As I have wrapped up all the pre-surgery appointments and am awaiting insurance approval, I've been wondering how spouses/SOs have done during your journey. Has he/she lost weight along with you because of your lifestyle changes? Or have they gained weight for some reason? My husband is very supportive of my decision so I'm hoping he, too, will benefit from my journey.

My wife is following the same diet as me except she is doing a bit higher calorie count. she has lost 60lbs since my surgery.

The pics below are a few months back but show the transformation for the both of us.

My wife is following the same diet as me except she is doing a bit higher calorie count. she has lost 60lbs since my surgery.

The pics below are a few months back but show the transformation for the both of us.

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You guys are looking wonderful!

Great thread! My husband needed some reassurance when I started dropping weight that I am his forever person. He knew it was silly but that fear that I'd be soaring and might just soar away.....no, he's coming with me. We're very tight, 24 years, solid marriage, but still that seemed to appear from deep within. As far as food, I am a crazy cook -- still love food prep and that hasn't changed. My eating has certainly changed. At parties sometimes my husband I quickly swap plates. He has finished and I have had my tiny portion and don't want to attract attention. And for restaurants I am a cheap date -- I order something I know my husband and/or son will enjoy because I'm just going to have a bit if it. You know, being such a delicate eater and all, lol. OMG, I love this life!

Bandista - LOL, I can't wait until I can say I am a delicate eater too!

That's funny! I am a cheap date too!

That's funny! I am a cheap date too!

Thats what my wife calls me now. When we go out, we usually just order 1 meal and split it. Sometimes its even too much for both of us.

Before surgery. we both ordered an entree with appetizers and I ate the appetizer, my plate and finished what my wife didn't eat off hers.

So far so good. My wife have been supportive with my pre-op diet, asks a lot of questions too. She is currently pregnant, due in November and will have fun losing her baby weight along with me losing my weight. we will motivate each other.

My hubby has been 100 % supportive all the way. We had changed our eating habits when he was diagnosed a diabetic 4 yrs ago, so I didnt have to change alot of food when I was banded. My problem was quantity., snacking and a big sweet tooth. But since ive been banded he has lost 8 lbs because we make smaller amounts of food. He's very happy ( he's 6'1, now weighs 204lbs) with both of our weights losses !!

My husband was supportive of my surgery. Very encouraging. He still eats like a linebacker even though I am preparing smaller meals. It's hard on me. Especially here in the past 2 weeks. I have had a lot of emotional upheaveal. He used to keep his sweets out of the house. Now they are in the house and I know where they are at. I know it is my choice on what to eat and what not to eat. Tonight I ate kings size candy bar. Haven't done that in over a year. So now I am going to ask him to keep his sweets out of the house, because as of right now I have poor judgement. That being said. It would help me a great deal if he would even try to eat the way I normally do.

I was hoping for some change in him as he is diabetic and about 75lbs overweight. But all in all I consider myself a success a couple bad weeks will not set me back. I've lost 115lbs in 9 months without too much help from him. I love him, but it's tough not having the support at home I was hoping for

Before surgery was even in consideration, my husband and I sabotaged each other. I think I played a greater role though. He made poor food choices, but I was more the emotional eater and constantly fatigued. I resisted his encouragement to get active and work out with him.

He came around on supporting surgery, and he did the pre-op dieting (scheduled meals under 1,200 cals/day) with me for two months. He even suffered through a Lean Cuisine instead of the Thanksgiving feast.

Since surgery, I've taken the lead on getting healthy. He eats what I do (when we're together), just larger portions. He joins me at the gym every now and then and even signed on with my personal trainer. We completed our first 5K Friday, and he's on board for many more.

He's the best, and I wouldn't be in such a positive place and wouldn't have been as successful without him. He's benefited personally too. He's lost 65 lbs of his own and is back in his high school size. He flexes in the mirror now. Haha.

That's great that your hubby has lost so much weight!! Sounds like you two are a great team!

ready2B -- It's great your family is supporting you in their individual ways. Sounds like everyone is preparing for your success as well as their own following your surgery.

Ava 324 - that's amazing!! It's like your husband got a virtual sleeve!

I am still awaiting surgery, but very shortly after I announced to my family what my plans were, my husband and daughter quit smoking! Neither had ever even tried before and had no desire to quit. They are both doing great and I am thrilled with that wonderful surprise and commitment on their part to live healthier. My husband seems to be more conscientious about what he eats now, smaller portions, less junk. My other daughter who is overweight has started exercising. So - even though I haven't even really started yet, the whole family is showing their support in very tangible ways.

Good luck with surgery on Monday!! It's wonderful that your husband is traveling this road with you

I havnt had my surgery yet (Monday yay) but my husband has been incredible and is dieting alot with me. He's even excites about it.

It's great you've adapted to his healthy lifestyle post-surgery. Keep up the great work!!!

My husband has been unaffected by my journey at all. It is I who have benefited by HIS lifestyle. He has been heavily into body-building for about ten years now. His diet consists of lean Protein, veggies, whole grains, and Protein shakes and this is my life now, also. There is no more crap-food in my house (said crap used to belong to me). :-)

That's great, macman!! Great weight loss! I hope you and your wife continue to do well with your lifestyle changes. I'm hoping my hubby will benefit from my journey and be able to lose some weight.

I had surgery eight months ago. My wife has been the best! I could not have a stronger supporter, cheerleader or advocate for what I am doing. She has made this lifestyle change so much easier for me. I think this has been a crucial part of my success with the program

Our eating habits have changed, as have the foods we eat. She has lost about 25 pounds along the way and looks and feels great! We walk together and are planning to join a gym in a couple weeks. It has been good for both of us!

I'm happy to hear that your husband finally came around to support you on your WLS decision The responses to my question have been so much more encouraging than what I think I was expecting initially for which I'm thankful. Keep up all the great work you've been doing!! You and your hubby on are your way to enjoying all those things you enjoy doing together!!

I wanted to add that my husband has not always been so supportive. In the past when I have worked very hard to lose weight through numerous methods, I got a lot of teasing (some downright insults), sabotaging, complaining about the lighter foods I prepared, etc. So this is a huge change and I think part of the reason is because he was finally seeing how horribly my weight was affecting me. It was also affecting him since I was no longer able to do the things with him that he wanted to do. I couldn't travel with him, couldn't go places that would require much walking or any other things that we used to enjoy together. He said he even began to fear that I would end up in a wheelchair soon! When I told my husband that I wanted to do this, instead of rolling his eyes, he had such a look of relief on his face that it made me cry!

The responses I've read so far to this question have been overwhelmingly positive - quite a contrast to the answers I saw to the same sort of question to the WeightWatchers forum. I think here, we've all reached such a point where our weight loss is really critical for our health and quality of life.