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I've only had one person pay attention to what I eat. She's a co-worker of mine who used to comment on what I was eating...you know, stuff like, 'can you eat that?' or 'is that all you are eating/are you eating too much?' I know her questions were out of concern and not mean spiritedness so I'd answer her quickly and move to another topic. Now, she doesn't say anything. Everyone I eat lunch with is used to what I eat and how much I eat so it's a total non-issue. It helps that I have no fills so while I cut up my food into small pieces, I can eat fairly normally time-wise. I don't have to chew to a pulp or eat really really slow. That helps.

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OMG! My mother ( who is overweight ) is obsessed with my band! She wants to know what I've lost EVERY DAMN DAY! She watches every bite I eat! She constantly asks " can you eat that?" If I even cough or hiccup while eating she asks " are you gonna throw up?" I've tried telling her to get over it politely but she doesn't get it so I limit spending time with her to NOT meal times. It's crazy. No one else even pays attention. I wish she would get her own band! Lol!

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OMG! My mother ( who is overweight ) is obsessed with my band! She wants to know what I've lost EVERY DAMN DAY! She watches every bite I eat! She constantly asks " can you eat that?" If I even cough or hiccup while eating she asks " are you gonna throw up?" I've tried telling her to get over it politely but she doesn't get it so I limit spending time with her to NOT meal times. It's crazy. No one else even pays attention. I wish she would get her own band! Lol!

Sweetie...she does want her own band. She's watching you like a hawk because she's imagining herself in the same position. So when she asks if you are going to throw up, it's because she's wondering if she gets the band, will she throw up. Sit down with her calmly and talk to her about getting the band. Tell her both the good and bad...or whatever your experience has been. She wants to do it, you just aren't seeing it because she's annoying you. Really...please talk to her.

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I've only had one person pay attention to what I eat. She's a co-worker of mine who used to comment on what I was eating...you know, stuff like, 'can you eat that?' or 'is that all you are eating/are you eating too much?' I know her questions were out of concern and not mean spiritedness so I'd answer her quickly and move to another topic. Now, she doesn't say anything. Everyone I eat lunch with is used to what I eat and how much I eat so it's a total non-issue. It helps that I'm not banded so while I cut up my food into small pieces, I can eat fairly normally time-wise. I don't have to chew to a pulp or eat really really slow. That helps.

I noticed it says your not banded ,I was under the impression you were , or maybe it is a miss print ,see I do read what people post before I hit the Like button lol

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I noticed it says your not banded ,I was under the impression you were , or maybe it is a miss print ,see I do read what people post before I hit the Like button lol

Hi Deb. Where does it say I'm not banded. Right in my profile it says lap band. I want to make sure that's accurate... If it's not, I'll have to follow up with Alex.

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@@gowalking your profile does say Lapband. Maybe she's on a mobile app???

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@@gowalking, in the text of your post you typed that you were not banded. I think you meant to type that you were not filled. I noticed that too the first time I read it.

" It helps that I'm not banded so while I cut up my food into small pieces, I can eat fairly normally time-wise"

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@@gowalking, in the text of your post you typed that you were not banded. I think you meant to type that you were not filled. I noticed that too the first time I read it.

" It helps that I'm not banded so while I cut up my food into small pieces, I can eat fairly normally time-wise"

Yeess...honey, you're right. I just looked back at my post and realized I said banded when I meant no fills. Sorry about that bit of confusion.... :blink:

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I thought it was a misprint as we have spoke on this site SOOOO Many times and I did see where it says you are a bander under your profile, but where you have the sentence about Everyone you eat lunch with, keep reading then you can edit maybe I know my laptop , tablet, computer , & phone , well you know these digital things have a mind of their own and mine usually skips a let or 2, NO WORRIES or A BIG DEAL , I was just looking out , that's all so if any newbies read your post, because you are a insperaitonal person.

I noticed it says your not banded ,I was under the impression you were , or maybe it is a miss print ,see I do read what people post before I hit the Like button lol

Hi Deb. Where does it say I'm not banded. Right in my profile it says lap band. I want to make sure that's accurate... If it's not, I'll have to follow up with Alex.

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Yes under her profile , but in her paragraph post read it all the way a little ways under where she is talking about when she goes out to lunch or has lunch with people and I was trying to help because I know she has the band I have been communicating since we started , but if any newbies really read I want it to be accurate for them , because she is a great person and could be a motivator for someone else also, I on a laptop.

@@gowalking your profile does say Lapband. Maybe she's on a mobile app???

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OK, I fixed the text so no one gets confused. Thanks for pointing it out...I want it to be accurate as well.

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