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The last 7 months have kind of been a blur, my dad died and my husband and I have separated. So a lot of big changes!!!! I am thankful that even without any fills I am down 87lbs in almost 14 months. And that includes loosing the 15lbs I gained after my dad died. The difference this time is I am not going to beat myself up anymore and I will concentrate on the progress......

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Day before surgery

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Before a 5k last weekend

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I'm sorry about your dad and your separation, however, I'm amazed by what you've accomplished. Hugz!

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Sounds like you've lost a lot of weight, at the same time, gained a lot of strength. Something very positive from such sad/horrible life events. Good for you!

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Life can be tough at times. I backed through my garage door($900), slid on the ice as I turned into county courthouse parking lot & slid into pickup with trailer attached ($3500) and caught a thread on a new sweater on corner of rough counter at the Body Shop when getting vehicle damage estimates, which pulled the knit & ruined it ($60). (I wished I had stayed in bed!) all this was yesterday. . . . I'm being very careful today. . . . .

"finelytime" it sounds like you are in a band zone that is leading you to success. Keep your head high and enjoy a most healthy happy life. . . I wish you smooth traveling. . . . :)

Edited by JOANNE M HOLL

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Sorry for the lost of your father and separation from your husband; however, congratulations on getting back on track and losing weight inspite of the challenges. Continued success.

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"Before a 5K last weekend...." -- who gets to say that? YOU DO! Wow, I am very impressed. And your weight loss is impressive as well, yet the thing that really stands out is how you are not beating yourself up over things anymore. I feel like I am becoming more empowered, too -- that getting the band and getting my appetite under control have given me a new way of treating myself. I am more gentle with myself and I appreciate who I am, how I am. Choosing to have weight loss surgery was such a powerful decision. Yes, it's about the weight, but more than that is the way we have chosen to put ourselves first. Finally. Best wishes to you!

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You look amazing! Congrats on being able to lose weight during a very difficult time. I'm so sorry about the loss of your dad and your separation. I lost my dad last year, too, as well as another close family member. My dad's sudden death was the most difficult thing I have ever experienced. At first, I couldn't eat anything. I lost 10 pounds. But, sure enough, after a week or so, my appetite returned with a vengeance, and in the year I ended up gaining over 40 pounds. I was the fattest I had ever been. I just got my band a week ago, so I'm starting off the year "fresh", too. We can both do it! You have done awesome so far! :)

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...and they call us the weaker sex. Puhleeze. Congrats to a strong and beautiful lady. Condolences on the loss of your dad and so sorry about the troubles with your husband. I'm really jealous of you doing a 5K. I'm still working on that..but doing what I can till the hips and back are in better shape.

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I admire you! Instead of looking for food to soothe your suffering, you have plucked up courage and continued your journey towards your new and healthy life.

I remember that a friend of mine used to say " if you have a problem, eating isn't a solution"

Hugs!

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You look fantastic! And what aninspiration that you are or going forward despite personal losses. That's success!

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You go girl. If stuffing your face would make your troubles go away, I'd be the first to tell you to do it. But, unfortunately it will just compile and add to your misery. You got this.

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