Miserable..3 weeks post op..Messing up! HELP!

[kimba6999 125]

Hello are u sure they sleeved you? It was done in Mexico. That doesn't seem normal to have eat all that and u still be ok.

To go with that, i have read a few peoples stories on here that had it done in mexico and never really had it removed either. If you can tolerate all that food without having any issues or feeling full u should make an appointment to see ur family doctor and have them check. Most if not all of us on here agree that to eat that kind of food this early post op should be noticable to your body and you. Honestly too, this is jot only a physical change we go thrpugh but a mental change as well. We need to rewire our brains. If you havent considered some sort of therapy, i would suggeat you do. Wether it be by a therapist or a bariatric support group. I did therapy for the first 3 months after surgery and now i go to a bi-monthly support group for bariatric patients. Its encouraging and helps with those struggles. Everybody is there to support each other and give and get good suggestions on how to deal. I think and feel this should be your second step. We know how hard it can be to change bad habits so the first thing is to get rid of any foods that trigger for you. Only keep foods in your home that are healthy amd Protein packed. If you have a family please explain to them what you need to do and ask them for help. My kids are behind me 100% and they are my food and exercise monitors. I also keep a before picture in my house, my bedroom and in my car to remind me what bad eatting does for me. I take a new one every 6 weeks to watch my progress, to remind me to never go back there again. I am now 7 months post and have lost 117lbs. At 6 months i started incorporating some things i liked that werent so healthy but now i am in control of my life so i can have a piece or bite and stop and be happy. It is possible to give up bad habits but we all need help. We ate all here for you and worried for you. Please take my advice and clean out ur cupboards and help ur mind. It will works. There are thousands here that are living proof. Wish you all the best and keep us posted. If you just need to unload I'd be happy to listen just message me. Good luck!!

[Girly24 22]

If you search the web they were just talking about how some Mexico places that do bariatric surgery put the patients under anesthesia and just make tiny incisions but never actually do the procedure. I hope this hasn't happen to u. I wish u luck and I hope you follow up with a doctor soon.

[Myonlybattle 65]

I haven't been sleeved yet but I completely sympathize with the OP -- I can't control my eating, that is why I'm getting my sleeve. Why would I go through the trauma of having the surgery if I am going to continue to be able to overeat? It sounds like she is in the exact situation that I am afraid of post-sleeve.

Many of you suggested that she stop and get rid of that kind of food in her house. I can go clean my cabinets now and not pull into the fast food drive in if I choose to, but I don't seem to be able to make that choice - I'm expecting the Sleeve to force me to make that choice because I won't feel hungry, or if I am hungry I won't be able to eat more than a couple bites without feeling sick. This isn't happening to her, so my question is, what's the advantage of having the sleeve?

[RayJunCayJun 41]

Yes, I have to wonder too. We can barley get down bady sips of liquid the first week much less food any kind of food.< /p>

The brand new "sleeved" stomach is VERY swollen, hence the reason to be able to only get down a baby sip every 5 minutes.

and you certainly took well meaning advice the wrong way. This is not the place to come in looking for justification on cheating like you did so soon after surgery. Nobody is perfect, but most people have the good sense to folllow the surgeons orders after a major surgery as this.

[mickally 95]

Hang in there and please get it checked out. If you have In fact been sleeved be good to yourself it takes time to heal. I remember feeling like it was a full time job to keep up with all we are suppose to do to be successful but so worth it.

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

@@jewelski ... how are you doing these days? Getting your feet under you a little better yet?

[jewelski 9]

VSGAnn....I am doing so much better! Thank-You for asking! I had a mental lapse, that wanted to eat. I know it seemed as though I had eaten a lot....actually, had eaten just a bite of the things I mentioned. I did not eat the whole thing! Anyways, there is so much "unknown" once you are sleeved and everyone has different directions and experiences. I gave in to myself and ate some things I shouldn't have....BUT..Since then, I have been doing well....Not eating the bad, only the good! I do feel better every day! I have lost 30 pounds since my surgery on 7/3.

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

That's really great news. I'm glad you're doing so much better.

And yes -- I think your opening post did give the impression you'd "eaten the whole thang." You sorta freaked us out.

Onward and downward, eh?

[Kissifur 244]

VSGAnn....I am doing so much better! Thank-You for asking! I had a mental lapse, that wanted to eat. I know it seemed as though I had eaten a lot....actually, had eaten just a bite of the things I mentioned. I did not eat the whole thing! Anyways, there is so much "unknown" once you are sleeved and everyone has different directions and experiences. I gave in to myself and ate some things I shouldn't have....BUT..Since then, I have been doing well....Not eating the bad, only the good! I do feel better every day! I have lost 30 pounds since my surgery on 7/3.

Congratulations on your loss and good for you for fighting through and getting back on track. I have been there with the mental slips and know how hard it is.

[Miss Mac 6,261]

Glad to hear that you are doing better. Anytime you feel a lapse coming on, go to YouTube and watch a few videos with surgeons performing a sleeve gastrectomy. If you are a visual learner like me, it will remind you of what actually happened to your stomach while you were taking a nap. Your new tummy needs to be your new boss. Eventually, your taste buds will respond to what real foods (not made in a factory) taste like. Your body systems will respond with happiness for good natural nutrition.

Look at it this way......before you take a bite or sip of something, ask yourself if you can pick it or catch it. For example, you will not find Bagels hanging on a tree like you would cherries. You won't find rivers of soda pop flowing through a canyon. You can't go out to the garden and pick some fresh macaroni and cheese for dinner. As the food industry developed during / after World War I, we were told that margerine, Pop Tarts, and Ramen Noodles were good food to be eaten. And the reason they spent so much effort and money marketing these flashy commercials every day into our brains is because they made the stuff and now they have to sell it to us before it rots in the warehouse.

Those of us here who have had the surgery have a great responsibility in trying to find a delicate way to be direct when folks ask for advice. The best advice we can always give is that the sleeve is one tool, and your doctor or bariatric team is the next tool. Our responses are based on our personal experience. We surely do want you to be healthy and happy, so be kind to yourself.

I call my new and improved stomach "Miss Tummy" and she is the boss of me. If I eat slowly, she will let me know when enough is enough. She throws me a resounding tupperware burp to warn me that if I take another bite or sip, she will see to it that I am miserable and repentant for the next four hours. I am not perfect. Miss Tummy has humbled me many times. So, give your new tummy a name, and let her run the joint (and tell the family that they need to be considerate and not bring junk into the house, eat it in front of you, or expect you to cook it for dinner). Some people get the hiccups or other gastric signal when it's time to put the leftovers away, give them to the dogs, or throw them out.

The new you is trying to escape from it's old, tired, sick, achy shell. The fact that you spent the money, made the trip to Mexico, and (allegedly) had the proper surgery shows that somewhere inside you, you really want to have a successful recovery and weight loss. Please come back for encouragement and continue to make posts as concerns come up. Even if all responses are not gentle, look past that and see if you can take away any useful information to help you along. I wish you good luck and good health. Please come back and visit us often.

[RayJunCayJun 41]

So glad to hear you are doing better

[I will what I want 271]

@@jewelski ... how are you doing these days? Getting your feet under you a little better yet?

Finally; compassion.

[Mary Cade 23]

Just try to focus. What you want the outcome to be ,healthy, skinny,fit.if you have already messed up tomorrow will be a brand new day.