female only Why why me?

[paigelarson89 19]

Sitting in the bathroom crying. I'm not a crying person. Emotional + caring yeah but crying me wow!!! I'm actually hurting. I didn't realized I had feelings. For the 1st time in my life I'm not getting my way. I was a teenager when I got married. I learn everything from working to cooking to cleaning. I thought I was the perfect wife.

Omg! I wasted my life. Have 3 kids. Always depended on him to take care of me. Yeah I went to school & had a great job. He promise to take care of me forever. I believe it. I was a teenager. I went into the 20's now I'm in the 30's... I could have done better with my life. The only thing I love are my kids. I have to be the world most dump stupid woman. Now I feel like a Total jerk. God must have other plans for me.

I had an aunt that had the lap band and left him after she lost her weight, and I think, women in your shoes aren't horrible, but being overweight I think we think that he is the only guy that loves me and so you marry him, but when you realize it wasn't a health relationship, thats when its time to make a change and do it for yourself. I think marriage can turn into a problem when before you might of needed his help, and he feels like you don't need him. I would suggest sitting down with your husband and bring up your concerns and let him give you feed back and let him bring his concerns to you, and try to find something that would work for both of you.

[MalyssaSue 65]

I feel the same way you do Mami. I cry about once a month but can't get out of my living situation cause I don't make enough to be on my own but to much to get any help. My daughter should be out of daycare in the fall plan on putting all that money away and be able to start over again.

[TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280]

I had an aunt that had the lap band and left him after she lost her weight' date=' and I think, women in your shoes aren't horrible, but being overweight I think we think that he is the only guy that loves me and so you marry him, but when you realize it wasn't a health relationship, thats when its time to make a change and do it for yourself. I think marriage can turn into a problem when before you might of needed his help, and he feels like you don't need him. I would suggest sitting down with your husband and bring up your concerns and let him give you feed back and let him bring his concerns to you, and try to find something that would work for both of you.[/quote']

I will have a talk with him

[TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280]

I feel the same way you do Mami. I cry about once a month but can't get out of my living situation cause I don't make enough to be on my own but to much to get any help. My daughter should be out of daycare in the fall plan on putting all that money away and be able to start over again.

Good luck to you it's very hard. The government is nuts. If you have one dollar extra you get no help.