are mostly irrelevant and misInformed.

. I'm a private person as well. I feel it's not anybody's business what I do to better my health and self. Especially Co-Workers, they just want to know your business so they can gossip about you.

[Lauren23 35]

Told everyone. Family, friends, coworkers, neighbors, the girl that works at the gas station, my dentist you name it. Especially anyone that asks. It's a huge part of my life, and I am not ashamed. A couple family members were a little worried before (healthy fear from loved ones is okay) but overall it's been great! I also only keep empathetic and awesome people in my life. They trusted my judgement.

[Michèle T 2]

I have told a few at work,most of my family knows except my Mom,I'm going to tell her with flowers and a card! My in laws know. I told my Dad before I lost him due to Complications of Type 2 Diabetes. He made me promised him to have this surgery no matter what anyone tells me and that he loves me! Those were his last words to me. I promised him and I told him I loved him. I didn't know he was so sick and dying he didn't want the rest of the family to let me know cause I was too attached to him.

[NekayLaw 4]

Ive only told my mom.. But she did tell some people.. Close friends and family.. I dont think i will tell any of my friends until after i have it and start losing.. Since im just starting the process i dont want to jinks it..

[ltooor 3]

I've only told a few family members and 2 friends - I've already got unwanted feedback from my mom so I don't want others negativity!

[tinkershells 16]

No one. I told my little sister I was thinking about it and she wasn't supportive at all, so f'em!! Lol

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I've only told a few family members and 2 friends - I've already got unwanted feedback from my mom so I don't want others negativity!

I hear you. My mom has irrational fears and worries about everything!!

Edited May 25, 2016 by tinkershells

[Lynne5767 21]

I am having a very difficult time with this one~

My work supervisor knows and has been sworn to share with no one as I told her my concerns for anyone in my work

place to know my business

My loved ones know........their love and support are truly all that matters