female only recovery from post wls acohol issues

[valerieKovach 4]

I am three years out. A few months ago, I figured out I was drinking too much.. and had been doing so for almost a year. It started about 2 years out... It was just wine but it got to be just about every night and several glasses. When I stopped I had physical withdrawal symptoms. That was scary to me. Now I am still sober, but I know that there is an issue with my mind wanting to go back to food addiction, drink or do something. I even decided I have collected too many clothes from thrift stores and such and I am working to organize and declutter. I am not actively engaged in any addiction (that I know of). I have therapy once a week, but I have to admit I get nervous and feel edgy. It is not easy. On the other hand, with drinking and being 2 years post op, I gradually regained 15 pounds from my lowest point. I am happy since i stopped drinking, I not only got rid of those calories and I pay better attention to my food. I have lost 3 pounds of my regain.

[Chelly 364]

More power to you for your accomplishments in beating your weight and drinking.

I'm sure that it must have really taken work to over come them.

Congratulations and take care of yourself always.

[Ginger Snaps 1,323]

I'm thinking that there are some people that just have addictive personalities -- my ex-husband was one of them. He smoked and stopped, then took up cross-stitching (excessively, 6-7 hours a day while working full-time), then soduko, then crosswords, then planning flower gardens (not gardening, planning them). It seemed like he couldn't stand life without one all-consuming hobby or thing to do. I'm sure it's the same with alcohol... even after you beat the demons of food or alcohol, you might replace it with some other thing.

I'm glad you're in therapy -- that should help figure out your compulsions. I have heard people say to focus on exercise and get "addicted" to that, but that can even be a problem if it gets excessive.

I hope you find help that works for you and I hope you find lots of support here on the boards.

[fabboo 2]

Wow!! Thank you for sharing!! I have been drinking ALOT of wine!!! And have regained 20 pounds, due to my "private wine and cheese parties!!" I have felt such shame, because I felt I was failing myself...... AGAIN!?! But you sharing helps me to see I am not alone, I can regain my control, find the pride and joy in another lesson learned!! Thank You, blessings and great success !!!

[valerieKovach 4]

To everyone who is having post WLS alcohol issues... I want to update. It is a struggle to handle addictions. I believe food was my primary addiction. After wls I was unable to "use it" in the same way and alcohol use got out of control. I have attended AA, though not as faithfully as many, but also I have gone to counseling. I realize that I have issues with anxiety and issues with dealing with stress. I have to cope with these things and a substance is not a solution. I believe spiritual and emotional growth are key. However, I want to note that it is not easy and it is an everyday struggle to stay healthy and whole in every way. The battle is no doubt worth it!

valf