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Follow A Sleever From Night Before Surgery All They Way Through Recovery

I decided that for my own therapy and to hopefully help answer questions for others I would document my Surgery Experience. That being from the night before, all the hospital details and recovery process as it happens. Some background info: I am a 31 year old married mom of 2. I work full time and I am a foster parent. I have been at least 100 pounds overweight for 15 years with a little yo yo in between. My weight tonight on my home scale is 235 lbs. I am 5' 2". I have no co morbidities I finished a 2 week diet of 2 shakes, and a healthy meal at night. I did cheat 2-3 times. Today I am on full clear liquids. Chicken broth, jello, tea, Beef Broth, ext. I was hungry but it wasn't too bad. I kept myself busy. Of course I am nervous about my sleeve tomorrow for a million reasons. I have to be at the hospital for 6 am. So it is now 9:30pm, I've taken 2 ambien and I'm off to lala land. I will check in tomorrow on the way to the hospital. Sweet Dreams Fellow Sleevers.

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Today has been pretty decent. Pain at the suture sites as well as when I drink. I've switched to measuring my swallows. I found that a measly 3ml I can handle and I don't get pain. So as of right now all I can get down in a day is 1 bottle of H20 and a 10oz protein shake. I am down 13lbs in 6 days!

Love that you've done this for us to follow! Congrats!!

Just focus in staying hydrated right now. Also try warming you liquids including your protein shake. Yuck, I know. But sometime warm feels better than cold. Keep up the good work. You're doing great!

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Bad morning but not because of the sleeve. But its important to know that while you are sleeved and especially recovering things can and will happen around you. I had no back up plan. My husband was supposed to take our young boys to school this morning. Normally my job. He was running late and flew off the handle because he felt the kids (3 yes and 4yrs) were not listening to him. His temper went into overdrive and ended up scream at all 3 of us "I hate you and I'm never coming back". My husband is in therapy but obviously more work needs to be done. Not to go too far into the actual fight I want to show you that I was in that instant stranded. I got my kids to school and I came home and sobbed from 7:30am to 10:30am. Never once taking in any fluids and then the dry heaving began. Life swirls around us but we can't just time-out the recovery. I'm doing my nest to rehydrate now and make some sort of plan of how I am going to avoid conflict tonight. So far I have a friend coming with me to help pick up my boys.

Bad morning but not because of the sleeve. But its important to know that while you are sleeved and especially recovering things can and will happen around you. I had no back up plan. My husband was supposed to take our young boys to school this morning. Normally my job. He was running late and flew off the handle because he felt the kids (3 yes and 4yrs) were not listening to him. His temper went into overdrive and ended up scream at all 3 of us "I hate you and I'm never coming back". My husband is in therapy but obviously more work needs to be done. Not to go too far into the actual fight I want to show you that I was in that instant stranded. I got my kids to school and I came home and sobbed from 7:30am to 10:30am. Never once taking in any fluids and then the dry heaving began. Life swirls around us but we can't just time-out the recovery. I'm doing my nest to rehydrate now and make some sort of plan of how I am going to avoid conflict tonight. So far I have a friend coming with me to help pick up my boys.

If your husband can't control his outbursts he should leave the house..

He is damaging two young children by saying these things more than you can just see at the moment it's said..

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I do see the gravity of his actions. 90% of the time he is an amazing father and husband. In the last year something has changed in him. He sought therapy for himself but he just started. I am trying to see if my friend can take the boys for a pizza so I can lay down ground rules with him. He has a place to go of he needs to. Its just hard because I am still physically limited and quite frankly, exhausted. I just wanted to point out how important it is to have a strong person by your side during this process if you can.

LuminousLife, While i don't agree with what you husband did.. and he is getting help!! Do you think that he is scared to death about your surgery, recovery, etc? My dad - when my Mom was sick was horrible, and it was because he couldn't control anything and he didn't know what to do. Just food for thoughts.. Try and take care of you, keep your stress level down.. I know easier said then done.... Good Luck !

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I don't think it has much to do with my procedure. In fact I left our kids with a relative for a week so he had no responsibility. He was enjoying it. Never had a concern about the surgery. I think its just really him coming to grips with the responsibility of parenthood and that he no longer come 1st. It complicates things that we adopted these boys. We have had them since birth though and it was well thought out (or so I thought).

Awww.. Time for dad to grow up!! Be strong, love your boys!!

My husband and I just got into our first big fight since my surgery on 12/4. Ours was due to increased pressure and stress. He stayed with me in the hospital the entire time so we were both exhausted. I hope y'all work everything out!!

Lumious, where have you been? It's been a week - Tell us how you are.

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My husband and I just got into our first big fight since my surgery on 12/4. Ours was due to increased pressure and stress. He stayed with me in the hospital the entire time so we were both exhausted. I hope y'all work everything out!!

Thanks jmckenzie! Misery loves company lol

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