i was not heavy til my late teens

since then my mother has always made an issue of my weight (4 siblings, spouses et al - all average size)

for my b'day mom would always put a candle in a WW cupcake!!!

she would "look me up and down" in reference to my weight

i don't think we should ever blame anyone else for being overweight..........but she sure didn't help

we went clothes shopping today (she's 83)

i can wear a size 4, but truly a 6 fits and feels better

when we were shopping i picked up a pair of pants size 6

she said "hmmmm, don't you think you should try an 8!!!!"

i'm going crazy here

will she ever give me a break??? :ph34r:

thanx for listening to me vent

DOS

12/15/11

235 lbs

5'3

11/13/13

130 bls

GOAL

still 5'3

Mums! They drive us crazy but we do love them.

Nope, she'll never give you a break - but that's ok because you have shown you are in charge of your life and your weight ... and you have lost 105lbs despite her, lol. 105lbs!!!!!

My mum when she heard I had severe arthritis said "oh well, we all get something as we get older"... Grrr! You can't change your mum, but you can choose how to react to her. Just take a deep breath and keep being the good friend you are to everyone on here. We think you are fab!!! x

I've got one of those too, but she's been remarkably supportive so far. It's only a matter of time before a snarky comment pops out, LOL.

Please keep in mind that it has become a habit for your mom to view you as fat and a target... IF that ever does change, it is definitely going to take a while. One thing that you can take with you though: for every negative snarky comment she makes, there are literally hundreds of us out here (me) who are clinging to your words with a renewed spark because your success has been so encouraging. Thanks

Mums! They drive us crazy but we do love them.

yes they are!!!!

and yes we do!!!!!

thanx for your response, and the reminder

kathy

can't change your mum, but you can choose how to react to her.

you are right!!!!!

after 83 years mom won't change (but yes of course i love her)

after almost 60 years - i'll step it up and continue to be the wonderful person you know and love

kathy

I've got one of those too, but she's been remarkably supportive so far.

sounds like many of us have one of "those"

yes, those "snarky" comments, never know what or when to expect???

kathy

become a habit for your mom to view you as fat and a target...

yup, i was always an easy target

my self-confidence has gone out the roof

i thought i was "over" getting upset about her comments

gotta work on it

kathy

My father-in-law must be related to your mother. My surgery date is 11/22. I don't expect any nice comments from him. I know it is hurtful to you. You have succeeded! I'm very happy for you. Right now, I don't think I could fit one leg in a size 6! By reading stories like our, I am hopeful! Thanks for posting.

Kathy you are so tiny.......You mom is stuck with old memories and ways of surviving that are not effective for the skinny you now......Even as we get older, our moms words can cut right to the heart..... You are a success and a hero to many of us, Have a beautiful day.......

I don't expect any nice comments from him

Caroline

heyyyyy - i thought i saw your FIL talking to my mom the other day!!!!

yes, words can cut like a sharp knife, guess we gotta let it roll off my back

but its hard sometimes

good luck on your surgery next friday

speedy recovery

kathy

mom is stuck with old memories

hey girlfriend!!!!!!

nice to see you

wow you are lookin great

you are right about her thoughts from the past, the old me

you are so smart!!!!!!

of course you are - look who you have for a friend!!!!

kathy