I read something similar on the post op side but I wondered what were the top ten things/ goals some of you have for your post op self!

Mine

10. Go swimming in the ocean without feeling like a whale

9. Go to family get togethers without small kids staring at my chubbiness

8. Shop at actual stores with confidence.

7. Be able to eat without feeling like the world is staring at me.

6. Look in the mirror and see a face and body that doesn't make me depressed.

5. Take 100 selfies and love them. As of now I have maybe 4... Total.

4. Ride on an airplane. Won't do it now. I'm sparing myself the embarrassment.

3. Buy panties ( SEXY ONES) from a normal store that fit.

2. Go on a vacation as the "healthy Mal"

1. I want to stop lying to my husband and kids. They want to go to amusement parks and cruises...and I tell them I'm scared of heights... When I'm not... I just know I won't fit on the rides and it makes me feel like a huge failure...

I can so relate to all of these. I feel like I've seen my top ten on here already, so no need to repeat them. I'm still in the early stages with surgery hopefully in November or October.

1> Not be the biggest person at work. Or home. Or anywhere for that matter

I love this thread! Here are mine in no particular order

10. Wear boots!

9. Shop in any store (except the big girl stores!)

8. Better sex

7. Fly more comfortably

6. Enjoy getting dressed

5. Go to amusement/water parks

4. Keep up with my nieces and nephew

3. Not be the fat friend

2. No more foot and ankle pain

1. Feel confident!!

I am brand new here but I love it already. Having GB 9-11....and while I wait and have preop stuff done, I dream of all the things you all have mentioned plus I want to:

Not be afraid of a situation that requires having to stand up for more than 10 minutes

Not be terrified of running in to old friends that have not seen me looking as I do.

Carry laundry up a flight of stairs with out gasping for air.

Not have sleep apea,high blood pressure, high cholesterol etc etc..

Be able to throw away the 700 scarfs I own to cover my fat neck even in the summer!!

Shower and clean myself with ease! (YOU ALL KNOW WHAT I MEAN!! LOL! (sorry, TMI?)

Being able to do things with my family, so many things I put off doing....I want to do them all!

Be healthy

Not the 'fat one" anymore!

I could go on and on....and the thought of any of them makes me smile...I know its coming.

1. Sit in a chair and not have it get up with me.

2. Get my knee replaced.

3. Ride a regular bike, not a 3 wheeler.

4. Shop in the regular department and get bargains!

5. No foot pain!

6. Walk and walk and walk.

7. Engage in active play with my grandchildren.

8. Feel better about myself.

9. No bouncing bottom when I walk or trot.

10. Controlling my food intake, not having it control me!

First off I want to say this thread has been so uplifting to me. To see that others are hoping and wishing for the same things as I am is amazing. I have felt so alone for so long all I could do was let the tears flow while reading this. I am currenting working the process for surgery, I am praying for a surgery date in early Sept. Here is my top 10 things.

1. To be able to stand and do normal everyday things, like go to the grocery store with no back pain.

2. To be able to ride any ride I'd like to at the amusement park.

3. To go to a Water park, I've never been because of my weight.

4. To finally have children, I've waited because I wanted to be healthy enough to keep up with them.

5. To travel and not to worry about swelling legs, ankles or feet.

6. To be able to get off BP meds once and for all!

7. To take so many photos that friends and family get sick of seeing me all the time.

8. To hike...to hike a 14er

9. To learn how to ski.

10. To live and not hide from life any longer.

10. Being able to walk for more than fifty feet without having to sit down

9. Not having to shop at special stores for clothes

8. Being able to perform self-care without special aides and acrobatics

7. Ability to apply for jobs that require walking/standing so that I can pay off debts and reach financial goals

6. Taking family photos I can be proud of

5. Feeling good enough about myself that I am not afraid to leave my home or feeling guilty for subjecting people to seeing me.

4. Traveling! I'd love to fly to the lower 48 without oozing into someone else's seat and needing a belt extender

3. Maybe... dating?

2. Pulling myself together in the morning and feeling genuinely good about about myself

And... #1: Genuinely LIVING! Right now I do not feel as though I am really living life. I want to dive in and revel in all the wonderful, fun things life has to offer.

10. Being able to walk for more than fifty feet without having to sit down

9. Not having to shop at special stores for clothes

8. Being able to perform self-care without special aides and acrobatics

7. Ability to apply for jobs that require walking/standing so that I can pay off debts and reach financial goals

6. Taking family photos I can be proud of

5. Feeling good enough about myself that I am not afraid to leave my home or feeling guilty for subjecting people to seeing me.

4. Traveling! I'd love to fly to the lower 48 without oozing into someone else's seat and needing a belt extender

3. Maybe... dating?

2. Pulling myself together in the morning and feeling genuinely good about about myself

And... #1: Genuinely LIVING! Right now I do not feel as though I am really living life. I want to dive in and revel in all the wonderful, fun things life has to offer.

I don't know how to you did it but you totally tapped into my feelings and thoughts exactly. We are in the same boat, maybe thousands of miles apart but in the same boat none the less. Hang in there!!!

This post is so inspiring!!! It made me register to be part of the conversation:). Guess we all have a lot of the same set backs due to weight!

My List:

10. More energy-not getting tired so quickly

9. Not being the largest person in my family, at work, of my friends.

8. No seat belt extenders, tight booths or small chairs

7. Not thinking that people are looking at & judging me.

6. Not being the last one picked, or the person no one sits next to.

5. Being in pictures, not the person taking them

4. Shopping!!! I can't stress this one enough!!! So excited!! Designer clothes!

3. Not being held back/bypassed at work, for some one who looks the part

2. Not just a pretty face, if I lost weight

1. Self Confidence

I started my list and then lost it, dang it! Here goes again....in no particular order.

10. Perform personal hygiene without being a contortionist (TMI I know, sorry)

9. Going to get-togethers and not being embarrassed in front of my daughter's in-laws.

8. Getting off my blood pressure meds.

7. Climbing into bed without having to hook up to the CPAP machine.

6. Climbing stairs without getting out of breath.

5. Going up and down stairs and walking in general without knee pain (hopefully).

4. Not isolating myself in my apartment anymore.

3. Wearing normal sized, cute clothing.

2. Shopping without having to sit down.

1. Maybe dating again?

OMG i just remembered 1 more thing i wanna be able to do.......SKINNY SEX.....LOl

1. No more chub rub! (Chaffing) ohhh to Be able to wear a skirt all day and not have my thighs be on fire!

2. Go to a friends and use a normal towel that will wrap all the way around me instead if flashing everyone.

3. Go to the pool and not have to deal with the whispers of shamoo or whales

4. In the fall be able to zip up whatever boots I want!

5. Better sex life! I wanna be able to be on top and rock it. Not worry about what angle makes my chin look better.

6. To be able to go to a club and fit in.. Not be the heavy one everybody wonders who brought along out of pity.

7. Be able to fit into a booth with lots of room.

8. Be the" healthy friend"

9. Walk into a Victoria's Secret and pick me out some cute ass yoga pants and some adorable panties or Fredrick's of Hollywood and own that corset

10. Get that look... The one where you meet a boy and out of the corner of your eye you catch him staring at you like you're the most beautiful thing In the world..

And I know only ten but

11. That moment when he picks you up... Spins you.. And kisses you! I want that weightless feeling the feeling that you are free as a bird

10 things:

- Reach my weight goal (120-130)

- Buy a house

- Find a guy and get married

- Have kids

- Go back to school for my masters in nursing and become a nurse practitioner

- Travel

- Switch jobs (which will come a lot quicker than above things)

- Move closer to my parents to take care of them ( this will happen a lot quicker too)

For now I think this is it. Am happy now also and will be even more happier once I accomplish things listed above.

10 things: - Reach my weight goal (120-130) - Buy a house - Find a guy and get married - Have kids - Go back to school for my masters in nursing and become a nurse practitioner - Travel - Switch jobs (which will come a lot quicker than above things) - Move closer to my parents to take care of them ( this will happen a lot quicker too) For now I think this is it. Am happy now also and will be even more happier once I accomplish things listed above.

Oh yes can't forget the sex part lol. I miss having sex and now that I am 55lbs lighter I would love to give it a try but I am ok waiting it out until I reach 130 and I am 155 right now. Sex improves a lot after weight loss. Oh I would also be happy to get some nice sexy lingerie too my arms are still problematic.

Cross my legs

Wear pretty sun dresses

Go up the stairs without being winded

Not sweat all the time

Not.worry about fitting in booths at restaurants

Buy cute clothes

Paint my toe nails

To walk in a room and know I'm not the biggest person

Jog-I've always been jealous of joggers

Ride a bike

Tie my shoes easier

Hike

I can't wait to drive in the car and not have the seat belt jabbing in me.

So many things I had to do more than 10!