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First off, I'm not enjoying all the attention from my weight loss. I lost 35 on my pre-op and another 20 since surgery; this has been over a total of 5-6 months, so not a rapid weight loss necessarily. Some people have known of my efforts and ask what I'm doing (pre-op was low carb, low sugar, low calorie....kinda the same as post op actually! And regular exercise of course). I log every bite I eat on my fitness pal. That is my number 1 weight loss tip to anyone. We just don't realize how many calories we are eating even when we think we are eating okay. Every single person who has asked for tips has responded the same way..Oh, I'm on my fitness pal, too, but I know I don't eat as many calories as it says I can. I don't need to log, I just know.....or....I'm sure I only eat 1000 calories a day, I don't know why I can't lose weight. Well, honey, I just watched you polish off a huge plate of food and a cupcake. That was almost 1000 calories right there! Don't whine to me if you don't wanna log for yourself. We are all accountable for what goes in our mouths, whether we are sleeved or not. Don't ask because you don't wanna hear what I have to say anyways. Sorry for the rant session, I'm done now that it's off my chest.

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I can imagine it gets frustrating. I am endlessly amazed at how rude people are with personal questions at work. I think because we all spend so much time together trapped in a big building during the week, we think we are close or entitled to private info about our coworkers. I keep in mind that I have nothing to do with these people outside of work and don't join in or encourage personal conversations. If someone complains about their diet around me, I smile and say nothing. I know if I say anything, the conversation will work its way back to me and my diet.

It's ok to vent on here :) we all get it

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OMG I KNOW exactaly what you are saying! I hate when people ask me what I have been doing to lose weight and when I tell them I eat healthy, and don't drink pop, they make up excuses or get mad! Sorry I can't help it if that's what I did. lol. But it's the truth! I get just as frustrated at them, as they do me!

First off, I'm not enjoying all the attention from my weight loss. I lost 35 on my pre-op and another 20 since surgery; this has been over a total of 5-6 months, so not a rapid weight loss necessarily. Some people have known of my efforts and ask what I'm doing (pre-op was low carb, low sugar, low calorie....kinda the same as post op actually! And regular exercise of course). I log every bite I eat on my fitness pal. That is my number 1 weight loss tip to anyone. We just don't realize how many calories we are eating even when we think we are eating okay. Every single person who has asked for tips has responded the same way..Oh, I'm on my fitness pal, too, but I know I don't eat as many calories as it says I can. I don't need to log, I just know.....or....I'm sure I only eat 1000 calories a day, I don't know why I can't lose weight. Well, honey, I just watched you polish off a huge plate of food and a cupcake. That was almost 1000 calories right there! Don't whine to me if you don't wanna log for yourself. We are all accountable for what goes in our mouths, whether we are sleeved or not. Don't ask because you don't wanna hear what I have to say anyways. Sorry for the rant session, I'm done now that it's off my chest.

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I am having surgery June 30. Previously I lost 60 lbs and kept it off successfully for 7 years and I, too, used an online tool to log my food and exercise. I had the same experience, people would ask me what I do and then make up every excuse in the book why they couldn't do it:

"I can't feed the kids eggs for Breakfast, they like cereal"

'I eat what the kids eat ...."

"I'm too busy with work and kids and activities"

"its a lot of work to plan and keep track"

"I am out of the office a lot, I can't bring my lunch"

"my family won't eat THAT"

Well, that's fine then, don't do it, but don't complain because you can't lose weight. To each his own. Anyone can make up excuses for things they don't want to do.

p.s. we all know its not rocket science! WLS is a tool not a cure!

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