People think I am sick!

[jmcguire55 0]

I had the gastric sleeve in May of this year. I have lost 65 pounds and have had a very good experience with my surgery and am very happy with the results. My problem is people don't tell me I look good, they ask me if I am sick as to the reason I have lost weight. This is very upsetting to me. I know my looks have changed, as I have bags under my eyes that make me look tired. Would it kill people to say my you lost weight and look good instead of you look tired are you okay? Just wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences?

[NMJG 1,266]

Jealousy. Post some before and after pix here and you'll get some affirmation.

[KeeWee 470]

Wow, that would bother me tremendously. I mean really...smh. I sure hope I don't experience that but either way, don't let it get you down...YOU know you look good!!!

[LipstickLady 25,682]

I was at a luncheon and I had a lady comment on how much I've lost and then ask if I was losing on purpose. I laughed a bit and told her that I was absolutely losing it on purpose. She then paused, looked at me again and asked if I MEANT to lose weight. (B*tch, please. I was 264 pounds at 5'3". YES. I MEANT to lose weight.)

About ten minutes later, she interrupted my conversation to ask me AGAIN if I was intentionally losing weight. I looked at her, told her that I did NOT have cancer, I did not have a thyroid disorder, I did not have HIV, Addison's, Diabetes, etc. I told her I was sick and tired of being fat and I was LOSING WEIGHT ON PURPOSE and that she could reword her question in any way she wanted, my answer was not going to change.

Shut her up for the rest of the afternoon.

[KeeWee 470]

But my mom wanted me to add her 2 cents..lol

She says, you should always ignore comments made in ignorance. If people don't know you had the surgery they will naturally think your sick or on drugs. She says WLS causes major changes and you can look completely different from month to month. She says don't be offended by their lack of experience with WLS results.

She says when they ask if you're sick, you should ask if they're stupid...well, they're both equally disturbing questions....I "mskeekee01" disagree with this statement..

Mskeekee01 says always smile and always take the high road!!!

[RJ'S/beginning 5,357]

But my mom wanted me to add her 2 cents..lol

She says, you should always ignore comments made in ignorance. If people don't know you had the surgery they will naturally think your sick or on drugs. She says WLS causes major changes and you can look completely different from month to month. She says don't be offended by their lack of experience with WLS results.

She says when they ask if you're sick, you should ask if they're stupid...well, they're both equally disturbing questions....I "mskeekee01" disagree with this statement..

Mskeekee01 says always smile and always take the high road!!!

Thanks for the belly laugh!!! I needed that...Also i always get you look pale...yikes!

[NMJG 1,266]

But my mom wanted me to add her 2 cents..lol

She says, you should always ignore comments made in ignorance. If people don't know you had the surgery they will naturally think your sick or on drugs. She says WLS causes major changes and you can look completely different from month to month. She says don't be offended by their lack of experience with WLS results.

She says when they ask if you're sick, you should ask if they're stupid...well, they're both equally disturbing questions....I "mskeekee01" disagree with this statement..

Mskeekee01 says always smile and always take the high road!!!

I like your mom!

[KeeWee 470]

I know this is off topic but can someone please tell me how to start a topic such as this or start a forum question....I don't know how but I must be overlooking it and have so many questions..Please help!!

[aliekat55 157]

I am getting this nearly every day! I allow them some grace because i lost it quickly. it is hard to reassure them though.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

I know this is off topic but can someone please tell me how to start a topic such as this or start a forum question....I don't know how but I must be overlooking it and have so many questions..Please help!!

Go to the topic heading you want to post under and then click on start new topic.

[KeeWee 470]

I like your mom!

Thanks...me too!! She's keeping me grounded because I have experienced really strong negativity. I was extremely surprised. I thought someone would have related to my happiness but most just said..You don't need it, you can work that off....most don't believe I weigh as much as I say but I just carry it well.

My mom says enough for me to shake them off easily, I told her she's great motivation. She helps me focus on me being healthy and happy and her advice to anyone who doesn't like me changing my life for the better is to tell them..."Kick rocks, you don't pay my insurance!!!!!!" Gotta love her...lol

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

I guess I can believe people can be that rude. Find new friends, new activities!

[DianaE 128]

well I know i understand everyones opinions here but lets say you WERE sick... And they came up to you and said wow, you look great with all the weight you have lost.. And you know you lost it because you were indeed sick, isnt that just as or even more disturbing? I thank them and tell them I lost weight and how I lost it.. I feel better about being honest and dont care if people judge me. No sweat off my back

Edited October 30, 2013 by DianaE

[AvaFern 3,516]

How rude! The few times I have ever thought someone may be losing weight for reasons that were not desired, the absolute last thing I would do would be to ask them if they were sick. That is so unacceptable and really makes me wonder if some people were raised in a cave.

[IpswichPav 6]

My top weight was 314, and at 5'10" it takes 20 pounds for me to drop a clothing size. I am now at 268 but it's not dramatic enough for people to be sure I've lost weight. I did have a friend ask if I've had Botox, which made me (age 45) very happy!

I lost 120 pounds ten years ago and I remember when I got to my goal weight several people saying that they hoped I was going to stop because I was getting too thin. This time I shooting for 15 higher for my goal weight.

They mean well ... I think!