Fellas, please advise: Does a woman's loose skin distract, annoy, or repulse you in intimate times; or are you so focused on 'other stuff', it really doesn't matter?

I've lost ~55 pounds and still want to lost another 30-40 pounds. I do see some loose skin, though it's not bad at this point. It's not a current matter for me--the "what is he thinking (because I need to find me a new 'he'")--but I'm thinking to maybe see an old friend who's been begging me for years. LOL. (and we do have a 22-year crush/attraction to each other).

And, ladies, have the men you're dating voiced, or seemed to have any concern about this? What's been your experience with this?

Granted, those I ask who are here on BP understand, but give your best thoughts on this matter. I don't think I need to really worry about it, but just curious if this is a turn-off (especially if the guy doesn't know of the WLS).

Thanks to all respondents.

Edited April 24, 201412 yr by Dr-Patient

Minor loose skin wouldn't bother me but lots of loose skin would definitely be a turn off.

Fellas, please advise: Does a woman's loose skin distract, annoy, or repulse you in intimate times; or are you so focused on 'other stuff', it really doesn't matter?

I've lost ~55 pounds and still want to lost another 30-40 pounds. I do see some loose skin, though it's not bad at this point. It's not a current matter for me--the "what is he thinking (because I need to find me a new 'he'")--but I'm thinking to maybe see an old friend who's been begging me for years. LOL. (and we do have a 22-year crush/attraction to each other).

And, dating ladies, post-op WLS...what's been your experience with this?

Granted, those I ask who are here on BP understand, but give your best thoughts on this matter. I don't think I need to really worry about it, but jsut curious if this is a turn-off (especially if the guy doesn't know of the WLS).

Thanks to all respondents.

I have found that lingerie hides it well and I have enough that my plastic surgeon is helping me fight my insurance to get it covered. A good bra, and a fitted anything with spandex holds everything in nicely. I have been married to the same man for almost 14 years, but he says having me more flexible, no longer tired all the time, and the fact that without going into too many details we are able to do things now that we haven't done since we first got married totally makes up for the skin.

I'm very curious myself.

For the most part, we're just happy to get you naked. We're not going to complain.

But that said, I think there is a tipping point, but it is much higher than I'm guessing most women would believe. Knowing what my skin looks like after 120# lost, I would generalize saying a 200# loss might get me to go, "Woa". Would give me pause before going back for seconds, maybe, but I think it would be dependent on the overall performance, if you know what I mean.

This is a great topic, something I think about often, and I hope more men chime in. Thanks to those that already have.

This is a really hard one for me to answer only because I have skin issues and because of that I wonder how the women would answer this as well.

I think I lean towards what @@PdxMan states. For the most part it would not bother me one bit unless it was just really way out there on the loose skin scale.

Great topic because this bothers me with all my loose skin! I am engaged and in a long distance relationship until I get married in October, and everytime I'm with my fiancé I seem to be so self conscious about how I look. I get tired of wearing the spanx things and I know I can hide it, some ways, but it bothers me. He says he's fine with it but it's my new mission to get a LBL and breast lift.

I don't want to have any more surgery but!! If I can get down to my gw 135 I will if I have a lot of extra skin !!! My sw 265 so not sure how it will all work out!!

While I'm not a man, I would assume the same guy that would be turned off by extreme weight would be turned off by excess skin ... I'm not worried about my hubby, if he loves me at over 300 pounds, he'll love me at 150! He lost 100 pounds and has a little loose skin around his midsection ... doesn't bother me one bit! Been married 28 years now.

Thanks to all so far; I hope more respond. PDx--I appreciate your honesty re: you just want to get us naked. Yep! :-).

Pierced...with less weight, the post-WLS would be more flexible, etc., so there are other benefits (plus they can get to good spots better!) Good.

I think, too, we may be self-conscious about this or that, when the guy really isn't thinking about it/whatever.Also, for the fellas who've lost weight, you gain an inch or two, so that's good.

I hope I don't have too much extra skin, but we'll see. So far, it's not bad at all. [Computer glitches tonight; excuse any typos or duplicate stuff. Computer not responsive to key strokes.]

New to the process so I'm interested in this as well. I'm sure at one point or another it has/will cross our minds.

_{Also going to agree with pdxman. I think also a good rule of thumb is to turn the tables on yourself and honestly asses rather you would be attracted to you if you were a guy? In other words, if a guy and yourself was about to get "your groove thang on" would you be attracted him? Most men wont admit this, but were wondering the same thing! lol.}

I am just starting to recognize the loose skin like I have the bat wings under my arms, and my bust has gotten much smaller. I know if I loose another 100 pounds I will have tummy loose skin as well. I have been wearing lingerie for a long time so I hide it well with corsets. I think it comes down to the guy, if he has been with you since you had surgery then I think he will get just as turned on as much as when you where at your highest weight. My boyfriend has told me multiple times that I turn him on regardless of my weight. Which makes me gush over him even more. I have found that my sex drive has gotten ten times higher with loosing weight than it was a 100 pounds ago. Thats my mans only complaint lately

It hasn't bothered my husband of 3 years. I have lost over 100 lbs on a 5-5 frame. Its all in my gut and legs.

HE LOVES that he can do Oral on me and he can breathe now.

So no men don't care just enjoy the sex.

Well of course your husband's won't say anything! They aren't stupid! Lol.

As a single woman myself I do worry about this too. Finally get the weight off but still ashamed of the naked time.